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Turkish Men!
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19 Nov 2005 Sat 08:30 pm |
How can you really tell if a Turkish guy is serious about you? I am no fool, and I know they sometimes try to get girls from other countries to marry them, or to move to their country but are they ALL like that? They certainly seem to "fall in love" very quickly! One minute you are chatting to him, thinking you quite fancy them and the next, they are proposing! Are they all as bad as people say, or is it just their culture?
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19 Nov 2005 Sat 08:34 pm |
Quoting Chris123: How can you really tell if a Turkish guy is serious about you? I am no fool, and I know they sometimes try to get girls from other countries to marry them, or to move to their country but are they ALL like that? They certainly seem to "fall in love" very quickly! One minute you are chatting to him, thinking you quite fancy them and the next, they are proposing! Are they all as bad as people say, or is it just their culture? |
it is not about culture..
it is about personality..
not quickly i guess.. by the time is more suitable
and bad guys could be everyweherre in turkey too but that does not mean every turkish guy is bad..!!!!
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19 Nov 2005 Sat 08:44 pm |
No, I don't mean they are all bad, but in England it may be years before they will admit they love you!! In Turkey they tell you very soon after you meet them. Is it because "seni seviyorum" means something more like passion rather than "in love"?
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19 Nov 2005 Sat 08:58 pm |
Quoting Chris123: No, I don't mean they are all bad, but in England it may be years before they will admit they love you!! In Turkey they tell you very soon after you meet them. Is it because "seni seviyorum" means something more like passion rather than "in love"? |
What??? In England it's difficult for a man to admit that he loves you??
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19 Nov 2005 Sat 09:58 pm |
In England the men only tell you they love you, if they intend marrying you. They may really feel they do, but will only commit themselves verbally, for marriage.
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19 Nov 2005 Sat 10:11 pm |
Quoting Angela: In England the men only tell you they love you, if they intend marrying you. They may really feel they do, but will only commit themselves verbally, for marriage.
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Yeah England, weird country
Wouldn't it be nice if men came with instructions for use? Of course, if you get your man from Turkey, or you get him from the UK, the instructions may differ! So be careful!
Seriously, this discussion will never go anywhere and can never end.
And yes, I know and realize: men reading this will think that it would be so much easier if women came with instructions for use as well. I totally agree
Elisa
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19 Nov 2005 Sat 10:17 pm |
Elisa is right
by the way most of the Turkish men are not serious when they say that they love you. They sometimes just say it to make the others happy or in order to be able to do whatever he wishes to reach
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19 Nov 2005 Sat 10:21 pm |
english men like most men they say i love you usually just before they get you in thier bed sorry to have this negative attitude, i know that there are many men out there that arnt like this and this is coming from someone who has been married to the SAMEguy for 22 years
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19 Nov 2005 Sat 11:19 pm |
Deli: you are quite right: some have ulterior motives. Instinct and compulsion play an important role.
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 12:25 am |
It is very nice to be told you are loved ultimately, passionately and feeling so cared for.
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 07:09 am |
Quoting Chris123: One minute you are chatting to him, thinking you quite fancy them and the next, they are proposing! |
Ohhh, I get that all the time on MSN! It was quite flattering at first; now it's just darn annoying! But I've found that not only Turks do it - eg I've had a Moroccan and a Qatari (funny; they all seem to be Muslim...) propose after 5 mins' chatting - but it IS mostly the Turks. I don't mean to generalise; that's just my own personal experience.
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 12:23 pm |
FOREIGN GIRLS BEWARE !
Next time a Turkısh guy tells you "I love you", make sure his complete English vocabulary is not limited to just those three words.
Poor chap may only be trying to make some polite conversation...
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 12:29 pm |
Yes, they generally start from "You are beautiful" or "I love you". And often these are the only words the know in English...
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 12:45 pm |
Seticio,
When it comes to talking, Turkish men know where to stop. Shakespeare wrote volumes after volumes of books on "beauty" and "love". do you think he said more?
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 12:46 pm |
I wouldn't be sure if Turkish men know where to stop he he
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 01:09 pm |
so maybe the misunderstanding is a problem
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 01:13 pm |
absolutely this becoz of cultural difference i guess.. or not completely cultural personal in minds.. but ppl can feel the warmth of that words if it said from inside or just being said... isnt it so?
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 01:28 pm |
I have said this before in one of these type of discussions. There is a fundamental difference between what a Turkish guy means when he says 'I love you' to what European girls imagine this means. There is a definite cultural issue here.
Girls, remember that a Turkish boys and girls can marry without knowing all that much about each other. (Please feel free to disagree with what, after all is a pretty sweeping generalisation.) I think that Seticio once desicribed marriage in Turkey as something more of a contractual relationship. Boy meets girl, likes what he sees, girl likes boy. Girls family happy with boys prospects, everyone decides they should marry Voila! They marry. Often they don't even know each other intimately (we have seen numerous posts that turkish boys like to marry virgins!)before they marry. Certain cultural 'duties' are recognised as belonging to each partner. Girl does everything she 'should' do. Cleans, cooks, works (if she has to), has babies, looks after husband, does as she is told. In return, she expects all his money, everything she wants for her house and self and to be closely guarded and cherished. It does not necessarily mean she expects fidelity, she just doesn't want to know about it, nor have anyone else find out if her husband is unfaithful. Love grows...but if it doesn't, well the 'duties' and 'appearances' are what is more important. (it seems to me and from my experiences and observations).
European girls expect a different kind of 'love' - to them it means committment that comes from the heart, not just a duty, it means the prospects of spending the rest of their life with the person they love and who has said that they love them. It means fidelity, shared happiness and all the other things that we have read about in the posts that mean 'love' to different people.
So when a Turkish boy says he 'loves' you, he means that you have made him happy, that he 'loves' to be with you when you are near him or in contact with him. It means he is grateful for the sex (because he wont get it from anyone he is likely to marry ie Turkish girls and if he did, he probably wouldn't want to marry her). Obviously this doesn't apply to every single person. It is a generalisation, but I think it is true and overall it he means just what i have said above. Its about a different understanding of the future expectations of 'love' that cause all the problems. I don't think we should think all turkish boys are feckless Lotharios, who use the word 'love' to get what they want either. I really believe that there is a very strong cultural difference in what it means and what the future expectations from each person after a declaration of love has been made.
i have heard Turkish boys/men say that you should 'love' your husband, merely because he is your husband. You can judge for yourself, their misunderstandings about this.
Did I talk too much? I think I am right about this. What do others think?
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 02:02 pm |
Lyndie: very well explained, I don't think anyone could put it any better. I understood all this from listening and asking questions from a lot of boys about their families and marriage.
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 02:32 pm |
Hi Lyndie!
I think that your analyse is very correct. I don´t have much experience in the field but from what I have seen and heard I think that you are right.
There is a cultural difference in the interpretation of "I love you" and I think that it was really good that you wrote it in here, since it will be read by many that experience this today with their "love".
Best regards
/Aslan
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 02:36 pm |
actually... i haev never really thought about it like that before... and i do actually think that ur right!
i have learnt (in my few mere years of being on this planet!) that turkish guyz say "i love u" a lot... and very quickly too! i think that what u are saying might explain this...
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 05:06 pm |
Lyndie's post answer's my question. I don't believe that there is any harm in saying it more often, or sooner! I agree, it is lovely to enjoy the moment. I do worry, though, that young girls truly believe they are in love with them.
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 05:27 pm |
Well Chris, it is true that young girls believe this. There are hundreds of posts on this site from girls (and older!) who want to know if their turkish bf 'loves' them really. I moderate these particular forums and its pretty heartbreaking to see the posts.
Turkish guys are charming, handsome and silver tongued. they also treat girls in a way they are not used to in England particularly. They are so romantic and make the girls feel like special princesses. Too many girls don't understand what is meant by 'I love you' in this context. When they go home, their turkish bf's will be saying the same things to the next girl that comes on holiday.
