Merhaba!

Very stereotypical of me, but...

A hundred English girls holiday in Turkey, and fall in love Turkish men. But I never hear of English boys going over to Turkey and falling hoplessly in love with Turkish girls? I suppose it does happen, but i presume it is rare, because i never hear of it? Why is that?

Is it because Turkish men are "romeo´s", and generally more romantic than English men? Or is it because Turkish girls are not available? Or...??

What are your thoughts? Opinions?

Katerina

Are you one of those who fell in love for Turkish Romeos´ ?

We had here an english user who fell in love for a turkish girl...

i think it´s cause turks are up for romancing anything that walks; keeps them sharp. i´ve dated a few turks and they´re very lovable, just like spanish men.

 and a lot of english speaking users who fell in love with turkish guys

 you are mistaken here!!! Spanish men are like Turkish men

the reason for that turkish society normally doesnt behave logically, they just behave how they feel generally we dont care the consequences of what we are doing at the moment that comes with going after your instincts and desires but this is what i examined on personal relationships... not in daily life routines...

but again there might be some exceptions or better upgraded models like me

The reason is simple....

How many Turkish girls have you seen working in touristic places? In bars...restaurants... hotels... 

And when you look at the gender-composition of the tourist, you´ll also see a LARGE number of females

I have a bit ´behind the scenes´ knowledge on the whole Turkish boys-tourist girls relationships. Loads of boys are doing this as part of their business. Their bosses push them to flirt with the girls. Loads of times girls walk around in large groups, or are with families. The girls tell the group they´re with that they want to see Ahmet/Ozzy/Ali again, so the whole group goes back to the bar/restaurant where he works. And...spends a lot of money there. Sad situation, but it´s true.

I´m not saying every Turkish boy-foreign girl relationship is something that the Turkish boy pushed for because of business, but it is the large majority of the relationships. And the other relationships are just a matter of people being meeting eachother, which is difficult for the Turkish girls since they are simple not there.

 Haha, yes, i indeed fell in love with a Turkish Romeo. But im not the stereotypical drunken holiday maker who fell in love with a Waiter in Marmaris I have fallen in love with a respectable friend of my family´s. Well, so far he´s been respectable!

What you say is very true, i don´t doubt it for one second. Its such a shame so many silly girls fall for these men. They dont understand its part of their job.

 How nice to have both: job and pleasure 2 in 1

 yes please

 Have you just ordered coffe or tea,with lemon or both?

Ah yes, the joy of being a man-ho

A lot of guys think it´s soooo cool that they flirt and do more with girls for their jobs...until I point it out that they are basically selling their bodies to get a bit more cash... I mean...if you´re just having jiggy jiggy with a girl because you think it will lead to you earning more cash... well, she´s not giving you the money in your hand right after the deed, but with some delay it´s almost the same as being a male prostitute...

Man, did I have some tourist industry workers shouting at me that they are NOT prostitutes and that their escepades are TOTALLY different and sure...it´s with money in mind but NO way that they are like the working girls

dear frıends

there many bad examples may be but these are do no mean that all of people pf Turkey is same or thınk same about gırls or foreıgns

as you know ın a hand there is five fingers but they are not same

so we can not tell such kınd of thıngs for all citizens

you can be rgiht for right resons

but there are many ladies who are coming here for holidays but they are also want some bad things

 I would love to defend Turkish men and say it is all untrue as I am married to one (we met here in the US - not on a resort!! ).  You are right they are not all the same BUT the truth of the matter is,  the men on these resorts (by in large) are encouraged to "entertain" the ladies who come to Turkey.  I don´t want to judge people who go on vacation and have a good time with a guy BUT a long term relationship should not be expected.  Sure, it can happen, but I would say the largest portion of these relationships are based on sex and you don´t need to be a relationship expert to know that relationships based on sex seldom work out.  If you are going to hook up with a worker on any resort, anywhere in the world, you must realize that this person is going to be with an entirely new group of people the week after. 

... and remember that he was with lots of other groups before ....

if all of us lıke that then many of european ladıes are bad i should have said but i do not thınk so

even some of them married or have someone ın tehır country they are havıng fun with barmaid waiter or staff

whıch of them are honest

or can i say all of foreigns who visit here are bad

surely not

so i am tellıng agaın you can not make class for all people

it is wrong and cruel way to say all of them

Why so serious? We´re just having some fun here.

