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Best Age to get married?
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| 70. |
17 Nov 2008 Mon 01:31 am |
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Lol, I didn´t even appear to MY wedding party! I had warned my parents. Told them that there was no way I would spend that night with a bunch of people I hadn´t seen for ages, smiling and talking to them politely, ignoring the fact that they would spend the night gossiping about how I look, how I dance, how cold the dishes are, how tasteless the food, how cheap the drinks etc etc etc. And finally, if they had money to waste, they would better buy us two tickets to...anywhere, to celebrate our wedding.
They said that they had to follow the tradition and give the party and so they did. But we
were having a great night instead, at a live club, with my bro, his sis and our close friends. 
Ha ha
I really like your way..
Actually, I could never ever imagined myself getting married in a traditional way..
It was my nightmare to think myself as the groom like ´a show horse´ in a traditional Turkish wedding..
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| 71. |
17 Nov 2008 Mon 01:39 am |
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For a certain prefered kind of marriage, marriage age depends on how soon you can find your soul mate.
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| 72. |
17 Nov 2008 Mon 01:44 am |
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i dont believe in big weddings.. all we need are some witnesses and the pastor/kadi.. maybe we can invite some close relatives and friends... why stress yourself with big weddings and end up in debt.. it´s all unnecessary and not a must so you have a choice not to do it. Besides, marriage is a spiritual reunion of a couple for life. I rather spend the money on honeymoon or on my future home.
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| 73. |
17 Nov 2008 Mon 07:53 pm |
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i dont believe in big weddings.. all we need are some witnesses and the pastor/kadi.. maybe we can invite some close relatives and friends... why stress yourself with big weddings and end up in debt.. it´s all unnecessary and not a must so you have a choice not to do it. Besides, marriage is a spiritual reunion of a couple for life. I rather spend the money on honeymoon or on my future home.
yes that was what i had in mind. big weddings are too much.
I think the purpose of marriage, is that it is more than just a union of two people, it is a commitment of your union to God. Two people being one, unseparable no matter what struggles they have etc...
I think some people either forget this part after they get married, that´s why it´s so easy to get divorced, and easy to forget the purpose of marriage. And since they forget the "commitment to God and promise to God" part of the marriage, it is easy for people to think that marriage is not needed at all. and plus, the divorce option doesn´t help either. Why get married and promise someone to be with them through the good times and the bad? this promises don´t hold much meaning if the option of divorce is present.
No wonder why it is so easy for some people to get married because they have the option to end the relationship when they don´t feel like being married, and no wonder why some people choose not to get married as well. In this present day, there is not much value in marriage anymore.
that´s just how i see it.
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| 74. |
17 Nov 2008 Mon 09:28 pm |
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I would say there is absolutely nothing wrong with him. Perhaps he has been spending time getting an education, building his career and having a little fun. I wouldn´t even consider marrying a guy UNDER 35.  As far as never being married before...there is something to be said for being picky and wanting to find the right person.
I see your point, and it´s totally valid. But from my perspective, I see this guy like, if he´s as good as I think he is, some other girl would have swooped him up by now. There´s got to be something he´s hiding. Maybe he leaves dirty underwear everywhere or something small like that - but he might also be a total player (for the record, most of the guys I know over 35 who aren´t married sleep with different girls every night and that´s why they aren´t married.)
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| 75. |
17 Nov 2008 Mon 11:33 pm |
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Ha ha
I really like your way..
Actually, I could never ever imagined myself getting married in a traditional way..
It was my nightmare to think myself as the groom like ´a show horse´ in a traditional Turkish wedding..
With me, you ll never EVER have to stand the torture of a traditional Turkish (or Greek) wedding. So, what do you think? Shall I buy two tickets to Peru? 
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| 76. |
17 Nov 2008 Mon 11:44 pm |
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With me, you ll never EVER have to stand the torture of a traditional Turkish (or Greek) wedding. So, what do you think? Shall I buy two tickets to Peru?
Perfect Sophie..
Just pm me the dates..I will be there  
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| 77. |
17 Nov 2008 Mon 11:48 pm |
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I see your point, and it´s totally valid. But from my perspective, I see this guy like, if he´s as good as I think he is, some other girl would have swooped him up by now. There´s got to be something he´s hiding. Maybe he leaves dirty underwear everywhere or something small like that - but he might also be a total player (for the record, most of the guys I know over 35 who aren´t married sleep with different girls every night and that´s why they aren´t married.)
Most of the guys I know who are over 35 and never been married have been working on their advanced degrees and haven´t had time for many girlfriends. Maybe one or two of them are players but most have been in very long term relationships that didn´t work out. I guess it just depends on the people you know.
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| 78. |
15 Dec 2008 Mon 01:57 pm |
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For a certain prefered kind of marriage, marriage age depends on how soon you can find your soul mate.
There is no disagreeing with this.........
Although I am somewhat unsure what the purpose of marriage actually is!
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| 79. |
15 Dec 2008 Mon 04:58 pm |
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Although I am somewhat unsure what the purpose of marriage actually is!
Well, in the modern world, it is merely a legal contract that can be reversed at will when things get too difficult. It is perverse how much money people spend on a wedding! Wouldn´t it be better to buy a nice home?
For me personally, I prefer to be married because I am far to traditional and set in my ways to do otherwise. But I think its perfectly fine for two people who want to be together not to get married as long as they both understand that they have no legal rights.
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| 80. |
15 Dec 2008 Mon 05:15 pm |
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But I think its perfectly fine for two people who want to be together not to get married as long as they both understand that they have no legal rights.
Having been married, and having very nearly lost my house at the end of it, not having any legal rights is a very good reason NOT to get married!!!
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