hi people i found this site and looking for a bit of advice,i have recently broke up with my turkish bf because i thaught he changed a little bit he is in with a new crowd of friends and he is not the same as he use to be with me,he just didnt seem to be bothered with me.but he still loves me.even tho i finished with him he said i was to controlling which for a fact i no i wasnt i just tried to tell him that he has not been crazy for me how he use to.even tho i finished with him he doesnt want to be with me.if anyone was controlling it was him i didnt do a lot of things for him when he asked me not to.but when i asked him things he doesnt listen.but i do think he loves me.he just said he cant stand how i am anymore.but i dont think i am doing wrong.but i recently found out im pregnant for him and i really dont no what to do.im to scared to tell him,im afraid that he will tell me he still doesnt want me .but i no he loves children so much and he would love a baby,but i dont no what i should do.can anyone give me advise pls.

flowergirl.....not sure where to start.....you need to tell him that you are pregnant first of all.  After that, you both need to put your own feelings aside and come to an agreement about your baby.  I am not going to tell you what you should do, only you can decide how to live your life but I will say that sometimes relationships are ended in haste over a series of misunderstandings.  I wish you the best of luck. 

Yes, you should tell him right away.  However, I would make a decision based on what YOU want to do.  Even if you think he loves you and will be there for you and the baby, consider the possibility that he may not.  Good luck!

I´d hate to disappoint you but being too controlling is often used by Turkish boyfriends when they break uo ( have a look at the translation forum or Turkish bf experience some members shared here). I don´t think he doesn´t want to be with you for this particular reason, it´s just an excuse.

I think you should tell him about the pregnancy but don´t expect him to shoulder the responsibility. And if he does, make sure it´s on your terms, don´t put yourself in a situation where either you or your baby might suffer.

Good luck!

I am really sorry to hear that you are in this situation Flowergirl. However, I completely agree with Daydreamer. It sounds like breaking up with someone and saying that the reason is that "you are too controlling" is very manipulative and abusive and he does sound like a controlling person himself. He is putting the blame on you while he is doing whatever he wants, not taking your feelings into consideration whatsoever.

It sounds to me that you would be better off dumping him completely, whether you choose to have your baby or not.

Good luck..

Well, as they say, man to man is not equal and do not generalize. In my experience of the individuals in the study the opposite sex (what a pity the way that the only available), met people, or completely non-sensitive, or on the contrary przewrażliwionych - unfortunately, in your point.
Turning to the main topic, ie the handling of individuals - though the opposite sex .- This is commonly known that they have a problem with the presentation of the emotions. Of course, that these feelings are, we know only from their declaration - it is not on scientific evidence. And there probably begin with the problem. We have a statement: we love the guy, but the symptoms that result in him shall be quite different from ours. So begins a monologue in our thread in the background "if you love me to ... because I love it when you do it ..." which ends with the increase in blood pressure and not only in the donor and recipient monologue.
If yes (in theory of course) to make this case more as a friend, friend, etc., without expectations, zniecierpliwienia without reproachful. I do not speak here about guys who betray - to say goodbye to the swift impact in place of the lower limbs, where the back end to its noble name - with more or less cenzuralnym epithet.
With respect to the other, this may be so try to learn not to torment his expectations, his failed attempt to take our satisfaction, as a first step child. Anielska patience to learn from us how to proceed. And how difficult it is, unfortunately, know very well...However, because of an overproduction of serotonin there remain closer mad in his hopeless optimism and believe that the problems will be tame.
What you and I greet you warmly and wish you

Good Luck

p.s. maybe its not exactly answer for you question but think about it also

Foka.... are you ok? What are you talking about??

Foka or Freud? 

 im not...but when i read her...my psycholgy devil woke up

I know that i dont know

 i bet Freud is better then me