Everybody who passed 15 knows that there´s no point of talking generally about a group of people. I know lots of decent Turkish males and slutty non-Turkish females. There I said it. Cheer up now!

Oh, but this is certainly true, that a lot of women go to Turkey simply to do the jiggy jiggy with some atractive guys.

actually from what I read is many woman go because turkish guys will do the jiggy thing with anything that breathes so you don´t have to dress your best on holiday.......or is that undress

sweet friends it is choice of people and their own life like your like mine may be right or not but when somebody hurt you in the past please do not think that everybody will do same to you again

i only wanted to mean this nothing more

have nice time

LMK I am only quoting what I have read on many sites about the failure of these romances and yes it happens everywhere. Here in Canada many go to the mexican beaches and find the same attention or Barbados  it is not related to just one country but I will say this from what I have read the turkish guys make this a business and a way of life... I am sure they have schools for this

 I do agree with you that what others do is their personal choice and reasons and we are not those who should judge them.At least we are not entitled to play God ,somehow trying to deal with our own mistakes we see the straw in others eyes but not the trunk in ours.

Judging is easy,typically human,nothing increases self esteem better than comparing to others and criticising them.

 Oh yes, I have seen this a lot lately... All joking aside, I wish people would learn that it´s better to make yourself better by improving yourself, instead of just pushing other people further down.

almost an oxymoron  quote I have read your other posts and you seem to be lacking the same fundamentals your are pushing here: explain to me where you are using your own advice

your own quotes

: He went to the bank to get some money with my bankcard...he just told me his grandfather needs money for an operation......

:I have no problem with scarfs and such... and face veils...well, they irritate me a bit since I like to see somebody´s expression....If a woman makes the choice to wear one all by herself, without any pressure from outside (highly unlikely, but whatever...)...To me it seems you shelter yourself too much from the outside, like a bubble.....The only thing that REALLY irritates me are the hypo-headscarfs The girls who wear a mini-skirt with thight leggings under it, while wearing a headscarf (yes I´ve seen them many times).

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Ah yes, the joy of being a man-ho

A lot of guys think it´s soooo cool that they flirt and do more with girls for their jobs...until I point it out that they are basically selling their bodies to get a bit more cash... I mean...if you´re just having jiggy jiggy with a girl because you think it will lead to you earning more cash... well, she´s not giving you the money in your hand right after the deed,

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I´m having an indentity crisis...

I have a bit of Jew in me, but I wasn´t saved yet... even though I have spend loads of time in Turkey! So I thought, maybe I´m a Turk now...that´s why I´m not being taken to safety... but I haven´t received my "mussaka is Turkish, and gyros is kebab in disguise" package either!

So... what the bleep am I...

I can´t be Western European, since I don´t feel a great hatred towards minarets...

When I wrote it, I KNEW this was coming Since I made the bank joke, and I thought the "joking aside" would cover it, but clearly not everybody get´s it.

I said "all joking aside" because the bank part is a joke, since we´ve all heard these stories, and clearly this is not my case. No guys went to the bank, took money from me, or any other horror story. Yes? Clear???

The headscarf girls I´m talking about are actually an example of pushing other people down. If you wear a headscarf, fine, but don´t judge girls who don´t wear a headscarf, especially when you have your body parts hanging out.

A man-ho is not putting the boys down, it´s an observation. When people have sex for money, although it is indirectly, you are a hooker... point. If you think this does not happen, you have your eyes shut. In my moral sphere, this is a bad thing, but each their own.

And the identity crisis...how is that putting other people down? It´s a joke about myself, and the general comments we make about prejudige!

You clearly need to read my comments better and take some of them with a pinch of salt...

i know the simple answer,

it is just realy difficult to find beatiful turkish girl, 95 % ot them are ugly, i am male and i´ve been in turkey twice , 95 % of the girls are realy ugly. the goodlookin girls are usualy form england, russia, france or bulgaria. turkish boys are ugly as well, but the holiday girls have no choise - being with turkish guy or being alone, because there are not too many boys from another countries.

You even have statistics. İmpressing

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Here is my story......
I met a nice Turkish gentleman while on a cruise vacation. He was my waiter. I only saw him once each day in the dining room when he served dinner to my family and myself. We never connected any other time or in any other way. When I returned home, we connected online as friends. After a few months, he invited me to visit Turkey to share his culture, his history, his country, his faith, his family....just to share with me. What to do? I had never travelled so far alone, I had never been to a place where I knew nothing of the language, to a country that is almost entirely Muslim (a religion that I am not), to a world so vastly different from my own. I would be relying heavily on the character and sincerity of this man. (keep in mind, we had spent months connecting online getting to know one another) After much thought and prayer, I decided to go to Turkey.

