a very good point indeed! and it goes to all the guys worldwide! however, all of us like to think that our oyfriends/husbands would reject it out of hand

Why is it all about sex, people? Can you think of other things that attract man to a woman and vice verca? Are you trying to say that men are complete animals and absolutely nothing else matters to them except sex? I hope not...

why do women appraise the men with their physical apperance?? first, they look at them and decide to talk to or not..
i have many gfs who are not so beautiful..som of them are weight, some of them can speak very well, some of them dnt communicate well but...
i think people doesnt appraise them with their physical apperance first...
just first..
othwerwise when a girl begin to talk a man who is attractive for her could disappointed..
i have experinces too about girls
then decided not to give any more attantion beautiful girls.. they are men hunters and dont have any ideas about daily life..

I am with you, duskahvesi!
I think we have to see inner beauty of man, not physical appearance.
My grandma used to say man doesn't have to be 'beautiful' (handsome).
If he is caring, loving, protective...he is already exellent and handsome.Actions are more important.

all i know is that i love him...and i also belive he does...i think you know it inside you but still you are scare of everything ...of everyone...he is so shy and i know that there are many girls around trying to have one of this "sweety like a child boys"...im only scare i may lose him...and to catwomen you can call him "erkeim" which means my man...thank you to all...it is really great to have someone to share thoughts with...about this boy if i get the chance to get back to ny, ill ask him to marry me...hihi...kidding...

of course it's not sex only that attracts men to women and the other way around. however, we cannot say that physical appearance makes no difference at all. it is the first thing we notice when we meet someone. moreover, sad as it may seem, sexual drive is one of the strongest instincts we have. we tame it because of religion or social convenances but still it exists in us.
however, when we choose a partner to be with, basing our choice on appearance only is a huge mistake. appearance changes constantly and life is not only about looking at each other. besides, attractiveness is a matter of personal taste so i think when we choose a partner we choose him/her according to our own subjective view of what is attractive. beauty is in the eye of beholder.

Two things are the most important things for me in a love relation: understanding and trusting each other,

But this things come sure after the physical attraction,,everyone knows that we can not love someone we do not like,becouse of some small reason that for someone else are not important, this is love and this is the reason we request so much from it, it makes us feel queen or kings and it hurts more also ..
Good luck to all!

I am a new member of this site en I have to admit that it is nice to see people (from different countries) learning Turkish or try to learn Turkish.
I have just read the articles about Turksih men. It was really impressing. What these women can think and create in their thoughts. As man, I have to point something out. turkish men are faithful to their women, but as long as they do not possess them totally. When they possess the women totally, they think of trying their chance somewhere else at the same time. When they know that they possess theie women, they are already sure that the woman is his and she can not miss him any more in her life. So he tries his chance and mostly with success, somewhere else.
I have to indicate something else as well. That is: if the Turkish man is among many other women, they pretend to do anything to attract other women. That is typical Turkish.
if anyone of you has Turkish man / boyfriend in touristic areas, forget faithfullness.

i dont agree with that...due to the fact that i believe on my turkish boy and trust him somehow all of the time...but still it is good to know from others as a way to make sure...hehe.
Then i don believ in general rules if you have heard from Jorge lUis Borges ever you may know what he thinks about generallyzing...there is not a big true...there is not universal truth...and by now all we have are feelings of hoping everything is alright

Konat7:

I am very interested in all your thoughts about love and Turkish men. Are they faithful. I think it is very hard for men to be totally faithful. Is it being unfaithful when they look at a pretty girl, when their thoughts are distracted by a girl walking past showing lots of her skin. A lot of younger Turkish men work in the tourist industry and there are a many girls (English girls have this reputation)who think nothing of having sex while on holiday, it doesn't matter to them that they do not know these boys. That is not love, I belive that there is more to love than sex. To feel comfortable and relaxed with someone. To sit with them for hours and not need to talk but also to have intelligent conversation.


My man works in the tourist industry and I know he has to flirt with the women(sometimes the men like it to, football talk etc.,)but he comes back to me and tells me the most important thing is that he is faithful. He has the pick of women young and old, especially the older ladies as they feel flattered by his attention. Yes I do get jealous but that is only natural and I do need to be told that he loves me and he is faithful. I am the sort of person that I give myself totally and no matter what I will not be unfaithful.

My man wants me to go and live with him, I do not know yet if I will. There has been no talk of marriage, we have both been married once before, I thought that was for life said I would not get married again. It would be hard for me, he knows I have no money and there would be no house to sell to raise money. We would both have to work very hard and I do not think his family would approve. I would not want him to miss out on his Turkish family life. His sister is getting married very soon, she was only engaged in September, I know he is looking forward to being there. He would miss out on so much because of me.

In the magazines and newspapers here in England there are so many bad stories about Turkish men it is hard to trust them. I know you should not think that all Turkish men are the same. If you have ever been hurt in a relationship, lied to time and time again it is hard to trust. My man said I should not let the past rule my future and he is right but easier said than done.

There I have poured out some of my feelings someone said once: LOVE CONQUERS ALL, I hope so.