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TO BE 40
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02 Oct 2008 Thu 10:44 pm |
How does it feel to be 40?
In my case, by the time I could get used to the idea, I had already turned 41.
For younger people you are hopelessly old, for seniors you are still kind of young.
You are in between everything; no longer young but not too old either.
In those 40 years, you have witnessed a large scale transformation from the last remnants of patriarchal society into the information age. You can swear all the evil ways of humans are still intact. Despite all this development, nations are seeking excuses to fight. Terrorism is on the rise, the kingpins of yesterday have become barons of crime. The cities are less safe, families have long fallen apart. You are living among people who only think of themselves in a society run by money, greed and recklessness. How much of this can be personally attributed to me as someone who has existed in this society for the last 40 years?
The shadow of the past is still hanging over us. It seems we will never be able to get rid of ignorance, superstition and of politicians selling all this populist bullshit on the cheap. Just like Brutus did to Caesar or Judas to Jesus, our future is being sold by those whom we trust in. (e.g. Social democrats).
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02 Oct 2008 Thu 10:54 pm |
This made me smile! How about "Oh what it is to 50"...................... the distance between the two seem so short and suddenly you are staring 60 in the face so enjoy life, you only get one chance .
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02 Oct 2008 Thu 11:59 pm |
Well, I told myself some time ago "screw all this!". The world is f**** up and even if some details change here and there, the big picture will always be the same. I am very lucky to be safe, not hungry and have some chances to be free and independent. Everything else is a minor detail.
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03 Oct 2008 Fri 12:19 am |
How does it feel to be 40?
Let me get back to you in two more years ...then I will be able to answer
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03 Oct 2008 Fri 01:54 am |
a feeling that for the moment I do not want to know.
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03 Oct 2008 Fri 02:14 am |
a feeling that for the moment I do not want to know.
I doubt you will ever actually desire to know this, you will be cornered on this one!
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03 Oct 2008 Fri 03:14 am |
How does it feel to be 40?
à always think,you are as old as you feel in your heart.
Ãf you feel you are young even if you are 60,then you are young...you will be young,if you feel that you are old even if you are 20,then you are old.
Being 40,i havent experienced it yet,but also i think it would be good as being 20..i mean when you are teens you cant wait to be 20,and you feel many things changed and as if you own the world
Ãn 40,i believe its same to some extent,just you are mature enough to know you dont own the world,but also know and can own somethings in your hands and can make a difference to yourself and to others.
You are both mature,and young too
So i think its great ´will be inþallah i hope´
The one thing that im sure about,and have learnt it the hard way too,that at any age,i dont want to look back and say,i wish that if im teen,20,30,40,50...etc again so i would do...and ...
The lesson i´ve learnt ´try to get the best of it while you are in it´
à just wish i would always use that lesson well myself .
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03 Oct 2008 Fri 03:35 am |
à always think,you are as old as you feel in your heart.
Ãf you feel you are young even if you are 60,then you are young...you will be young,if you feel that you are old even if you are 20,then you are old.
Being 40,i havent experienced it yet,but also i think it would be good as being 20..i mean when you are teens you cant wait to be 20,and you feel many things changed and as if you own the world
Ãn 40,i believe its same to some extent,just you are mature enough to know you dont own the world,but also know and can own somethings in your hands and can make a difference to yourself and to others.
You are both mature,and young too
So i think its great ´will be inþallah i hope´
The one thing that im sure about,and have learnt it the hard way too,that at any age,i dont want to look back and say,i wish that if im teen,20,30,40,50...etc again so i would do...and ...
The lesson i´ve learnt ´try to get the best of it while you are in it´
à just wish i would always use that lesson well myself .
Well put Canli!
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03 Oct 2008 Fri 07:06 pm |
I try not to let myself think about my age because I agree with Canli completely.....you are as old as you feel. I think its important to set goals for yourself often enough so that you are always trying something new.....in my opinion LEARNING is the key to staying young in your mind. As far as my impact on the world.....I think my impact has been infinately small. There is little I can do to make the world better/happy but I CAN effect my own immediate environment which I try to fill with laughter and good memories. I think you could drive yourself crazy trying to fix the world.
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03 Oct 2008 Fri 07:07 pm |
40 feels exactly the same as 39 or 41.
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03 Oct 2008 Fri 07:09 pm |
40 feels exactly the same as 39 or 41.
But Trudy, I heard the sex gets better....is this true or a terrible rumor??????
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03 Oct 2008 Fri 07:13 pm |
But Trudy, I heard the sex gets better....is this true or a terrible rumor??????
Of course it get´s better - at least when you´re a woman. Simple reason: you have the experience and a young virile dudu.....
For men: pityful but frequent visits to a pharmacy for a new load of blue pills seems to be inevitable....
