Hi, Im married to a turkish guy, Who i love with all my heart. But i now know why so many english people dont trust turkish people!! My husband is still in turkey,Im in england. We are fighting for a visa so we can be together. But this is very hard for us both, I took out a loan so my husband could sell silver on ebay,Everything was great,we slod very well. But he went into partnership with a friend of his,Who ended up oweing us thousands of pounds, and now wont pay.
My husband ended the partnership, But he wanted to open a shop,But we didnt have all the money we needed as his friend still owed us lots of money,(but my husband wont let me contact his friend for the money,as said his friend would lie,about him and the money) So again i took out a loan. my husband got a shop and we waited for the loan money, so he could pay the rent on the shop. He did all the shop out, still the bank said didnt put money into my account. Now my husband has left the shop, He wont take my calls or reply to my txt or email, All my friends said he only used me for money??? ( I no this is not true, He loves me, but is mad we had to leave the shop)
Tell me what you all think about my situation??
Do you think im right or my friends.
I would love to know your thoughts. please look at my pics of me and my husband befor you makeup your mind.
Im sure you will see how much im right,and how in love we are.
fallenangel

You know, it's hard for anyone who doesn't know the whole situation to give an opinion on this.

Can you go visit him to get a feeling of what is going on? Have you ever visited his family in person?

I hope everything turns out OK. Good luck.

I agree with Silversong, it seems like there must be more going on there. It just doesn't make sense why he would leave you because the bank didn't give you the money. Especially that you are married. Is he still going to come to the UK?

I think that all you can do is as Alameda suggested... find out what is going on there, but I would say that if he loves you, you shouldn't be the only one trying to make the relationship work.

Good luck, I hope you are feeling ok...

Why would he open a shop in Turkey if he is waiting for a Visa to the UK? I would definately go and try to talk to him face to face. It is ridiculous and childish that he will not talk to you. I would be so furious.

Hope it all works out for you.

There is so much deja vu with this story. You should take a look at the Turkish Loverats site, it is littered with exactly this.

Why oh why do women hand over money to someone they hardly know (yes you are married but how long for?) without even seeing the shop, or the "friend". Why did you need a loan to "sell" silver on Ebay?

It is all very suspicious to me. I would have to go and see for myself what is going on. Do either of you speak each others language? If not I would probably hire an interpreter to.

I am sorry for being so cynical and negative, but I do have sympathy for you and I hope you resolve it.

If it turns out that your friends are right then you are better off finding out now and moving past this.
I can't for the life of me think of any valid reason a husband would refuse to take his wife's call but I wish you the best of luck.
Just remember, relationships don't define who we are. Stay strong!

I have just deleted Rocco Siffredi's post as it was insulting and not acceptable. (Genuida - sorry deleted yours too as it contained the quote) This lady didn't ask for or deserve this type of comment.

Don't worry LIR .. his post was not nice at all. So I am glad you deleted it...thanks

Rocco this is a warning! Don't let us see such a comment again.

Can we all please stop giving him the attention he wanted? I think it would be much better if all the comments after LIR deleted his post were deleted as well. Why draw more attention to the issue?

We don't delete people without notice so we warn them first But it is a last one.

OMG how funny but gross

I feel the man does not love the woman. I think probably, it was because of money they married. If the man took the money and left, then no replies at sms or email or calls, in fact this is very bad.
We are turkish, I really want to talk nice about him, but this case I feel the man cheats on woman. In fact a man with good heart will not eat money of wife and will solve problems face to face, or talk to her if he wants to leave.
But on the other hand, there may be possibilities the man has real problems or in danger because of no replies of anything. First the wife should think about this. If she finds out he is alive, then she will think over the bad side of the husband.
In fact most Turkish people are trustful and share everything with each other.

I am not talking about every Turkish man is trustful. In fact men lie, women lie too. Women sometimes are good at telling lies, some marry to rich men for money also.

You have to come and live in Turkey for maybe 5 years to really know how Turkish people are like. It's very different when you come here for one week holiday then find a man you like and 5 days later you say you are in love. Then maybe one week or more later, both leave because of problems, money, or cheating. So you will think of all Turkish people are bad like that. I don't agree that because you are not really living in Turkey.

Life is like this, most people will not show their real face to others. Sometimes small lies without hurting others are like salt and pepper. Life is also a luck, when you can find your prince or princess that you really love.

In this case, I saw the pictures, they are 2 very different people. I don't believe the man really love the woman. I don't mean the appearance, but I look into the man's eyes, just my 6th feeling that he does not love the woman. He loves just the money, I think.

IT might be as well, the chances that a foreign woman falls in the hands of men who want to profit is much higher than the local women. And their chances to meet "proper local men" are less because they are usually in those places where they are surrounded by the kind of men that want to profit them. I see tourists a bit like children when they're in a new country, and they're more easily trapped and fooled.