Well, I seemto have ruffled a few feathers here.
I dont think you did (it could have been my hair )
1. The woman is extremely intelligent. Intelligent people get emotionally abused, too. She is, like many many other people, hoping it will get better. That´s known as being human. People will stay in relationships long after they should, because they have hope.
Well, the case you are talking is ( according to me) a hopeless case from the the woman´s point of view..The messages are clear and if she is not getting the message you may call it ´she is hoping´ but I will call it ´being naive´. A person should know when to finish a relation. Obviously she does not know..
2. Real Turkish men won´t accept help. Is that right? So who is supposed to do the
things that need doing? Real people accept help, it´s normal.
She can do many of those things you mentioned in your earlier posts.. There are many single women living and dealing with all those things by themselves..Is she disabled?
3. Be careful? In what way be careful? Thats a very macho statement.
I would be. Because your helps might be the reason to write her off in his mind (I spent many years abroad and if my partner asked the same man for help for those type of things,the things would be different for me right now..And many of my friends work abroad if there was a person like you helping their wives, they would not stay married. That is the reason I said I would be careful)
4. "If the same man is turning up with help when neccessary" - "when neccessary" - that means something needs to be done. So why isn´t he doing the stuff himself? Would it be Ok then if a woman was doing the helping?
A woman should be able to deal most the things by herself..As I said, many single women are in the same situation.
5. Has anyone bothered to read any of the links, or the History Foundation report?
I have not..But what is it going to tell us which we dont know?
6. From a Turkish schoolbook: “We are Turkish, we are superior to everyone else.” (M. Ulusavaþ (2007), Middle School Traffic and First Aid, p. 47. Ankara: Ministry of Education Publications).
There are more than 5000 racist references in publications from ministry of education. But a Turk in a foreign country is a different matter. We call those racist remarks ´Turkish propaganda for Turks´ most of the times.
7. What point am I missing? " First of all, being a macho man is not charactheristic of Turkish men only but almost every men in the region of Middle East and most part of Asia." - And that makes it OK?
I never said that was OK..
8. So when exactly will the level of the culture go up? -
Quote from a Department of State report - Human Rights In Turkey, 2004
link - http://www.state.gov/g/drl/rls/hrrpt/2004/41713.htm -
Violence against women remained a serious problem, and discrimination against women persisted. Trafficking in persons, particularly women, remained a problem.
This was 5 years ago. Has everything changed dramatically?
Increasing the level of culture is a process and it is dynamic..
It appears that most posters want to blame the women for "letting this happen", rather than accepting the fact that the men may, just possibly, be emotional abusers. Why is that?
Sorry but he might be an emotional abuser or a jerk but why is this woman not finishing it and letting it continue?
Edited (3/30/2009) by thehandsom
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