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RUMORS THAT TURKISH HUSBAND ARE VERY JEALOUS?
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12 Feb 2009 Thu 08:25 pm |
it´s actually MY opinion so there is no supporting link.
No supporting link? GG, how do you expect some people to understand what you say without one?
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12 Feb 2009 Thu 08:30 pm |
This is a personal attack. I have specifically stated in several posts that I am not jealous!
Okay Elisabeth....you are not jealous.....so be it....
Although you did say you would mind sharing your husband with other wives....you said you do have feelings...do those feelings have a name???
But as you say, you are not jealous....
More to the point on the topic of this thread which was are Turkish men jealous?.....it really wasn´t about if you, an American, or Trudy a European are jealous.
The question was regarding Turkish men, and I believe they are.
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12 Feb 2009 Thu 08:45 pm |
I´m soooooooooo sorry that I got that wrong. Happily for me it means I don´t need to search for a link for the word ´condescending´, you know what that means.
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12 Feb 2009 Thu 09:09 pm |
I´m soooooooooo sorry that I got that wrong. Happily for me it means I don´t need to search for a link for the word ´condescending´, you know what that means.
Yes I do Trudy.....but all this has nothing to do with the topic. It´s personal dispute.
Do you want to understand Turkish culture better? You seem to be facinated with the country, based on all the trips you have made and judging from your many essays, you don´t really seem to understand the culture, but rather seek to impose your standards on it.
Turkey is NOT Holland. Even if you are not Christian, the culture is mostly dominated by Christian culture and evolved out of a Protestant Christianity, in fact your countries government policies, although secular, base their policies on basic Christian doctrine.
What is accepted as normal in Holland, or many other places in Europe, is not considered normal or acceptable in Turkey.
Being casual with one´s love interest and not showing any display of jealousy is one very basic difference.
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12 Feb 2009 Thu 09:20 pm |
but rather seek to impose your standards on it.
Look who´s talking.....
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12 Feb 2009 Thu 09:54 pm |
I am not going decry anything anyone has written here because that is your view and you are entitled to that view. But please listen when some of us say we are not jealous.
I wrote how long I had been married and I have never been jealous. If my husband wants to look at another woman, then so what? If I want to look at another man, so what? It does not mean we are going to run off with someone else, far from it, it makes our relationship stronger if we allow each other that stretch of freedom.
If I did not have my freedom (and him likewise) to the extent to which we allow, we would not have been married for so long.
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76. |
12 Feb 2009 Thu 10:26 pm |
LL is am still chanting my mantra.....can I stop now?
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12 Feb 2009 Thu 11:23 pm |
LL is am still chanting my mantra.....can I stop now?
Hahaha!! Oh sorry I didn´t say how long for.................. yes of course you can stop and go and get a well earned drink in the lounge which appears to be sadly in decline in these times of recession some people hey???
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13 Feb 2009 Fri 08:43 pm |
Hahaha!! Oh sorry I didn´t say how long for.................. yes of course you can stop and go and get a well earned drink in the lounge which appears to be sadly in decline in these times of recession some people hey???
Lounge is very lonely......our bartender has been on hiatis! I will have to start without everyone!
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14 Feb 2009 Sat 04:55 am |
Not having enough time to write, but want to add my 2 pennies.
Jealousy is norm in our culture, it goes both ways, i mean its a he and a she thing , no differences here.
To us, its essential in the relationship to some extent, but if it exceeded it, then its sickness and can break up the relationship all together
Still, if you dont feel jealous, then you simply dont care, dont love !
So, actually we dont really get it when others ´other cultures´ say they dont get/feel jealous.
Ãn our logic/understanding/culture, Yes, s/he trust him/herself, successful, trust him/her and at same time feel jealus too...by no mean nothing to be ashamed of!
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14 Feb 2009 Sat 12:13 pm |
I am not going decry anything anyone has written here because that is your view and you are entitled to that view. But please listen when some of us say we are not jealous.
I wrote how long I had been married and I have never been jealous. If my husband wants to look at another woman, then so what? If I want to look at another man, so what? It does not mean we are going to run off with someone else, far from it, it makes our relationship stronger if we allow each other that stretch of freedom.
If I did not have my freedom (and him likewise) to the extent to which we allow, we would not have been married for so long.
A sensible post in a sea of crap
Complete agree!
Edited (2/14/2009) by TheAenigma
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