I know many many turkish boys and have spoken to them about this. They easily fall in love. (or their own perception of what love is), they easily say it (and believe it when they say it)and for them it is perfectly natural to fall in love with a new person every couple of weeks. They are generous with their emotions and attention. It is just a pity that those impressionable young girls don't understand what it all means. Love is a pretty complex thing for most people in their lifetimes within their own cultures, it is a sad fact i think that young girls going to turkey don't really stand a chance of understanding their own feelings let alone the feelings of boys from another culture.
Ahhhh young love heh? Who understand it anyway.
come to think of it, is it so bad the way they do things in Turkey. Who knows how long love will last whether it is 'true' love in the European sense, or 'passing' love in the turkish boy sense. You can marry someone from your own culture, believe they love you and within a few years they treat you like dirt, run around with every other girl they see, drink too much and beat you!
Maybe a husband who treats you well because its his 'duty' is better? Well of course not, because that only works if your husband wherever he comes from plays by the rules. If he doesn't then you are no better off!
Life is complicated anyway and then there are turkish boys.........
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 05:39 pm |
I agree with Lyndie on a lot, but at the same time, I also believe there are Turkish boys who actually do love their English etc girlfriends. A Turkish male friend of mine is getting married to an English woman and I can see their love is sincere. I don't think it's fair to say that all women 'think' they are in love with these men, as sometimes they can fall in love with them, just as they could fall in love with any man they meet anywhere on this earth. I also do think that it is possible that Turkish men can and do fall for some of these women. It's a shame reading on other sites though that some women go over to Turkey and other countries for sex, and this gives us a bad reputation. I am a believer that you can never know any situation, and I do believe that Turkish men and non-Turkish women CAN have a loving relationship...It may be difficult with a lot of obstacles to overcome and a lot of trust and time needed, but it is possible to get there in some cases.
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 05:45 pm |
Kay, yes of course you are right. I said earlier that this was quite a generalisation. There are of course many Tuk/UK/European couples who have made good relationships. The idea of the post was to explain the differences between the belief in what 'love' is.
Many Turk/Turk marriages, that start out on a contractual basis also turn into lasting enduring love and affection (in our European 'sense' of the word). Relationships are the same everywhere, its just that in some cultures they start out on a different basis.
And of course testosterone is a potent driving force in any society
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 06:14 pm |
Hi lyndie
I couldnt agree more with what your saying i would just like to think that there are some turkish men who are faithful and dont want to run around cheating on their english girlfriends.All i know is that i have yet to find one and i know what i am talking about!
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 06:27 pm |
Hi Sera,
I don't think the boys really see themselves as 'cheating' on their English gf's at all. I know a boy who was engaged to be married to someone in Europe. Offf he loved her so much. He told me once that even when she was in the room with him, he would miss her, just thinking about when she left. He was never faithfull to her when she went back home, but he couldn't see that he wasn't faithful. He said he 'loved' her and that was all that mattered, when they were together he would be faithful and when they were apart, he would do what he liked. Bless him, he really couldn't understand why this was so strange.
He just didn't see it as cheating! She of course had other ideas and she dumped his a***. His whole world fell apart! He couldn't understand it. Even 1 year later he still says he 'loves' her.
Again, just as there is a difference betweent he meaning of love, I think the concept of fidelity is also different.
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 09:52 pm |
Hi Lyndie,
I think there may be some truth in what your saying.I have lots and lots of guy friends in Turkey and i talk to them about their english gf's.They say they love them or at least 1 or 2 of their gf's anyway but they go around sleeping with other women.As you say quite rightly english girls would consider that cheating as the girl did that you refer to in your pervious post.When i talk to my friends about this they say things like ''oh no it doesnt matter,its only sex for me'' Like they can some how separate their loving relationship from casual sex with random girls whom they find attractive.
I Mean i speak from experience i went out with a turkish guy for 2 years and i thought we were doing ok but then i started to hear things from different girls online about him going with other people and those girls had also been told they were were his only one and there were no others.I confronted him about this naturally and he denied all knowledge of these girls told me that i was to ignore all the messages on the net because these girls were ''jealous'' and ''wanted to break us up'' so being naive i went along with this for a little while.Then the messages about his ''infidelity'' came thicker and faster i began to think maybe i was being majorly played.I asked him about it again,he told me if i couldnt trust him then we would be finished.Thinking back on it now it makes me laugh how he thought he could get away with making me look like the guilty party when i wasnt at all.Anyways we broke up about 4 months later and that was about a year and a half ago.I have found out since then that he is married to a kurdish woman they have a 3 year old son together which would mean she had the child when i was supposedly in a relationship with him.So as well as keeping his poor wife in the dark it looks like there were 5 maybe more english women whom he regularly went with and to the best of my knowledge his wife still is non the wiser.Worst of all i am very very good friends with all his brothers and they knew what was happening but didnt say a word!
This shows me that they certainly do have differing concepts of love and fidelity i just hope that nobody else experiences the full impact of those differences to the extent that i did.
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 10:21 pm |
ok everyone... i cant even believe that we are going into this much depth about the words "i love you".. "seni seviyorum" whatever.. surely we shouldnt believe it until they actually prove it anyway ha?
o dear... what a mess
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 10:22 pm |
"Come to think of it, is it so bad the way they do things in Turkey. Who knows how long love will last whether it is 'true' love in the European sense, or 'passing' love in the turkish boy sense. You can marry someone from your own culture, believe they love you and within a few years they treat you like dirt, run around with every other girl they see, drink too much and beat you!"
Lyndie this is SO true! I believe that these men can feel 'passing love' and really mean it. Is that not one of the best times in love? That excitement of being attracted to someone, getting to know them better, when everything is new. It is a joy and should be enjoyed. Young girls should also enjoy this too and not be so quick to whine and complain and suffocate their boyfriends - perhaps then they would find the boyfriends stay around longer anyway!
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 10:23 pm |
and to add to all of this.. isnt "love" different for every individual??
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 10:33 pm |
ceyda i dont agree with you....and as ceyda as.......
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 10:36 pm |
Quoting ramayan: ceyda i dont agree with you....and as ceyda as....... |
yaw başlama lan... alalala bana nasıl katılamazsin ki ha... haklı deil miyim....?
bak yine kızdırdın bni yineee!!!
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 10:45 pm |
Oh there they go again! Fighting online as always our TC site'love birds'
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20 Nov 2005 Sun 10:47 pm |
Quoting Lyndie: Oh there they go again! Fighting online as always our TC site'love birds' |
ooo really?? i dont think so some how.. i think ill pass on that one.. hes instigating me.. u know that... as... omg
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29 Nov 2005 Tue 03:49 am |
u know this is the world's law ... everytime women expect men to prove sth. and in this topic it seems so, tooo
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29 Nov 2005 Tue 09:46 am |
my b/f doesnt have to prove anything to me because i know he loves me.
and on one of the earlier posts it said they want girls from other countries to move to turkeyor to marry them
my bf wants me to move to turkey with him but i have always wanted to move to turkey so even if i had never met him i would still try to move to turkey
i am a girl who knows what she wants
if i ever got married to him i will still go out with my friends i will still have my freedom but i would be a very good wife to him. and i dont mind who does the house work,
because its not really important.
take care ppl
bye
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14 Feb 2008 Thu 10:21 am |
Anybody interested in this topic again?
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14 Feb 2008 Thu 10:25 am |
Quoting catwoman: Anybody interested in this topic again? |
Oh why not??!?!?! It's Valentine's Day and soon TLC will be flooded with sweet words of adoration and love to be translated into Turkish for all the in-love yet communicationless couples. OH!!!!! I can't wait!
OH by the way...Happy Valentine's Day to everyone! *no translation required!*
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14 Feb 2008 Thu 10:27 am |
Quoting Capoeira: OH by the way...Happy Valentine's Day to everyone! *no translation required!* |
Valentine's Gunu kutlu olsun
I know you didn't ask, but just in case someone needs....
