same here!

And why is that, eh? (by the way, lovely letterbox )

 thanks cnm

I kinda expected that because you´re a feminist

 I would say there is absolutely nothing wrong with him.  Perhaps he has been spending time getting an education, building his career and having a little fun.  I wouldn´t even consider marrying a guy UNDER 35.   As far as never being married before...there is something to be said for being picky and wanting to find the right person.

Is there a possibility to get you on our side too? (I mean to become a feminist...)

 I must be okay then.

 You must feel comforted that you are married before you are 35

 In lebanon we donnot change the name so the lady get to keep her last name but her register number will change since her name will be moved from her father´s register to her husband´s register. However on her passport and ID they add (married to "husband´s full name")

France changed recently its law and children can get both parents last name as in spain if parents wish to do  so.

I know it probably isn´t thought of in Lebanon...but being registered to your father´s register or your husband´s register seems a bit...well....degrading.  It just seems a bit like ownership.  Is it possible for a woman to be registered to her own house?   Just curious.

All these things are possible without legally marrying. You can live together, with or without a (financial) notary contract, but a marriage cerificate isn´t necessary for that. In the Netherlands there are three contractual options: marriage (m/f, m/m or f/f), a legalised partnership (the same but also possible for people who don´t have a sexual relationship e.g. 2 living together brothers, a mother and her son) or a notary contract (possible for everyone, also for more than 2 persons).

 Well,we both have different bases to start with cat

Where in your world ´West´,it is acceptable that you have a relationship without marriage with your partner,in mine´East´ it is not.

So in my world if there is no marriage there will be no relation ´intimate i mean´ between man and woman .

Ýts not valid for us and we dont accept it by all means.

The only relation we accept it between man and woman ´again i mean intimate ´ is formed in marriage.

Ým not discussing what should or what shouldnt,but what i am curious about is something else

What is the problem or let me say the difference between marriage and long relationship between 2 people ?

Ým talking about relation where you want to spend your life with your partner.

Ý met someone who was in a stable relationship  for 15 years and having children too

He left his lady and kids after that time because he felt he wasnt free spirited enough !and he didnt want to carry further responsibilities...!

SO,he just left her with their kids on their own!

But he visit them,that i must say ! ´grrr´

Ý agree it also can happen in marriage...

So what is the difference ?

To me,both of them are the same,only first one is documented and second is not

So if they are the same,then isnt it much secure for both parts to have a formal shape of their relation before establishing a life?

Ýn my opinion its their responsibility toward themselves and their children too if they are planing a serious long relationship.