Unfortunately dont agree with you...people are differenet and turks too.. I was married my turksih husbund for 3 years. We lived in Russia for a long time.And i divorced since dec 2012. My husband didn´t worked, he loved partyes and alcohol. he has betraying me with other girls. He also wanted a russian citizenship from me. And i know that in Turkey a lot of unhappy international families are living there.
not all bad relationships involve turkish men but lets just use them for this example
Ladies what is in your head when you decide to fall in love and get married to some foreign guy who barely can speak your language.
Many here on TC are from meeting some guy on holidays. You don´t really get to know them properly. Internet/long distance after your holiday can actually cheat you out of a real relationship. The time spent is always staged it is not occuring in real life. You don´t see how the person interacts with friends, family, public situations.
Did they work before you decided to marry them. Did they let you know their true friends and family.
Were there huge cultural differences in lifestyle.
Even 2 people living in the same country with same culture have difficulties keeping a marriage healthy. So to blame Turks for failure really isn´t necessary. Blame yourself for allowing yourself to not see all the red flags as to why the relationship won´t work in the first place.
you wouldn´t make kitchen curtains out of a pair old smelly old socks, so why make a husband out of someone who´s family doesn´t understand you , may or may not be able to communicate with you in language you are familar with and who´s culture style of living is so different it is like stepping onto a different planet. Lets add the difficulty if they are not educated enough to get a job in the country you decide to live with including yourself.
If you want to be a door mat for all their problems go ahead, but don´t complain about it. Not all Turkish guys are bad but marriage itself will bring out the worse in most people because everyday life is not a holiday.
If you want to marry a Turk go live in Turkey for a year first on your own, than marry one same as if you want to marry a Turk in your country make them live there for a few year on their own first to get settled, find a job, and stop blamining you for all their bad times in your country.
Edited (7/26/2013) by Kelowna
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