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14 Feb 2008 Thu 02:05 pm |
Quoting Chris123: How can you really tell if a Turkish guy is serious about you? I am no fool, and I know they sometimes try to get girls from other countries to marry them, or to move to their country but are they ALL like that? They certainly seem to "fall in love" very quickly! One minute you are chatting to him, thinking you quite fancy them and the next, they are proposing! Are they all as bad as people say, or is it just their culture? |
don't you know Turkish men allien??such a pity
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14 Feb 2008 Thu 03:40 pm |
Quoting MrX67: Quoting Chris123: How can you really tell if a Turkish guy is serious about you? I am no fool, and I know they sometimes try to get girls from other countries to marry them, or to move to their country but are they ALL like that? They certainly seem to 'fall in love' very quickly! One minute you are chatting to him, thinking you quite fancy them and the next, they are proposing! Are they all as bad as people say, or is it just their culture? |
don't you know Turkish men allien??such a pity |
She probably married him and has a couple of babies by now.
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14 Feb 2008 Thu 04:38 pm |
Quoting MrX67: Quoting Chris123: How can you really tell if a Turkish guy is serious about you? I am no fool, and I know they sometimes try to get girls from other countries to marry them, or to move to their country but are they ALL like that? They certainly seem to "fall in love" very quickly! One minute you are chatting to him, thinking you quite fancy them and the next, they are proposing! Are they all as bad as people say, or is it just their culture? |
don't you know Turkish men allien??such a pity |
MrX...if Turkish men were aliens, at least that would explain Handsom's hair!!
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14 Feb 2008 Thu 04:50 pm |
God Bless all you girls
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14 Feb 2008 Thu 05:32 pm |
Quoting MrX67: God Bless all you girls |
yeah...with a lollipop
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aVtk7mIEfg8
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14 Feb 2008 Thu 05:35 pm |
Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting MrX67: God Bless all you girls |
yeah...with a lollipop
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aVtk7mIEfg8 |
you like it???
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14 Feb 2008 Thu 05:38 pm |
Quoting MrX67: Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting MrX67: God Bless all you girls |
yeah...with a lollipop
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aVtk7mIEfg8 |
you like it??? |
who said i do???? I just joined your kidding mood...
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14 Feb 2008 Thu 05:40 pm |
Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting MrX67: Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting MrX67: God Bless all you girls |
yeah...with a lollipop
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aVtk7mIEfg8 |
you like it??? |
who said i do???? I just joined your kidding mood... |
oooo then welcome to kindergarden
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14 Feb 2008 Thu 05:42 pm |
Quoting MrX67: Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting MrX67: God Bless all you girls |
yeah...with a lollipop
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aVtk7mIEfg8 |
you like it??? |
ok MrX...i hope you won´t complain
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RQUhLEGmDwA
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14 Feb 2008 Thu 05:45 pm |
Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting MrX67: Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting MrX67: God Bless all you girls |
yeah...with a lollipop
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aVtk7mIEfg8 |
you like it??? |
ok MrX...i hope you won´t complain
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RQUhLEGmDwA |
how about that?>>>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pKtVDgjPiFQ
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14 Feb 2008 Thu 05:50 pm |
Quoting MrX67: Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting MrX67: Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting MrX67: God Bless all you girls |
yeah...with a lollipop
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aVtk7mIEfg8 |
you like it??? |
ok MrX...i hope you won´t complain
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RQUhLEGmDwA |
how about that?>>>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pKtVDgjPiFQ |
is he kindergarten teacher???his dance is not shakira´s...but this hadi,hadi is definately better for blessing....don´t you think that a diet would be perfect???
but thank you..i cried out with a laughter...
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14 Feb 2008 Thu 05:52 pm |
Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting MrX67: Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting MrX67: Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting MrX67: God Bless all you girls |
yeah...with a lollipop
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aVtk7mIEfg8 |
you like it??? |
ok MrX...i hope you won´t complain
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RQUhLEGmDwA |
how about that?>>>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pKtVDgjPiFQ |
is he kindergarten teacher???his dance is not shakira´s...but this hadi,hadi is definately better for blessing....don´t you think that a diet would be perfect???
but thank you..i cried out with a laughter... |
hes the one of shining star of Turkish art stagesGod Bless him to..
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14 Feb 2008 Thu 05:56 pm |
Quoting MrX67: Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting MrX67: Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting MrX67: Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting MrX67: God Bless all you girls |
yeah...with a lollipop
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aVtk7mIEfg8 |
you like it??? |
ok MrX...i hope you won´t complain
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RQUhLEGmDwA |
how about that?>>>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pKtVDgjPiFQ |
is he kindergarten teacher???his dance is not shakira´s...but this hadi,hadi is definately better for blessing....don´t you think that a diet would be perfect???
but thank you..i cried out with a laughter... |
hes the one of shining star of Turkish art stagesGod Bless him to.. |
oh yes,he shines...struck by this light...must cure my blindness c´ya
kolay gelsin...
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14 Feb 2008 Thu 05:58 pm |
Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting MrX67: Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting MrX67: Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting MrX67: Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting MrX67: God Bless all you girls |
yeah...with a lollipop
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aVtk7mIEfg8 |
you like it??? |
ok MrX...i hope you won´t complain
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RQUhLEGmDwA |
how about that?>>>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pKtVDgjPiFQ |
is he kindergarten teacher???his dance is not shakira´s...but this hadi,hadi is definately better for blessing....don´t you think that a diet would be perfect???
but thank you..i cried out with a laughter... |
hes the one of shining star of Turkish art stagesGod Bless him to.. |
oh yes,he shines...struck by this light...must cure my blindness c´ya
kolay gelsin...
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no no,don't run wait and see this one more blessed and artfull>>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8c3YRPGppPM
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 12:57 am |
i have just uploaded the latest pics of TURKISH MEN
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 01:00 am |
Quoting femme_fatal: i have just uploaded the latest pics of TURKISH MEN
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 03:49 am |
Quoting femme_fatal: i have just uploaded the latest pics of TURKISH MEN
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where?
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 04:24 pm |
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 04:30 pm |
Quoting MrX67: Turkish men on Ukraine conguest>>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F44ALNDWrGU |
Is a prostitute a "conquest"? I thought it was a "done deal" for men who are unable to get a partner in the normal way ...
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 04:34 pm |
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 04:36 pm |
It is pretty disgusting to watch though. Are all these men single then? Or not muslim perhaps?
Also, I wonder if you would find it so funny if the video was about a coach party of women being instructed on how to find a man for sex...
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 04:37 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: It is pretty disgusting to watch though. Are all these men single then? Or not muslim perhaps?
Also, I wonder if you would find it so funny if the video was about a coach party of women being instructed on how to find a man for sex... |
you r a strong feminist really,congrats
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 04:42 pm |
I think it must be a "cultural" thing MrX67. This has nothing to do with my being (or not being) a feminist. This is pretty disgusting to most people in my own country I think. Maybe prostitution is more common in Turkey, but frankly I would never touch anyone with a barge pole who has had sex with a prostitute - for many reasons.
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 04:44 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting MrX67: Quoting AEnigma III: It is pretty disgusting to watch though. Are all these men single then? Or not muslim perhaps?
I think it must be a "cultural" thing MrX67. This has nothing to do with my being (or not being) a feminist. This is pretty disgusting to most people in my own country I think. Maybe prostitution is more common in Turkey, but frankly I would never touch anyone with a barge pole who has had sex with a prostitute - for many reasons. |
but i think you forget one of side of this dirty game a girl or woman,isn't it? |
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 04:47 pm |
Quoting MrX67: but i think you forget one of side of this dirty game a girl or woman,isn't it? |
People on this site never cease to amaze me.
Do you think the women are the ones making money from prostitution MrX?
And... please tell me what is the funny part of your video?