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03 Oct 2008 Fri 08:07 pm |
Of course it get´s better - at least when you´re a woman. Simple reason: you have the experience and a young virile dudu.....
For men: pityful but frequent visits to a pharmacy for a new load of blue pills seems to be inevitable....
I think that is just the justice of the universe!!
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03 Oct 2008 Fri 08:15 pm |
I´m not 40 yet...however regarding the sex thing. I found it interesting hearing the radio the other day. Do you know what men call women in their 40´s going to bar´s trying to pick up younger men in the U.S.? A cougar.... Then you have women who are just plain ugly and even though men have their beer goggles on, they won´t have anything to do with them. They call these women three legged hyenas. Women were calling in left and right...
I couldn´t believe my ears that men actually have these names for women...But then again we use the term "eye candy". Any derogatory ones for men out there?
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03 Oct 2008 Fri 08:32 pm |
à always think,you are as old as you feel in your heart.
Ãf you feel you are young even if you are 60,then you are young...you will be young,if you feel that you are old even if you are 20,then you are old.
Being 40,i havent experienced it yet,but also i think it would be good as being 20..i mean when you are teens you cant wait to be 20,and you feel many things changed and as if you own the world
Ãn 40,i believe its same to some extent,just you are mature enough to know you dont own the world,but also know and can own somethings in your hands and can make a difference to yourself and to others.
You are both mature,and young too
So i think its great ´will be inþallah i hope´
The one thing that im sure about,and have learnt it the hard way too,that at any age,i dont want to look back and say,i wish that if im teen,20,30,40,50...etc again so i would do...and ...
The lesson i´ve learnt ´try to get the best of it while you are in it´
à just wish i would always use that lesson well myself .
I agree. Being 50 doesn´t bother me at all, especially when people think I´m 40. . My grandmother didn´t get a grey hair until she was 85 and mine is the same colour as hers was, so I´m hopeful
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04 Oct 2008 Sat 12:05 am |
I think that it is different for men than it is for women (since men would still be living in their 3rd or 4th childhood, and probably will never come out of it ) Personally, it is about being able to look myself in the mirror and be proud of the person I’ve become, and looking ahead for the years to come. What is ahead of you is certainly indefinite, but as Canli said, trying to get the best of it while you are still in it, is all you can really do.
But I wonder if I will still be feeling the same after one and a half more years!
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04 Oct 2008 Sat 12:37 am |
But I wonder if I will still be feeling the same after one and a half more years!
So you must be 38.5...
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04 Oct 2008 Sat 02:24 am |
According to the new science and century, 50 - 80 is the middle-age.
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04 Oct 2008 Sat 11:02 am |
Teas, cougar? Three legged hyenas? pmsl! I can´t think of any Polish terms for that but we have a saying pertaining to older women who desperately try to look young and dress like teens. It translates into something like "A high school in the back and museum in the front"
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04 Oct 2008 Sat 11:11 am |
but we have a saying pertaining to older women who desperately try to look young and dress like teens. It translates into something like "A high school in the back and museum in the front"
In England we would say these women were "mutton dressed as lamb"
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04 Oct 2008 Sat 01:57 pm |
but we have a saying pertaining to older women who desperately try to look young and dress like teens. It translates into something like "A high school in the back and museum in the front"
In England we would say these women were "mutton dressed as lamb"
- I like the Polish version better!!!! (not that either of those expressions would ever apply to me of course!!! - )
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04 Oct 2008 Sat 04:02 pm |
(since men would still be living in their 3rd or 4th childhood, and probably will never come out of it )
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04 Oct 2008 Sat 04:08 pm |
I remember two phrases which are kind of old now :
Minare cokmus ama mihrap yerinde
This one is used to describe an elderly woman who was apparently very beautiful when she was young and still carries glimpses of it. It literally translates "The minaret is gone but the altar is still intact."
Hükümet gibi kadin.
Literally translates, "a woman who is like the government" referring to a woman who is not so young but impressive and dominant.
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04 Oct 2008 Sat 05:03 pm |
It literally translates "The minaret is gone but the altar is still intact."
What a great way of saying!
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04 Oct 2008 Sat 06:28 pm |
they also say the older the fiddle the better the tune
I love being in my 40´s
they say old age doesnt come alone, although i prefer the term middle aged ... well in my eyes it doesnt it bring a real sense of confidence... and there are the other benefits.... you know all there is to know about your job, the morgage is paid and with any luck the kids are getting ready to leave home......ahhhhhhhh well i guess two out of three aint bad
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04 Oct 2008 Sat 06:38 pm |
All these phrases about women are quite disgusting. Especially when you consider the fact that half of the time they come from men whose backside possibly looks better then their faces.
