I would like as much detailed explanation of turkish mothers. I recently married a Turkish man in the states and will have another marriage ceremony in July in Turkey. This means that I will meet my in-laws face to face at that time. We will stay for 1 month.

I would like to know what to expect about Turkish mothers, rules of the house, and rules with family members that are usually different from American culture. 

My in-laws are conservative muslims as are me and my husband. And they are from Istanbul/Adapazari region.

 if you are a conservative muslim yourself you shouldnt have a problem at all.

 Can´t your husband give you tips on what his mother is like? 

 Clarissa,

Even in Turkia, mothers are not all the same, even if they are conservative Muslims.  Some mother in laws are wonderful and helpful, others treat the bride like a slave. It will very much depend on your particular mother in law.

I am guessing from your name, Clarissa, you are not Turkish. This will give you more room to manuver, as you will not be expected to know the "Turkish Gelin rules"......

if shes bad, hes not gonna tell her,

ummmmmmmmm... yeah clarissa, my moms a real B so watch out okay, shes horrible and etc etc!!!!!!

I am an American married to a Turk.  My mother-in-law is sweet, thoughtful, and always cheerful but like alameda said, that is just her personality.  She is very opinionated and doesn´t feel bad to express it (which I have come to appreciate because I always know what she feels).  She was concerned about cultural differences at first, but really, what made it easiest for me was that my husband made it absolutely clear to his family that all the decisions about our life/children and whatever else would be made by him and me.....and not the "family."  I had to make the same things clear to my family as well.  Setting up boundries early on is the best way to avoid future arguements. 

Some mother in laws feel that they need to show the gelin who´s the boss. Luckily mine has been such a sweetie and treats me much better than any other member in the family. I think Alameda is right that she won´t give you a hard time, at least in my experience. I think they tend to be harder on "traditional gelins" because they should know the rules. They are just passing on a new tradition, it´s not because they´re evil or anything

The most important rule is "respect" and having "moral values". These two are cultural things. Maybe, you already know these: like not smoking, not crossing your legs, not showing affection to your husband in front of them... Always offering help to your mother-in-law in the kitchen, not letting them serve you etc...And kissing her the "muslim way": kissing slightly her hand and putting it on your forehead. Do not call her just with her name, say either her name + anne (mom) or just "anne".

I have a question about the "kissing" thing - my bf told me about it, but my impression was that it is something to do to offer respect to the elders (like grandparents). So is it also acceptable/desirable to kiss your parents/in-laws that way? Is it ok for a female to kiss the hand of the father-in-law (or bf´s fa) too? Or just the mother? Is that something you do when you first meet them or when you´re more familiar with them? And it´s the right hand you kiss, right? I´d appreciate more explanation about it.

Thank you

 I think the safest is to ask your bf about it, it can vary. Some like that you slightly touch their hand with your lips, others will cringe. In our family, I do it when I haven´t seen them in a long time (also the first time) and the muslim holidays. If the family is muslim, don´t kiss the hand of the father... but then again being Turkish, they may go lightly with it. Again it´s a thing your bf can advise you on.

Good luck