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That´s the thing Canli, I don´t think there is much difference.... but maybe I will change my mind some day. I personally could not have a relationship that is somehow based on intimidation, force or fear... it would have to be a relationship that is based on mature commitment and responsibility, therefore, I don´t think that marriage is necessary. If I am married and my husband wants to leave and not take care of our children, I would not force him to stay - I don´t want to have a person like that in my life anyway. I don´t want his money or anything else... I cannot imagine not being independent financially and emotionally in my life, and that means that I do not want anybody in my life who does not bring me the things that a relationships should bring -- love, caring, respect... For a woman, it is more difficult and risky when there are children involved. That´s why every woman should not get married or have a child before she is financially independent and develops a career and independent personality of her own.
à cant say i disagree with you at any of what you have said above
But you also didnt get what i mean fully
à agree that %100 women should be financially independent,smart women should,even if their men´husbands are responsibile for all the financial issues at home
Never the less,women shouldnt put their necks in anyone´s hands !
And if a man or a woman want out,they are more than welcome,and they by no mean shouldnt be forced to stay.
For what ?! What would they offer to the marriage or relation if they are forced to stay ?!
à dont mean by secure just financially secure,i mean all,emotionally too
ÃF.. women/men refused having any intimate relationship outside the bond of marriage that would lessen the number of affairs outside marriage between married men/women and other women/men
And if the man wanted another woman,his only way is to get the divorce and marry the other one
And that goes also for the women
à guess that would be more secure for both women and men ´emotionally here´
The second thing,
Marriage or a relationship is not just about man or woman,it involve kids in between ´if it meant to be for establishing a family´
And those kids have rights toward their mother´s and their father´s as well,once parents thought of having children their responsibilities toward them would start
That goes for both men and women.
And it is the children´s rights that,their father´s carry their responsibility as any other kids,and if he didnt want,he should be forced !
Ãt is their rights.
Ãm not talking about the woman here,even in such cases women are the ones who carry that responsibilities,and do well at many cases,but STÃLL it affect the childern too some how financially and emotionally.
As long as being in a relation is same as marrige,then why not marriage ?
The way i understand it goes like that...
You dont have to sign many papers ,and you dont have to go through hell if you want out.
That is the only differences i find
Yes ?
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lol
And the cost of it is so ridiculous that it just makes the whole thing mind boggling...