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04 Oct 2008 Sat 06:50 pm |
All these phrases about women are quite disgusting. Especially when you consider the fact that half of the time they come from men whose backside possibly looks better then their faces.
There is a saying here when referring to an ugly person . . . he/she would have "a face like a slapped backside" or he/she looks like "the back end of a bus"
If someone looks unkempt we might say they have been "dragged through a hedge backwards"
I agree the phrases about women are disgusting and there don´t seem to be so many about men. I can only think of:
anorak
anal
big girl´s blouse
and the collective noun "d**k heads (excuse the language) which covers a multitude of traits
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05 Oct 2008 Sun 06:42 am |
How does it feel to be 40?
In my case, by the time I could get used to the idea, I had already turned 41.
For younger people you are hopelessly old, for seniors you are still kind of young.
You are in between everything; no longer young but not too old either.
In those 40 years, you have witnessed a large scale transformation from the last remnants of patriarchal society into the information age...........
You seem to be talking about the age of 40 in a specific time, rather than the abstract 40. I think by the time one is 40 they have full responisbility for their actions. The excuse of being a silly wild passionate youth is gone.
I don´t feel a man is a man until he is 40. Dustin Hoffman had an interesting take on it. In an interview I saw of him once, he said that when he was young he couldn´t talk with a woman, any woman, without thinking about sex. Now that he has gotten older, it was like getting a monkey off his back.
The arrogance of youth should have left by the time one is 40. I think men become more sensitive and vulnerable at that time. Their hair has thinned, they are getting a belly and they are more humble.
For everyone, physical prowess is dimished and death seems more real and nearer and one is more aware of it. By the time one is 40, a few friends or relatives have passed on. The seeming invulnerability of youth has gone, and we all realize we are not invulnerable.
For women, the childbearing years, and all that entails, are coming to an end. A new meaning of life comes into focus. Many women begin new careers, as their children gain maturity.
It can be tragic to see a (physically) beautiful woman who has not learned to develop other attrubutes, come to terms with seeing her beauty fade. We all see that with the aged beauty queen with too much make up and too youthful cloths. Learning to age with grace is not easy in our youth enthralled society. There are few role models.
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05 Oct 2008 Sun 07:13 am |
Learning to age with grace is not easy in our youth enthralled society. There are few role models.
Couldn´t agree more with this statement...
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05 Oct 2008 Sun 09:31 am |
You seem to be talking about the age of 40 in a specific time, rather than the abstract 40. I think by the time one is 40 they have full responisbility for their actions. The excuse of being a silly wild passionate youth is gone.
I don´t feel a man is a man until he is 40. Dustin Hoffman had an interesting take on it. In an interview I saw of him once, he said that when he was young he couldn´t talk with a woman, any woman, without thinking about sex. Now that he has gotten older, it was like getting a monkey off his back.
The arrogance of youth should have left by the time one is 40. I think men become more sensitive and vulnerable at that time. Their hair has thinned, they are getting a belly and they are more humble.
For everyone, physical prowess is dimished and death seems more real and nearer and one is more aware of it. By the time one is 40, a few friends or relatives have passed on. The seeming invulnerability of youth has gone, and we all realize we are not invulnerable.
For women, the childbearing years, and all that entails, are coming to an end. A new meaning of life comes into focus. Many women begin new careers, as their children gain maturity.
It can be tragic to see a (physically) beautiful woman who has not learned to develop other attrubutes, come to terms with seeing her beauty fade. We all see that with the aged beauty queen with too much make up and too youthful cloths. Learning to age with grace is not easy in our youth enthralled society. There are few role models.
Beautifully put Alameda.
Dustin Hoffman has always been one of my favourites and he just seems to get better with age. Robert Redford too.
Personally, I´ve never worried about getting older but I´m thankful I´ve been blessed with good skin. I´m also thankful that I´m not in the public eye. I think celebrities are under so much pressure to keep up appearances, especially if they have been lauded for their good looks.
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05 Oct 2008 Sun 04:44 pm |
Dustin Hoffman has always been one of my favourites and he just seems to get better with age. Robert Redford too.
I am not sure if this statement of his is so admirable. I think it´s much more related to the horrible sex education that boys are getting.
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05 Oct 2008 Sun 09:18 pm |
I am not sure if this statement of his is so admirable. I think it´s much more related to the horrible sex education that boys are getting.
Well, I wasn´t referring to his statement But actually, if you´re talking about Hoffman then the tense should be past as he was talking about his youth. I understand his comment to mean he has learned how to relate to women as he has aged, which means that whatever influences he had as a youth, they have been overshadowed by what he has learned as he lived his life. Perhaps he actually listened to the women he met and learned from them.
As for his influences in his youth . . . I blame Mrs Robinson
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