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 04:49 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting MrX67: but i think you forget one of side of this dirty game a girl or woman,isn't it? |
People on this site never cease to amaze me.
Do you think the women are the ones making money from prostitution MrX?
And... please tell me what is the funny part of your video? |
ok i deleted video,and really sorry if i made a mistake by don't be aware of em and i believe innocence of females with my all heart,ok??
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 05:06 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: I think it must be a "cultural" thing MrX67. This has nothing to do with my being (or not being) a feminist. This is pretty disgusting to most people in my own country I think. Maybe prostitution is more common in Turkey, but frankly I would never touch anyone with a barge pole who has had sex with a prostitute - for many reasons. |
Prostution a reality of all world not only Turkey and who said you thats common in Turkey,may i made a mistake but now you making a bigger then mine??
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 05:09 pm |
Quoting MrX67: Prostution a reality of all world not only Turkey and who said you thats common in Turkey,may i made a mistake but now you making a bigger then mine?? |
Sadly yes, it is universal. However, you misunderstood my comments. Going to a prostitute is not something that any "normal", educated, average man would do in the UK. It is something only social outcasts do. That is why I found your video quite shocking...
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 05:12 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting MrX67: Prostution a reality of all world not only Turkey and who said you thats common in Turkey,may i made a mistake but now you making a bigger then mine?? |
Sadly yes, it is universal. However, you misunderstood my comments. Going to a prostitute is not something that any "normal", educated, average man would do in the UK. It is something only social outcasts do. That is why I found your video quite shocking... |
and i didn't send it to show as its common thing for Turkish men to,but pity still miilions people shooping on this dirty market with many reasons...
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 05:19 pm |
Here is a good example of why so many people complain about immigrants in my country now.
Human traffiking for prostitution in the UK is almost entirely managed by immigrants.
http://www.uri.edu/artsci/wms/hughes/uk.htm
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 05:21 pm |
Turkey has the "honour" of having one of the highest rates of human trafficing from the Ukraine and Russia.
http://www.uri.edu/artsci/wms/hughes/turkey.htm
Note: Sorry these figures are so out of date. They are much higher now of course. I dont have time to search for the current figures at this time.
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 05:24 pm |
When you have read these, please amend your statement about this industry having "two dirty sides".
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 05:27 pm |
Quoting MrX67: and i didn't send it to show as its common thing for Turkish men |
But Mrx67, It is a common thing in Turkey.
And it is the truth!!
I really think that 'less lies we live with is better' for us.
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 05:28 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Turkey has the "honour" of having one of the highest rates of human trafficing from the Ukraine and Russia.
http://www.uri.edu/artsci/wms/hughes/turkey.htm
Note: Sorry these figures are so out of date. They are much higher now of course. I dont have time to search for the current figures at this time.
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seems Uk not all innocent about that to????http://www.uri.edu/artsci/wms/hughes/uk.htm thats not matter of this or that country,thats matter of all world as the reflection of bad education and bad economical conditions beside other factors...
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 05:32 pm |
Quoting MrX67: seems Uk not all innocent about that to????http://www.uri.edu/artsci/wms/hughes/uk.htm |
That is the link I posted FIRST MrX - did you miss it?
Please also note that the trafficking is done almost ENTIRELY by immigrants.
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 05:34 pm |
Quoting thehandsom: Quoting MrX67: and i didn't send it to show as its common thing for Turkish men |
But Mrx67, It is a common thing in Turkey.
And it is the truth!!
I really think that 'less lies we live with is better' for us.
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 05:37 pm |
Quoting MrX67: thats not matter of this or that country,thats matter of all world as the reflection of bad education and bad economical conditions beside other factors... |
So we just accept it? Every time a man visits a prostitute he funds organised crime and supports a sick industry which makes millionaires out of the biggest scum on this earth, not to mention, supports an industry which exploits women, abducts them from their homes and families and sells them like slaves for MEN LIKE YOU.
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 05:38 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting MrX67: seems Uk not all innocent about that to????http://www.uri.edu/artsci/wms/hughes/uk.htm |
That is the link I posted FIRST MrX - did you miss it?
Please also note that the trafficking is done almost ENTIRELY by immigrants. |
if only your ancestors could be thinkfull all when they were exploiting to which you don't like or despising places
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 05:40 pm |
Quoting MrX67: if only your ancestors could be thinkfull all when they were exploiting to places which you don't like or despising places |
I thought you were more intelligent than to resort to using "history" as your defence. Shall I start quoting "history" at you or can we talk about this matter, that is happening HERE and NOW?
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 05:42 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting MrX67: thats not matter of this or that country,thats matter of all world as the reflection of bad education and bad economical conditions beside other factors... |
So we just accept it? Every time a man visits a prostitute he funds organised crime and supports a sick industry which makes millionaires out of the biggest scum on this earth, not to mention, supports an industry which exploits women, abducts them from their homes and families and sells them like slaves for MEN LIKE YOU. |
thx you really very kind Aenigma
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 05:43 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Here is a good example of why so many people complain about immigrants in my country now.
Human traffiking for prostitution in the UK is almost entirely managed by immigrants
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I think this is a bit misleading.
Because as long as there is a market for it, i think, there will be always pimps. If there were not immigrants managing this traffic, there would be british doing it.
I think, immigrants have been more aggressive about it and also they might have easy connections to the other countries.
As I said, as long as there is a market, it is a dirty job but somebody has to do it unfortunately.
The real challenge is to get rid of that market.
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 05:43 pm |
Quoting MrX67: thx you really very kind Aenigma |
I wish men were kinder...
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 05:43 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting MrX67: if only your ancestors could be thinkfull all when they were exploiting to places which you don't like or despising places |
I thought you were more intelligent than to resort to using "history" as your defence. Shall I start quoting "history" at you or can we talk about this matter, that is happening HERE and NOW? |
go ahead Mss library
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 05:45 pm |
Quoting thehandsom: Quoting AEnigma III: Here is a good example of why so many people complain about immigrants in my country now.
Human traffiking for prostitution in the UK is almost entirely managed by immigrants
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I think this is a bit misleading.
Because as long as there is market for it, i think, there will be always pimps. If there were not immigrants managing this traffic, there would be british doing it.
I think, immigrants have been more aggressive about it and also they might have easy connections to the other countries.
As I said, as long as there is market, it is a dirty job but somebody has to do it unfortunately.
The real challenge is to get rid of that market. |
+100000.....
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 05:45 pm |
Quoting thehandsom: Quoting AEnigma III: Here is a good example of why so many people complain about immigrants in my country now.
Human traffiking for prostitution in the UK is almost entirely managed by immigrants
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I think this is a bit misleading.
Because as long as there is market for it, i think, there will be always pimps. If there were not immigrants managing this traffic, there would be british doing it.
I think, immigrants have been more aggressive about it and also they might have easy connections to the other countries.
As I said, as long as there is market, it is a dirty job but somebody has to do it unfortunately.
The real challenge is to get rid of that market. |
Handsom I am not talking about prostitution as much as trafficking. Yes of course we have always had British prostitutes. However, you will find that human trafficking is unique to organised crime organisations from eastern europe, asia, china and south america.
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 05:47 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting MrX67: thx you really very kind Aenigma |
I wish men were kinder... |
pity thats opposite of nature rules
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 05:48 pm |
Quoting thehandsom: The real challenge is to get rid of that market. |
It will never happen. This is an industry where men make money and men have sex, therefore both parties will never give it up.
If you men MUST pay for sex, at least make sure that you are dealing ONLY with a women who will make money (and not have to pay "commission" to another man) not supporting a sex slave industry.
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 05:53 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting thehandsom: The real challenge is to get rid of that market. |
It will never happen. This is an industry where men make money and men have sex, therefore both parties will never give it up.
If you men MUST pay for sex, at least make sure that you are dealing ONLY with a women who will make money (and not have to pay "commission" to another man, not supporting a sex slave industry. |
I agree with you entirely..
