Merhaba!

I would like to know, traditionaly (and non traditionaly), how long a couple would wait before introducing their boyfriend/girlfriend to their family?

I have heard that its not ´important´ to introduce girlfriends/boyfriends to families untill maybe after 1-2 years of dating. Is this typically true?

I know its probably different for different people/scenarios, but any insight into this subject would be much appreciated.

Tesekkurler

Katerina

From what I know there is no strict criteria. It all depends on what kind of family it is. If it is a modern family where dating is considered natural, then the person is introduced very early. If it´s a more traditional family in which dating is almost equivalent with marriage, then the girlfriend/boyfriend is introduced at the point when the person feels pretty confident about their partner being ´the one´.

As Catwoman has already written, it depends on the family.  In rather more "traditional" famlies, there is no dateing what so ever.....there are no boy or girl friends anyway. 

One or two years of dating....?????..........only very modern Turkish famlies would consider that. Even in the US, when a friend of the opposite sex is introduced to family, eyes are raised and the introduction is taken as a sign of something very serious........and sometimes it´s hard to convince them otherwise. 

Yes, that is true. In the more traditional families, there is no dating. People are hooked up through their families and meet a couple times, probably in the presence of the rest of the family, then get engaged and marry.

Maybe someone Turkish could clarify these things a bit more.

Its not quite as stark as your post seems to imply....It may be that way in some areas, but most have actually known each other as school mates, or through various social interactions growing up.  It´s just they don´t date.  After they are engaged they are able to spend a lot of time together.....just not alone...

As far as I can remember and this does not necessarily have to apply to the present time; if a boy is not willing to introduce a girl to his family, he is probably not considering the relationship very seriously.

Yes.. I know some relatively present exaples of that.. so this is still true.

I agree with Vineyards.

I can only speak for myself, but my fiance and I never had any problems regarding this subject. I was introduced at an early stage, we got to be just boyfriends/girlfriends with no pressure on anything more. We also lived together in Istanbul before getting engaged, and experienced no problems at all.  (Though not all of the older generations knew about it ).

And I would actually consider them a pretty traditional family too.

Nothing has confused me more then relationships in Turkey. Especially relationships of Turkish boys I have seen boys introduce girls to their so called traditional families after only a week or two, and introducing their second and third girlfriend as well (not second and third in time, I mean second and third girlfriend in the same moment in time). I can not put my finger on it. I can not even say "this is normal for traditional families and this for modern families."

Is their a general guideline in introducing your partner in Turkey? I´m saying no Each family has their own standards of what they think is normal...how hypocrite it may be at times.