“I actually look good,” Mr. Sodini wrote. “I dress good, am clean-shaven, bathe, touch of cologne — yet 30 million women rejected me — over an 18 or 25-year period. That is how I see it. Thirty million is my rough guesstimate of how many desirable single women there are.

“A man needs a woman for confidence. He gets a boost on the job, career, with other men, and everywhere else when he knows inside he has someone to spend the night with and who is also a friend.”

I guess one should be very tender and gentle when dealing with others.  If not out of compassion, perhaps for survival.  Sometimes people snap.

I think his being bald explains everything.

 It is not known how people dealt with this individual or many others that resort to this type of violence.  Many times, when friends are asked about these people in the aftermath, they say they never saw it coming, that everything seemed so normal.

These individuals live in their own little minds.  No matter what ayone else does, even when people are compassionate.........they see things differently.  They feel everyone is against them. 

Not having a girlfriend did not push this man into going in to a gym and opening fire on innocent people....his mental illness did.

I still insist that it`s all about his being bald.

I think your assumption is somewhat misleading, alameda.  Take the case of Ted Bundy.  He would pretent to be hurt and when a young girl would try to assist him (assuming they were trying to be kind), he would drag them into his van and later kill them.  I don´t think you have to be particularly mean or nice to people like this, they will percieve you as they see things and not necessarily see reality. 

Of course, you should always be kind to everyone.....even people you disagree with regularly, on the internet!

What a sick and demented story, BTW!  You just never know about people.

 Do I need to send you a wig along with your snowglobes??

thanks but I have a good amount of hair on my head, you can keep it for your husband.

 .........and landmines don´t explode until agitated in some way....

 Oh sweetie it doesn´t count as "head hair" when you´ve shaved it off your back and glued it to your head. 

you should tell this to your husband gg, not me . this is not a my husband sucks club.

 So, are you saying that the victims are to blame? 

 Yes, I agree with much of what you say.  Each case is unique.  Ted Bundy was in a whole other class.  He was a psychopath.

"In 1965, Bundy graduated from Woodrow Wilson High. Awarded a scholarship by the University of Puget Sound (UPS), he began that fall taking courses in psychology and Oriental studies. After two semesters at UPS, he decided to transfer to Seattle´s University of Washington (UW).

While he was a university student, Bundy worked as a grocery bagger and shelf-stocker at a Seattle Safeway store on Queen Anne Hill, as well as other odd jobs. As part of his course of studies in psychology, he would later work as a night-shift volunteer at Seattle´s Suicide Hot Line, a suicide crisis center that served the greater Seattle metropolitan and suburban areas. He met and worked alongside former Seattle policewoman and fledgling crime writer Ann Rule, who would later write a biography of Bundy and his crimes, The Stranger Beside Me."

I  think we should step lightly. Sometimes we do not really understand how to be kind.  We stomp through the forrest with thick boots tramping through the brush, breaking branches (and life contained in it) underneath our feet. 

All I´m saying is maybe if we "Try a little tenderness" it can help.

 ????...............how on earth did you come to that conclusion?????...............no my dear, there is a whole chain of events leading to different results...each important in it´s own way.

 I find it absolutely hysterical that Elisabeth and I made nearly identical comments and yet you just can´t bear to tell me that you agree with anything I said.  I wonder if doing so would cause your head to explode

 My comments are far better written than yours!  How dare  you say they are identical!!! 

Yours are better written because you are lazy and sit in front of you computer playing all day and have time to draft and edit and use your thesarus. 

I, on the other hand, have to dash in and out and try to get my point across in a quick, yet thoughtful, insightful and eloquent manner. 

This is the gym I belong to, however in a different state.  I know how the rooms are set up and I can only imagine how these people felt.I agree with GG...see I said you first   AND Lis.   I´m wondering why he couldn´t find somebody...Isn´t there a someone for everyone? I mean even if this person wasn´t great looking..there are so many woman who are desperately seeking a man as a man seeking a woman.  It sounds like his excuse to rationalize his means of killing in the end.

OFFFF! You always agree with GG! 

Anyway, good point.  Could it be that this guy gave off a "creepy stalker vibe" that no one wanted to be nice to him?  I don´t think any amount of kindness would have stopped him.  When you make up your mind to kill someone, I don´t think there is a point where you say, "well, if this person is nice to me, I will just go home and not kill anyone tonight."

 I have always liked you teas

Hiccup!   

 Awww.....

 I don´t agree that she enjoys four wheeling...I find it kind of red neckish..  Your right Lis, I don´t think if someone would have said. Hey, you smell nice he would have done things differently. 

  Ok...maybe I don´t always like you!

 Now wait just a minute.....this is coming from a fan of "W"??????????? 

How much more freakin red neck can one girl get??????????? 

 But I have learned to live with your other extreme addictions... sky diving that is.

 Your thinking of Lis...she is his neighbor. 

 Oh the pair of you are both cut from the same coon-skin cloth....just a couple of freakishly-conservative, god-fearin, mid-western livin, Bush-lovin beeches. 

 Yeah, maybe so, but I think I can probably survive in the wilderness much better than a tree hugging liberal.......When Obama has us all living in tent cities, don´t come crying to me...."OH, Lis, when you go hunting can you shoot me a deer.....can you clean my fish....I just don´t believe in guns and killing innocent fishies".....wawawa!  boohoo hoo

Oops....I thought you had left  

BUT.....You prove my point you bambi-killer! 

 You know what?  I´m not putting my tent next to yours!  You can just forget about it!

 But, but...you know I am afraid of teas when she starts doing her camp-fire dance and howling at the moon

 Well my dear, I can well clean a fish...(if I must)  More than that, I know what leaf, seeds, roots and plants to eat and what ones to stay away from.....as well as which ones treat what....how to start fire, collect water & render it potable, make shelter....and I´m a tree hugging LIBERAL!

 Good for you alameda....you are a credit to tree huggers everywhere.  Enjoy your tent living.

 Sounds like GG has a potential roommate then.

 Pardon me teas but might I borrow your gun or a nice length of rope? 

 Pills and poison are effective as well and less painful.....

 Anything that will swiftly put me out of my misery!  Maybe I should just drink myself to a stupor and think about my options

 Can I offer you a hide-away here in cloggie country?

 An interesting option! 

 You´re welcome anytime, even when it´s not meant as a hide-away.