As long as we, men, paying for sex, that market will be out there, so as all those sex slaves and trafficking.
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 06:10 pm |
aenigma,
congrats, very good points!
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 06:10 pm |
Quoting thehandsom:
I agree with you entirely..
As long as we, men, paying for sex, that market will be out there, so as all those sex slaves and trafficking. |
finally!
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 07:47 pm |
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 07:49 pm |
Quoting elibrody: Plese girls don't act so naive, there are woman that pay for sex too
It's business I'm surprised you capitalist are agaisnt it.
It's not the best business ever but trust me prostitutes do not complain about the money they get |
Elibrody this is the most ill-informed post I think I ever saw on this website.
Do you know anything about the subject. You think prostitutes get rich? Do you have any idea of the millions of pounds that organised crime make from prostitution or do you have any knowledge about human trafficking and sex-slave industry.
You do no favours to victims of this industry. Shame on you.
You know, nothing much makes me angry on this site - but your post makes me FUME with anger. Naive? Take a look in the mirror you silly girl.
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 07:54 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting elibrody: Plese girls don't act so naive, there are woman that pay for sex too
It's business I'm surprised you capitalist are agaisnt it.
It's not the best business ever but trust me prostitutes do not complain about the money they get |
Elibrody this is the most ill-informed post I think I ever saw on this website.
Do you know anything about the subject. You think prostitutes get rich? Do you have any idea of the millions of pounds that organised crime make from prostitution or do you have any knowledge about human trafficking and sex-slave industry.
You do no favours to victims of this industry. Shame on you. |
she knows about wallmarts invading her holy country, but she doesnt see that loads of women from her country are enslaved into prostitution.
but important is to underline (to her mind) that poor men also are used as prostitutes.
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 07:55 pm |
Quoting elibrody: Plese girls don't act so naive, there are woman that pay for sex too
It's business I'm surprised you capitalist are agaisnt it.
It's not the best business ever but trust me prostitutes do not complain about the money they get |
your posts remind me those of peace train and very much alamedas.
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 10:03 pm |
Quoting elibrody: It's business I'm surprised you capitalist are agaisnt it.
It's not the best business ever but trust me prostitutes do not complain about the money they get |
Oh my gosh!! I just cant believe this!!
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15 Feb 2008 Fri 10:12 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: If you men MUST pay for sex, at least make sure that you are dealing ONLY with a women who will make money (and not have to pay 'commission' to another man) not supporting a sex slave industry. |
Besides all this terrible situation, lets not forget that many of the ones who pay for sex are selfish married men. Who not only are unfaithful but they also infect with wives with all kind of venereal diseases yiiiaak!
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 12:29 am |
Quoting elibrody: Plese girls don't act so naive, there are woman that pay for sex too
It's business I'm surprised you capitalist are agaisnt it.
It's not the best business ever but trust me prostitutes do not complain about the money they get |
SPEECHLESSSS !
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 01:28 am |
Quoting AEnigma III:
Elibrody this is the most ill-informed post I think I ever saw on this website.
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İ remember,i've read a post of you Elibrody,and i've agreed with it,BUT THİS ?!!!!!
İ dont disagree its industry in some places unfortunately
And i dont disagree its not only about women too.
But in ALL cases it is PATHETİC by ALL means,by ALL ways too !
Drugs is industry too ''for some at least''
So should we be with it and encourage it too ?!
Quoting AEnigma III:
your post makes me FUME with anger. Naive? Take a look in the mirror you silly girl. |
AGAİN +10000000000000000000
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 01:32 am |
ok sorry for my post apparently noone understood it but I really can't explain it anyway I'm sorry I appear as the worse person in the site right now
Have a happy day
And remember this is about turkish man
And forgive forget and smile best thing ever I swear
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 01:40 am |
I just like to add here that if my wife Nesrin chose a Turkish man I would probably never ever met her in the first instance I am very pleased she chose to follow her heart when we first conversed.
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 01:43 am |
Quoting adonis: AND YOU AENIGMA, STOP THE SILLY FIGHT!!! THAT'S ENOUGH!!! |
By "silly fight" you mean the post I wrote hours ago? The only one perpetuating this is you and elibrody
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 01:46 am |
Quoting adonis: KEEP AWAY FROM ELIBRODY, AND MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS NOW. YOU DEGENERATED, EXPLOITED AND IGNORANT FAKE MUSLIM!!! |
Canli, I think the only way to reply to this is silence
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 01:48 am |
Quoting Loveprague: I just like to add here that if my wife Nesrin chose a Turkish man I would probably never ever met her in the first instance I am very pleased she chose to follow her heart when we first conversed. |
wow..You are a really good man Loveprague.. I am very pleased one of the girls from my country had a good catch
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 01:53 am |
Quoting thehandsom: Quoting Loveprague: I just like to add here that if my wife Nesrin chose a Turkish man I would probably never ever met her in the first instance I am very pleased she chose to follow her heart when we first conversed. |
wow..You are a really good man Loveprague.. I am very pleased one of the girls from my country had a good catch |
I am the lucky one thehandsom I am a genuine guy and I did try many years to find an 'English girl' but fell in love with a beautiful Turkish lady who is now my beloved wife. There is alot more to Nesrin than anyone I have ever met in my life, the real feelings are there and she has always been very patient during our many times apart. This will be for no longer I will be in Istanbul in April 2008 to stay. Thanks for your comment!
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 01:54 am |
Quoting adonis:
KEEP AWAY FROM ELIBRODY, AND MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS NOW. YOU DEGENERATED, EXPLOITED AND IGNORANT FAKE MUSLIM!!!
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Fake Muslim?!!
And who are you ?!
ALLAH ?!!!
İf you know anything about İslam ,you would have thought twice,even more than twice before stating such !
Btw,you have such impressive vocabularies,i wonder how do you pick them ? !
Anyway,i dont see your name is ELIBRODY ,is it ?!
And i dont see that she is handicapped,or weak,or anything so she cant talk for herself...is she ?!
SO,İn fact...its NONE of your buisness !
Actually i was going to help her to show her point as she said we understood it wrong.
But here you are, came for her rescue like a knight in a shining armor!
But your armor is your insults !
Before you criticize people,watch yourself!
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 01:57 am |
Quoting Loveprague: Quoting thehandsom: Quoting Loveprague: I just like to add here that if my wife Nesrin chose a Turkish man I would probably never ever met her in the first instance I am very pleased she chose to follow her heart when we first conversed. |
wow..You are a really good man Loveprague.. I am very pleased one of the girls from my country had a good catch |
I am the lucky one thehandsom I am a genuine guy and I did try many years to find an 'English girl' but fell in love with a beautiful Turkish lady who is now my beloved wife. There is alot more to Nesrin than anyone I have ever met in my life, the real feelings are there and she has always been very patient during our many times apart. This will be for no longer I will be in Istanbul in April 2008 to stay. Thanks for your comment! |
I am sure Istanbul WILL suit you and you WILL suit Istanbul Loveprague.
Good luck with everything..
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 01:57 am |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting adonis: KEEP AWAY FROM ELIBRODY, AND MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS NOW. YOU DEGENERATED, EXPLOITED AND IGNORANT FAKE MUSLIM!!! |
Canli, I think the only way to reply to this is silence
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Opsssss,a bit late are we?! lol
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 01:57 am |
Quoting elibrody: ok sorry for my post apparently noone understood it but I really can't explain it anyway I'm sorry I appear as the worse person in the site right now
Have a happy day
And remember this is about turkish man
And forgive forget and smile best thing ever I swear |
I think elibrody has been misunderstood, right?
She did not condone prostitution, she only stated a fact.
Anyone who does something for money appreciates the money they get for the service they perform, right?
