Hi everyone, I am reltively new to this site, but am wondering some things.  My boyfriend is living in Adana, and I will be going there at the end of September.  We are talking about marriage and rather serious things, and his family knows this.  They are looking forward to meeting me, but I am nervous.  Add to this that tonight he tells me that when I come there, I should bring his mom a gift.  I am not sure what kind to bring. He is not very helpful on the topic, but just says that I should bring something.. a little help here would be appreciated.  I dont know the customs there and we will be staying there for 2 weeks.  So is this like a hostess gift since we are staying in her house?  Or is this something more since we are talking of getting engaged?  Any help would be appreciated.

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hi! i still have this problem with gifts even i know my mother in law pretty well.You can always bring something traditional from you country - what they cannot find in Turkey.İt can be some souvenir (book about your country or something else) or some scarf - as you know women are wearing them so often here.İ think you should ask your BF about her hobbies and it will make your decission easier.İt can be something also handmade - so she can appreciate your skills and be proud that you spend some time for making present for her instead of buying.My suggestion is - try to bring something small for all family members - it would be nice and i am sure that presents everyone likes good luck!

Thanks Pansi.. I will ask him about hobbies.  I was planning on taking something for everyone there.. Her gift was the only problem as I know him and his sister very well.  I have only talked to her a few times and even then it was translated for us and not face to face of course.  I am just worried that I would take something too small or something too big you know?  He says she is expecting to meet her daughter in law not just a visitor, so I am kind of nervous!

Hey - dont worry! is she is calling you as a daughter it means that she is really open to meet you it is great

well for sister always jewellery will be always working - no matter how expensive - it can be something small like earings.Maybe also for mom...İf she is wearing them.İt is difilcult to say about prices, i have no idea about that- but with or without presents - i am sure that will be happy also just about your visit.but as i said - souvenirs always work maybe in your country is something special also from foods what you can take with you...