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Turkish women and attitudes to men
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27 Nov 2005 Sun 08:15 pm |
I wish that there is at least one woman who writes here that she expects her man to cook, clean, share all responsibilities, be very tolerant to her, understand that she will watch all her favorite programs whenever she wants to, that her female friends are very important to her and she will go out to see them whenever she likes, that her man cannot look at any other woman and that he has to make sacrifices for her all the time, that he cannot go out or make decisions without talking with her first, that he has to be a good father, that he has to love her family and treat her parents like his own, that he must make her feel like a real woman and that he shouldn't expect too much from her!
Well - she is definitely a modern woman (wonder how many men are modern enough for her - I'm afraid that man will not be Turkish heheh)
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27 Nov 2005 Sun 08:18 pm |
Quoting catwoman: I wish that there is at least one woman who writes here that she expects her man to cook, clean, share all responsibilities, be very tolerant to her, understand that she will watch all her favorite programs whenever she wants to, that her female friends are very important to her and she will go out to see them whenever she likes, that her man cannot look at any other woman and that he has to make sacrifices for her all the time, that he cannot go out or make decisions without talking with her first, that he has to be a good father, that he has to love her family and treat her parents like his own, that he must make her feel like a real woman and that he shouldn't expect too much from her! |
i believe that one of the main things in a relationship should be respect.. and if there is respect then who cares who does the washing up, polishing, or cooks a couple of meals a day??...
also, if there is no roles for the man and woman to follow im sure that there would be several arguments to say who is going to go to work... or put the kids to bed...whatever...
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27 Nov 2005 Sun 08:19 pm |
why there must always be a dominator? where is to be equal? where is respect to eachother
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27 Nov 2005 Sun 08:19 pm |
Bravo Catwoman I refer you to my posts in Turkish men and attitudes to women.
the saying "what is sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander" comes to mind !!
Can someone translate into Turkish that phrase-I am a beginner !!
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27 Nov 2005 Sun 08:21 pm |
well, as long as you don't start with the attitude that he expects her to be his possession and almost slave while allowing himself to do whatever he wants!
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27 Nov 2005 Sun 08:23 pm |
Woovv! Catwoman! I have noticed that your ex-post actually consists of one sentence!
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27 Nov 2005 Sun 08:26 pm |
Quoting cyrano: Woovv! Catwoman! I have noticed that your post actually consists of one sentence!
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ohh yehh... hehe... did u not take a breath kedikadın?
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27 Nov 2005 Sun 08:27 pm |
Sui Generis - good job. Equality and respect without the man feeling less of a man when he cooks, cleans and stays home while she goes out with her friends. I'm not saying that it's ok for her to be all over all her male friends, don't get it wrong!
What strikes me however is that nobody mentioned 'equality and respect' when talking about the attitude of turkish men to women but talking about the attitude of women to men, women are so understanding in the fact that in a relationship it doesn't matter who does what and they are even willing to do all the work and accept all the man's freaky expectations!
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27 Nov 2005 Sun 08:32 pm |
I believe no sane woman who is self-conscious and has at least some self-esteem would ever put up with a man who limits her in any respect. The problems we read about on this forum seem to derive from some kind of emotional masochism. How can you expect that somebody who makes you lose your temper in the initial phase of your relationship to turn into Prince Charming? Girls - such things don't happen! And it doesn't concern Turkish guys only. I bet there are caring and loving men all around the world. Ones who don't think a woman's world is restricted to kitchen and bedroom, ones who share and not only impose duties and , finally, ones who can give back as much as they get.
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27 Nov 2005 Sun 08:43 pm |
Yes Daydreamer... I hope so too, but it doesn't look like we can find him in the thread 'turkish men and attitudes to women'. Hopefully it's not only us wishing to find such a man while his wishes about women are quite different...
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