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 02:00 am |
Quoting thehandsom: Quoting Loveprague: Quoting thehandsom: Quoting Loveprague: I just like to add here that if my wife Nesrin chose a Turkish man I would probably never ever met her in the first instance I am very pleased she chose to follow her heart when we first conversed. |
wow..You are a really good man Loveprague.. I am very pleased one of the girls from my country had a good catch |
I am the lucky one thehandsom I am a genuine guy and I did try many years to find an 'English girl' but fell in love with a beautiful Turkish lady who is now my beloved wife. There is alot more to Nesrin than anyone I have ever met in my life, the real feelings are there and she has always been very patient during our many times apart. This will be for no longer I will be in Istanbul in April 2008 to stay. Thanks for your comment! |
I am sure Istanbul WILL suit you and you WILL suit Istanbul Loveprague.
Good luck with everything.. |
Yes thankyou I am sure it will, I have been lucky to visit on six occassions and now I finally can stay for the foreseable future at last.
Best wishes Loveprague
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 02:00 am |
Quoting alameda:
Anyone who does something for money appreciates the money they get for the service they perform, right?
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You too? You think prostitution is like the movies - Pretty Woman? The only people making money are MEN.
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 02:04 am |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting alameda:
Anyone who does something for money appreciates the money they get for the service they perform, right?
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You too? You think prostitution is like the movies - Pretty Woman? The only people making money are MEN. |
I do not condone prostitution. Read my comment again. There have been successful prostitutes who kept their "earnings"
Mayflower Madam
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 02:07 am |
Quoting alameda: Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting alameda:
Anyone who does something for money appreciates the money they get for the service they perform, right?
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You too? You think prostitution is like the movies - Pretty Woman? The only people making money are MEN. |
I do not condone prostitution. Read my comment again. There have been successful prostitutes who kept their "earnings"
Mayflower Madam |
Dont be ridiculous and stop talking about the 1% and start thinking about the 99%.
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 02:12 am |
İ dont think actually anyone is WİTH it AEnigma !
Except for men who pay for it of course !
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 02:15 am |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting alameda: Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting alameda:
Anyone who does something for money appreciates the money they get for the service they perform, right?
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You too? You think prostitution is like the movies - Pretty Woman? The only people making money are MEN. |
I do not condone prostitution. Read my comment again. There have been successful prostitutes who kept their "earnings"
Mayflower Madam |
Dont be ridiculous and stop talking about the 1% and start thinking about the 99%. |
I try to think about the whole.
Of course there are exploited women, most of them are, but there have been some willing successful "entrepreneurs" in the business who are women.
Just being a woman does not mean one is a saint, victim or exploited.
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 02:41 am |
Alameda, of course I think about the "whole" and who said anything about TRUE professionals being saints?
Every time you join the "majority vote" alameda, you perpetuate stereotypes and myths. You take the "middle road" and think you are being tolerant and wise, but all you do support industries like this, which makes millions of pounds for organised crime, or you defend regimes where there are no equal rights. You use examples which are exceptions, not rules.
Do you know that I have never been called a "feminist" until I joined this site, but people like you made me realise what a male dominated world this REALLY is and women who support it perpetuate it.
I am lucky enough to live in a country where I am not seen as a feminist. My views are no different to most men. Coming to this site feels like stepping back 100 years (sometimes 1000 years.
You just keep on supporting those "old ideals" that you value so highly, and keep taking the "popular" easy view. You are doing a great job....
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 02:59 am |
Quoting AEnigma III: Alameda, of course I think about the "whole" and who said anything about TRUE professionals being saints?
Every time you join the "majority vote" alameda, you perpetuate stereotypes and myths. You take the "middle road" and think you are being tolerant and wise, but all you do support industries like this, which makes millions of pounds for organised crime, or you defend regimes where there are no equal rights. You use examples which are exceptions, not rules.
Do you know that I have never been called a "feminist" until I joined this site, but people like you made me realise what a male dominated world this REALLY is and women who support it perpetuate it.
I am lucky enough to live in a country where I am not seen as a feminist. My views are no different to most men. Coming to this site feels like stepping back 100 years (sometimes 1000 years.
You just keep on supporting those "old ideals" that you value so highly, and keep taking the "popular" easy view. You are doing a great job.... |
Who said I support it!!!?????????? You see what you want. I simply supplied some facts that you obviously are having a hard time accepting.
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 03:06 am |
Quoting alameda: Who said I support it!!!?????????? You see what you want. I simply supplied some facts that you obviously are having a hard time accepting. |
You support it by saying things like "Anyone who does something for money appreciates the money they get for the service they perform, right?".
You make men feel OK about going to visit a prostitute again and drive a nail in the coffin of there ever being an end to this horrible industry which supports slavery, child abuse, drugs and illegal weapons.
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 03:20 am |
Quoting CANLI:
Anyway,i dont see your name is ELIBRODY ,is it ?!
And i dont see that she is handicapped,or weak,or anything so she cant talk for herself...is she ?!
SO,İn fact...its NONE of your buisness !
Actually i was going to help her to show her point as she said we understood it wrong.
But here you are came for her rescue like a night in a shining armor!
But your armor is your insults !
Before you criticize people,watch yourself!
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This is a really nice post actually Canli..Well done!!
he, coming to rescue her is a kind of act you see in almost all Turkish man. Somehow we/turkish man believe that women are in need of our help. The belief that they can not protect themselves, which is rooting from the idea that men are the ultimate protector of women and the man is not equal woman, is a generic disease for Turkish men.
You caught it very well.
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 06:42 am |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting alameda: Who said I support it!!!?????????? You see what you want. I simply supplied some facts that you obviously are having a hard time accepting. |
You support it by saying things like "Anyone who does something for money appreciates the money they get for the service they perform, right?".
You make men feel OK about going to visit a prostitute again and drive a nail in the coffin of there ever being an end to this horrible industry which supports slavery, child abuse, drugs and illegal weapons. |
Read carefully, I wrote: "Anyone who does something for money appreciates the money THEY GET for the service they perform, right?". I appreciate the salary I get have negotiated for and am paid, you do, most who work are appreciative of their pay. (The key is we are able to negotiate, accept or refuse,even though we probably would more) This is very different than women who are trafficked for prostitution do not get paid for their work. They are victims.
This has nothing to do with the morality of prostitution, that is another matter. This is to do with one getting the compensation one has freely negotiated for.
But one has to realize there are some who do it willingly and are successful, such as "The Mayflower Madam" Then there were the grand
Courtesans
of yesteryear who had considerable status, and there are women who enjoy sex and give it away for free, or even pay for it. These are all separate issues and should be dealt with each on their own merits.
I think you have confused human trafficking with prostitution. I deplore any type of slavery, which is what human trafficking is. It is in all areas from the chocolate we eat to garments we wear and more.
Child slave labor revelations sweeping China
SHANGHAI: Su Jinduo and Su Jinpeng, brother and sister, were traveling home by bus from a vacation visit to Qingdao during the Chinese New Year when they disappeared.
Cheated out of their money when they sought to buy a ticket for the final leg of their journey home, they were taken in by a woman who offered them warm shelter and a meal on a cold winter night, and then later a chance to earn enough money to pay their fare by helping her sell fruit.
Chocolate
There is a surprising association between chocolate and child labor in the Cote d'Ivoire. Young boys whose ages range from 12 to 16 have been sold into slave labor and are forced to work in cocoa farms in order to harvest the beans, from which chocolate is made, under inhumane conditions and extreme abuse. This West African country is the leading exporter of cocoa beans to the world market. Thus, the existence of slave labor is relevant to the entire international economic community. Through trade relations, many actors are inevitably implicated in this problem, whether it is the Ivorian government, the farmers, the American or European chocolate manufacturers, or consumers who unknowingly buy chocolate.
Victoria's Secret, slave Labor
Workers are allowed just 3.3 minutes to sew each $14 Victoria's Secret women's bikini, for which they are paid four cents. The workers' wages amount to less than 3/10ths of one percent of the $14 retail price of the Victoria's Secret bikini
And when workers protested a speed up demand? Management had six of the workers arrested.