This was the best decision of my life! I met amazing people, saw every day Turkish life, enjoyed lots of Turkish food (and I mean LOTS!), I learned Turkish history and culture and faith. I was fortunate and blessed to meet the right type of person and enjoy a life changing experience.

Meet someone Turkish. Not for "fun" on vacation, not for what they look like, not for what you think their motivation is in being nice to you. Just try talking to someone Turkish. I would be very surprised if you cannot find something to love about the Turks! They are kind, warm, welcoming, respectful and open......not generalizing, just speaking from my experience alone. I am blessed to have a young Turkish woman who I can call both teacher and friend as well. It took me months of searching online to find someone to give me lessons. When I finally got a return email from my searching, I had no idea if this person was young, old, male, female....I knew nothing. Again I thought and prayed and took a chance. Both this Turkish gentleman and this young Turkish woman are wonderful people, and they are both beautiful to me. They have enriched my life beyond anything I could have imagined! Through both of them, I have met many other Turkish people to include in my life and even if I never saw either of them again (İnşallah, I do) I know I will always be blessed to call them friends and I know they feel the same about me. Turkish people are a very warm and charming culture of people. (yes, there are good and bad in any culture, any faith, any ethnic background) But I think just be sensible and have a good judge of character for any people, and you will find the right ones to connect with.

I think maybe if you are looking at someone from the right angle, you can find beauty in almost anyone in the world. It just might not be in their looks where you will find this beauty. Sometimes the best beauty is found in the hearts of people.

For the record........
Respectively, my charming Turkish gentleman friend and my patient young Turkish teacher and friend, are very handsome and very beautiful. I love them both for what they bring to my life. I find the 2 of them beautiful.......both inside and out.

As can be seen in the picture below (taken in a high school):

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haha this is ridiculous.  Maybe they won´t give you a second chance that´s why youre so rude.

Sex tourism is thriving not just in Turkey but also places like Bali and Argentina. It is gross but most decent men and women wouidnt get involved.

What a load of c**p!!!  I think you don´t know English and have mixed up the words ´ugly´ and ´beautiful´!  Some of the best looking women I´ve ever seen are Turkish.  

My - what an ugly bunch of kids!!    

"Bir deli kuyuya taş atmış, kırk akıllı çıkaramamış"

This is a turkish proverb.

I don´t like getting involved in topics like this but I´d like to share my thoughts on this, In these last couple of months I´ve met some amazingly beautiful (physically and mentally) turkish people. I was pretty ignorant about them and only judged them by the experiences I had (online). however since I started getting to know turkish people in person, I´ve found them quite charming.  I´ve seen turks from blue and blond hair to dark eyes and black hair, they vary a lot, you can´t just generalize all of them by calling them ugly. I feel like you´re just insecure about yourself and just want to degrade them to make you feel better.

 what a load of poppycock

Bir gerizekalının ya içsel cinnet hezeyanı  ya da direk provakasyon amaçlı bir post olduğu açıktı. Hiç kaale alınmasaydı bu kadar uzamazdı.  

hum! You may need glasses because all the Turkish women I met here that married a man and immigrated to my country are very beautiful women and there were plenty of beautiful Turkish women when I was there.  Maybe you wouldn´t know what beauty was even if it hit you in the face with a club.

Ben güzeli nideyim, güzel benim olmadıkça.

I don´t understand why we should prove someone that we are beautiful. let us be not beautiful. What if someone is ugly? why should it even matter? noone can determine his/her physical appearance. Should that person be ashamed of his/her looking? does he/she need to excuse? just being clean should be our responsibility.

Yes, there are ugly turkish women and men. so what? do we need to excuse for them?

Thus, please let´s stop this childish, immature conversation. 

Cool comment.  

but is still seems that some men have to litterally be hit in the face with a cast iron frying pan to see the beauty of women 

That would open the men´s third eye and close the two others

Lets do a beauty contest on forum. Englishes versus Turks. May the most beautiful win 

The prize will be a strawberry chewing gum.

..ama Turbo olsun...

There are no ugly people in that photo.  

Correct!!!