I am very sad.  My boyfriend is Turkish and I am an American.  We been together for about a year and a half.  He told me recently that he is planning to move back to Turkey in 3-5 years.  He wanted my thoughts on it.  I have never loved someone so much in my life.  I told him that I would like to visit there and see how it is, but he just insists that I will not be happy there.  I told him I am willing to live there, learn the language and do whatever i needed to do to be with him.  Now i dont want you to think I am a desperate person, but its true, this guy is heavenly.  He brings a smile to my face everytime i see him.  Still after being with him over a year i still get butterflies inmy stomache.  I know he cares about me, more than he has with anyone else he has dated.  I just feel in my heart that he is trying to make up every excuse in the book because he doesnt want to bring me to his family.  I think (even though he hasnt told me) that he is afraid that his parents will be upset with him for being with a non muslim american woman.  I understand that Turkey is very different from USA, but I love different cultures and I cant help who I love.  Does anyone have any advice or in the same situation as me?

I think your feeling might be right. Sure, he might be right about you not fitting in there, but how can he know without you ever visiting? Perhaps you should tell him how you feel, that it seems that he´s trying to make excuses. I think the problem here is not cultural differences persé, but more that you are not sure about what his intentions are.

Not sure why you are worried about what will happen 3-5 years from now.  You may not even be together.  I think you are just intent on this guy being "the one" and he just isn´t giving you that indication. 

Relax...enjoy...don´t put so much pressure on yourself!  If his intention is to make you his bride, he will let you know.  I can tell you from experience, if his family is intent on him taking a Turkish bride, then he will probably do just that.  On the other hand, if he is here in America, I am sure they have concidered the possibility that he will take an American bride.  I can almost guarantee that they would prefer he marry a Turkish girl.  That is not to say they would never accept you.  I am an American married to a Turk.  I had to respect the fact that I was not his families first choice.  Somehow we all survived! 

i appreciate your advise.  I do want to add a few things.  I know the last thread sounded like i just love this guy and he doesnt love me back, or like i am desperate.  I am just having a difficult time and i needed someone to talk to besides my family.  I just dont usually express my feeling out in the open, but i was hoping what othersmight think of the situations, but i realize no one can truly know because you dont see us and see what him and I have, so i realize that it is difficult to answer or to respond to such a thread. Thanks for your help.

Don´t worry, you didn´t sound desperate. And about his love, we couldn´t make any conclusions on that But whatever the situation, most of the time it´s best to share your fears and worries with your partner (especially when your partner is -unknowingly- causing it).