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 11:36 am |
Quoting alameda: This has nothing to do with the morality of prostitution, that is another matter. This is to do with one getting the compensation one has freely negotiated for. . |
You missed my point too! I am not talking about the morality of prostitution. I really dont care if a woman decides to make money out of men by selling her body. However, as I keep trying to say, the sad fact is the the MAJORITY of prostitutes are not the ones making the money - they are "managed" by men, who make BILLIONS out of prostitution.
Quoting alameda: But one has to realize there are some who do it willingly and are successful, such as "The Mayflower Madam" Then there were the grand of yesteryear who had considerable status, and there are women who enjoy sex and give it away for free, or even pay for it. These are all separate issues and should be dealt with each on their own merits |
Again, you quote the minority to make it justifiable for men to continue supporting this "trade".
Quoting alameda: I think you have confused human trafficking with prostitution. . |
Have I? Here is a nice link from your own US Department of State which will educate you about this issue.
http://www.state.gov/r/pa/ei/rls/38790.htm
"Prostitution and related activities—including pimping and patronizing or maintaining brothels—fuel the growth of modern-day slavery by providing a façade behind which traffickers for sexual exploitation operate."
"Prostitution is inherently harmful. Few activities are as brutal and damaging to people as prostitution. Field research in nine countries concluded that 60-75 percent of women in prostitution were raped, 70-95 percent were physically assaulted, and 68 percent met the criteria for post traumatic stress disorder in the same range as treatment-seeking combat veterans and victims of state-organized torture."
This hardly fits in with the courtesan image you keep throwing back at me, does it?
Please read this brief regarding the Criminal Justice and Immigration Bill in the UK and quotes the UN Special Rapporteur on the Human Rights Aspects of Trafficking in Persons….â€it is rare that one finds a case in which the path to prostitution and/or the person’s experience with prostitution does not involve, at the very least, an abuse of power and/or an abuse of vulnerability.
http://www.chaste.org.uk/public_documents/CJI_Briefing_Doc_CARE_CHASTE_001.pdf
When you have read it you will see that your links regarding courtesans is, frankly, ridiculous.
Thank you for your links regarding other kinds of slavery and child labour, particularly regarding consumer goods. I spent 5 years working with Chinese factories on behalf of five major retail chains in the UK , who would not import goods unless the factories adopted standards and working conditions equivilent to our own BS standard (it is sad to see that high profile US companies like Victoria’s Secret do not adopt the same standards, and I hope they were prosecuted as you DO have a law regarding this), so it is a subject dear to my heart, but quite unrelated to the subject we were discussing I think.
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 03:41 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Alameda, of course I think about the "whole" and who said anything about TRUE professionals being saints?
Every time you join the "majority vote" alameda, you perpetuate stereotypes and myths. You take the "middle road" and think you are being tolerant and wise, but all you do support industries like this, which makes millions of pounds for organised crime, or you defend regimes where there are no equal rights. You use examples which are exceptions, not rules.
Do you know that I have never been called a "feminist" until I joined this site, but people like you made me realise what a male dominated world this REALLY is and women who support it perpetuate it.
I am lucky enough to live in a country where I am not seen as a feminist. My views are no different to most men. Coming to this site feels like stepping back 100 years (sometimes 1000 years.
You just keep on supporting those "old ideals" that you value so highly, and keep taking the "popular" easy view. You are doing a great job.... |
how come im not so skilled like you?
a brilliant post!
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 03:48 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Alameda, of course I think about the "whole" and who said anything about TRUE professionals being saints?
Every time you join the "majority vote" alameda, you perpetuate stereotypes and myths. You take the "middle road" and think you are being tolerant and wise, but all you do support industries like this, which makes millions of pounds for organised crime, or you defend regimes where there are no equal rights. You use examples which are exceptions, not rules.
Do you know that I have never been called a "feminist" until I joined this site, but people like you made me realise what a male dominated world this REALLY is and women who support it perpetuate it.
I am lucky enough to live in a country where I am not seen as a feminist. My views are no different to most men. Coming to this site feels like stepping back 100 years (sometimes 1000 years.
You just keep on supporting those "old ideals" that you value so highly, and keep taking the "popular" easy view. You are doing a great job.... |
must be hard to be front of 1000 years from others,really big distance???Pls know that dear Aenigma most of us here for defend only goodness and for to find betters or trues as in real life,and we having same problems on this life boat as you,just ideals and realities so different depend of many reasons,who can deny women rights,who can defend human traffic,who can defend bigotry or darkness???But just we have to be a bit realist while trying to understand diversities of each other....
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 03:57 pm |
My original comment was regarding elibrody's comment:
"It's not the best business ever but trust me prostitutes do not complain about the money they get "
You have turned this into her supporting human trafficking, which her comment did not support.
Has that been what she meant, it would have been worded differently...."prostitutes are do not complain about the money paid" The key here is "the money THEY GET".
I realize you like to argue for the sake of argument, however let's not waste time on semantics. I'm pretty sure she does not support any type of human trafficking, nor do you or I.
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 04:04 pm |
Quoting alameda: My original comment was regarding elibrody's comment:
"It's not the best business ever but trust me prostitutes do not complain about the money they get " |
Yes you did say that Alameda, and I replied telling you why this statement was wrong. Are you not going to reply to my last post to you regarding this? Or has it finally convinced you?
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 04:05 pm |
Quoting MrX67: But just we have to be a bit realist while trying to understand diversities of each other.... |
Thanks MRX but frankly I have had enough of understanding your particular diversities...
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 04:09 pm |
For Alameda's comment.
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting alameda: This has nothing to do with the morality of prostitution, that is another matter. This is to do with one getting the compensation one has freely negotiated for. . |
You missed my point too! I am not talking about the morality of prostitution. I really dont care if a woman decides to make money out of men by selling her body. However, as I keep trying to say, the sad fact is the the MAJORITY of prostitutes are not the ones making the money - they are "managed" by men, who make BILLIONS out of prostitution.
Quoting alameda: But one has to realize there are some who do it willingly and are successful, such as "The Mayflower Madam" Then there were the grand of yesteryear who had considerable status, and there are women who enjoy sex and give it away for free, or even pay for it. These are all separate issues and should be dealt with each on their own merits |
Again, you quote the minority to make it justifiable for men to continue supporting this "trade".
Quoting alameda: I think you have confused human trafficking with prostitution. . |
Have I? Here is a nice link from your own US Department of State which will educate you about this issue.
http://www.state.gov/r/pa/ei/rls/38790.htm
"Prostitution and related activities—including pimping and patronizing or maintaining brothels—fuel the growth of modern-day slavery by providing a façade behind which traffickers for sexual exploitation operate."
"Prostitution is inherently harmful. Few activities are as brutal and damaging to people as prostitution. Field research in nine countries concluded that 60-75 percent of women in prostitution were raped, 70-95 percent were physically assaulted, and 68 percent met the criteria for post traumatic stress disorder in the same range as treatment-seeking combat veterans and victims of state-organized torture."
This hardly fits in with the courtesan image you keep throwing back at me, does it?
Please read this brief regarding the Criminal Justice and Immigration Bill in the UK and quotes the UN Special Rapporteur on the Human Rights Aspects of Trafficking in Persons….â€it is rare that one finds a case in which the path to prostitution and/or the person’s experience with prostitution does not involve, at the very least, an abuse of power and/or an abuse of vulnerability.
http://www.chaste.org.uk/public_documents/CJI_Briefing_Doc_CARE_CHASTE_001.pdf
When you have read it you will see that your links regarding courtesans is, frankly, ridiculous.
Thank you for your links regarding other kinds of slavery and child labour, particularly regarding consumer goods. I spent 5 years working with Chinese factories on behalf of five major retail chains in the UK , who would not import goods unless the factories adopted standards and working conditions equivilent to our own BS standard (it is sad to see that high profile US companies like Victoria’s Secret do not adopt the same standards, and I hope they were prosecuted as you DO have a law regarding this), so it is a subject dear to my heart, but quite unrelated to the subject we were discussing I think.
