I met someone that´s turkish and he seems to be a good person. I am affraid of falling for him. This is because I hardly know turkish customs and traditions. I don´t know how things work out in Turkey. For example, if I got married  to a turkish guy, what are the traditions? Do they have more than one wife? And if we had children together, is it possible that he can take away my children if the marriage doesn´t work out? If I go to Turkey, what are the laws regarding to child custody? Is it possible that I couldn´t take my child outside Turkey?

I know is too soon to think of all of this, but I don´t want to make a mystake by falling for someone and end up being hurt or in an uncomfortable position in which I can not choose.

 Girl,which world you are living in?

....right.... strange question

No, guys are not supposed to have several wives, but I have met some guys who actually did have several ways, illegally. They were all idiots though.

You shouldn´t ask these kind of questions. Every guy is different. Talk to him about what HE thinks is normal, and look at what kind of a person he is. If Turkey is filled with a-holes, he might be the one good guy. If Turkey is filled with good guys, he might be the one a-hole.

 The issue is that we have 21 st century and still ignorant ppl who have no slightest idea about Turkey.

In the era of net and easy access to information, posts like"Do they have many wives?"just show ignorance and total,total lack of respect...sorry,could not resist!!!

and then you wonder why there are some many translation requests ,broken hearts,dramas and bimbos everywhere....

Ptaszek, aren´t you being rude? I think the OP asked these questions BECAUSE she wanted to learn something, and this is what this site is all about (and a good laugh of course). Not everyone is so familiar with international law as you are birdy Do you have extensive knowledge about ALL countries in the world?

I know polygamy is illegal but still practised on a small scale but I have no idea about child custody. I might be mistaken, but I think in Egypt it´s the father of the child that has custody if the mother is not a citizen, I wonder what´s it like in Turkey. Yes, I can google it but I´m too lazy

Sorry if I seem to be ignorant. It wasn´t my intention to be disrespectful. I am just asking some stupid questions (yes stupid) because I have been thru  a lot in my life. I know it´s logic to look up the info in the net (something I already have done), but I wanted to be oriented by people and not by some google search. I´ve seen lots of things, and no, I don´t know what I was thinking when I posted this in the forum. I guess I´m just very stupid to think I could be oriented in a good way without been made fun off.

Once again SORRY...

 I also do apologise if I appear to be rude and hurt your feelings.I admit I joked in the other thread as your post surprised me and shocked.I am sorry to hear that you had bad experience in the past but I hope all good is for you in the future and all you need is a bit more belief,whatever happens think positive first of all .I know that once bitten twice shy but try to be couregous about future.

I wish you all the best and A BIG SORRY again.

 5 years ago before my first coming to Turkey i thought the same 

Having more than one wife is illegal in Turkey.  Men will have more than one woman though, not just in Turkey, but many countries have stories of famous men and their extra women...legal or not.....so it depends on your man.....but rest assured, he can have only one legal wife in Turkey.

As for custody of the children, I really don´t know about that. I would think it would depend on the citizenship of the child.  If one owes something like child support or alimony in the US, Turkey respects and honours those laws. I think you are asking some important questions, and it´s a good idea to ask them now, but they are also legalistic questions that need verification by someone knowledgable in legal issues.

Perhaps someone here can point you in the right direction.

Family law-Child´s custody/divorce

the best way to find out is calling ,writing to Turkish Embassy  in your country or even  checking their website as such legal info is there for sure.

Thanks to all. I really appreciate it. Just wanted to know further info, since I know a case (were I live) of a man that has 3 wifes. I know how men are (with all the respect), legal or ilegal many have more than one woman in their lives. Since I´ve been thru that experience twice I wanted to make sure that legally htey could have only one wife (ilegaly, well, that´s another story... as many of you said: depends on the man).

As for children, well it would be difficult to me to be separated from one of my children. I have a toddler and you can´t imagine how hard has been for me just to think of the possibility that her father could take her from me. I asked the custody question because I also know of a case of a foreing man that took away the kid from his ex-wife. But I don´t remember what country he was from, neighter if the kid was born in his country or hers (she´s an US citizen). It was a very heartbreaking story...

There´s a spanish saying that says: "Es mejor prevenir que precaver" (It´s better to prevent than to beware). That´s what I´m trying to do. Once again Thanks.

 u are wrong şekerim. I thought u know somethings about turkey after long time.

you can not learn turkey from google or google earth or from Tclass.

There are same rules as in europe.

Sounds like you´ve been reading (or watching) Betty Mahmoody´s ´Not without my daughter´

Polygamy is forbidden in Turkey, it occurs only on very small scale and mainly among Kurdish families. Polygamy actually has never been a feature of Turkish society.

I don´t know about the divorce stuff etc, but why falling for someone who gives you the feeling you might need to know all these? Obviously it´s important to know what you´re getting into and to learn a way out (to prevent is better than to heal), but still.. If you get to know him better you will eventually figure out what kind of person he is and what is thoughts and opinions are on some subjects.

As for citizenship, I may be mistaken but as far as I know a child gets automatically Turkish citizenship if the father is Turkish...

as I know, after divorce mother and father have same rights and they consider all conditions for child´s future.

a few months ago, on the news, a japanese woman won the court and took his son to japan in Urfa or maras. family didnt want to give the child, but police did a operation and took child from them and send to japan with his mother.

When affections are lost between people, it is amazing how people can change and how terribly bitter relations can become.  We have many stories of custody wars recently, and only a tiny minority of them are in the Middle East.

Don´t you remember the Elion Gonzales affair?

Then there is the current case:

"SAN ANTONIO — Warrants have been issued for a man accused of using incomplete Mexican court documents and Texas law officers to flee with his 10-year-old son.

Prosecutors in San Antonio on Monday obtained kidnapping and aggravated perjury warrants for 41-year-old Jean Philippe Lacombe.

Lacombe, also charged with interference with child custody, and his son are missing.

Attorneys for Berenice Diaz say she has legal custody of the boy, Jean Paul.

The San Antonio Express-News reports Lacombe on Oct. 15 presented misleading Mexican documents to a judge in San Antonio wrongfully indicating he had custody, not his ex-wife.

Deputy constables removed the boy from a school bus stop on Oct. 16 and returned him to his father.

Diaz attorney Miguel Ortiz says Lacombe, who is from France, is wealthy and could go anywhere with the boy."

Nobody willing and knowingly gets involved with monsters, who can see into the deepest part of the hearts of others?  There is a saying, "Trust in Allah and tie your camel"

Could you tell me what exactly I was wrong about? If you referred to child custody, I´m sure you noticed that the country mentioned was Egypt, not Turkey (and that´s something I remember from McGyver where in one of the episodes a mother wanted to get her son to US against the Egyptian partner´s will)

 The city was Antep and they got married in Japan...

 I thought, the question was child custody in TURKEY, not Egypt

court is to decide about child´s custody.In case of foreigners it depends on treaties between countries,which are available in each embassy website.

 No question is stupid if you want to know the answer.

THE TURKISH CODE OF CIVIL : TÜRK YURTTAŞLAR KANUNU - YASA NO : 743

Family life, marriage, social rights, wifes and husbands rights, divorce, custody,  law maintenance allowance. inheritance, childrens rights and responsibilities has been  prepared in The TURKISH CODE OF CIVIL LAW.This law is alike SWISS CODE OF CIVIL LAW.This is very modern and legal law.This law saves the women and children.