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 04:16 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting alameda: My original comment was regarding elibrody's comment:
"It's not the best business ever but trust me prostitutes do not complain about the money they get " |
Yes you did say that Alameda, and I replied telling you why this statement was wrong. Are you not going to reply to my last post to you regarding this? Or has it finally convinced you? |
AEnigma.....as I said before, this is not a debate about the good or morality regarding prostitution, it is about semantics.
I'm not wish to get into a debate on prostitution, although it is a very huge and complicated topic. For me, it's hard to imagine why any woman would willingly and in good emotional health choose such a profession, but that is not the current debate, although it seems you would wish it so.
elibrody's command of the English language is limited. I feel she has been unfairly picked on due to a weakness in her command of English. Her comment has been twisted to mean something she has not said.
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 04:19 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting MrX67: But just we have to be a bit realist while trying to understand diversities of each other.... |
Thanks MRX but frankly I have had enough of understanding your particular diversities... |
particular??
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 04:21 pm |
Alameda as I have said before, this is not a debate about morality.
You cannot make sweeping statements about prostitution being a fair deal between two people - IT IS NOT. You also cannot make sweeping statements that prostitution has nothing to do with human trafficking - IT DOES (as your own Department of State acknowledges).
Even now, you make another sweeping statement as you wonder how women can choose such a profession - if you would care to read the links I sent you you will see that, in fact, a VERY HIGH majority of women do not choose this as a profession or do it willingly.
"The vast majority of women in prostitution don’t want to be there. Few seek it out or choose it, and most are desperate to leave it. A 2003 study first published in the scientific Journal of Trauma Practice found that 89 percent of women in prostitution want to escape. And children are also trapped in prostitution—despite the fact that international covenants and protocols impose upon state parties an obligation to criminalize the commercial sexual exploitation of children."
With regard to Elibrody's comment, it has not been twisted. It is clear she holds the same (naive) view as you that it is a mutual agreement between two people - one for gratification and the other for money.
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 04:26 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: And children are also trapped in prostitution—despite the fact that international covenants and protocols impose upon state parties an obligation to criminalize the commercial sexual exploitation of children."
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this is very sad
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 04:28 pm |
aenigma,
maybe in some cultures and countries it is smth normal?
and you are just ?
its a waste of time.
some people still live in the ape age.
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 04:38 pm |
Quoting femme_fatal: aenigma,
maybe in some cultures and countries it is smth normal?
and you are just ?
its a waste of time.
some people still live in the ape age. |
YOU live in ape age?
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 04:39 pm |
Aenigma said: You cannot make sweeping statements about prostitution being a fair deal between two people - IT IS NOT.
That is NOT what I said. Please do not twist my words.
Aenigma said: You also cannot make sweeping statements that prostitution has nothing to do with human trafficking - IT DOES (as your own Department of State acknowledges).
Well I am not the Department of State and I have my own thoughts and ideas. That is not what I said, that's your interpretation. Any service/product that is profitable is subject to hijacking and exploitation.
Aenigma said: "Even now, you make another sweeping statement as you wonder how women can choose such a profession - if you would care to read the links I sent you you will see that, in fact, a VERY HIGH majority of women do not choose this as a profession or do it willingly."
Actually I have read the links previously and have posted similar links myself. I question how anyone can choose such a profession...but SOME do.....as in your post "VERY HIGH majority of women do not choose"....which means a small minority do!
If you want to start a thread about prostitution and all it entails, start one. It has a very long and interesting history across the world's cultures
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 04:44 pm |
I give up! Keep holding your views based on your "small minorities" and I hope you do it with a clear conscience.
I dont care about this topic's history? Does it help any of the exploitation of today? Dream on you silly woman...
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 05:30 pm |
Alameda . . . I think you upset AEnigma
AEnigma . . . take a chill pill
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 05:37 pm |
Quoting peace train: Alameda . . . I think you upset AEnigma |
You are damn right. It makes me sick that people have this kind of attitude.
I am happy to hold my hands up and admit I am angry.
(Unfortunately none of your posts ever stir any emotion at all....only sleepiness )
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 05:42 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: I give up! Keep holding your views based on your "small minorities" and I hope you do it with a clear conscience.
I dont care about this topic's history? Does it help any of the exploitation of today? Dream on you silly woman...
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AEnigma....it's ultimately about consumer. If there are undiscriminating consumers with cash to spare, there will be supply. It is only by educating the consumer the thing will stop.
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 05:45 pm |
Quoting alameda: AEnigma....it's ultimately about consumer. If there are undiscriminating consumers with cash to spare, there will be supply. It is only by educating the consumer the thing will stop. |
Eureka!!!!!!!!!
So, please stop informing men that its ok because it is just a mutual transaction.
many thanks.
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16 Feb 2008 Sat 06:04 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting alameda: AEnigma....it's ultimately about consumer. If there are undiscriminating consumers with cash to spare, there will be supply. It is only by educating the consumer the thing will stop. |
Eureka!!!!!!!!!
So, please stop informing men that its ok because it is just a mutual transaction.
many thanks. |
this was a good checkmate!
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18 Feb 2008 Mon 06:34 pm |
Quote: Quoting AEnigma III:
You missed my point too! I am not talking about the morality of prostitution. I really dont care if a woman decides to make money out of men by selling her body. |
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Then later you say:
" Eureka!!!!!!!!!
So, please stop informing men that its ok because it is just a mutual transaction."
So you have contradicted yourself, and in your opinion/heart, it is a moral issue. Those who choose to involve themselves in this profession should not have that right....?
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18 Feb 2008 Mon 06:41 pm |
Quote: Quoting alameda: Quoting AEnigma III:
You missed my point too! I am not talking about the morality of prostitution. I really dont care if a woman decides to make money out of men by selling her body. |
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Then later you say:
" Eureka!!!!!!!!!
So, please stop informing men that its ok because it is just a mutual transaction."
So you have contradicted yourself, and in your opinion/heart, it is a moral issue. Those who choose to involve themselves in this profession should not have that right....?
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Oh Alameda are we still on this subject? Read my posts on this subject again if necessary, and you will see what I mean. I am NOT against the morality of prostitution if it is a mutual contract between two people. However, as you will know, it is rarely a mutual contract - invariably there is a third party taking the money. As I have said before, it is FACT that most prostitutes DO NOT choose to become so.
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18 Feb 2008 Mon 10:24 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting peace train: Alameda . . . I think you upset AEnigma |
You are damn right. It makes me sick that people have this kind of attitude.
I am happy to hold my hands up and admit I am angry.
(Unfortunately none of your posts ever stir any emotion at all....only sleepiness ) |
Hence your doziness
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18 Feb 2008 Mon 10:26 pm |
Quoting peace train:
Hence your doziness |
Welcome back sweetie
You really must get out of this habit of following me around - it only upsets you
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18 Feb 2008 Mon 10:44 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III:
Welcome back sweetie
You really must get out of this habit of following me around - it only upsets you |
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18 Feb 2008 Mon 10:46 pm |
Awww just reading early posts on this thread - I miss Miss_Ceyda and Ramayan
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18 Feb 2008 Mon 10:46 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting peace train:
Hence your doziness |
Welcome back sweetie
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I haven't gone yet, despite 3 requests in the last 36 hours. I read AEnigma Manual, handed to all new users, but the chapter on stalking was the only one I found useful. . . nay brilliant in fact.
Do you think if I pm you a few times you can mark me as spam . . . it might not take as long
In the meantime . . . I'm having fun . . . a la AEnigma.
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18 Feb 2008 Mon 10:48 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Awww just reading early posts on this thread - I miss Miss_Ceyda and Ramayan
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And Sophie
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