Yes but - here anyway - they are all being pretty good at obeying the ´no smoking inside´ rules in the bars and restaurants

Poor me. Well, I´ll pack some scarves so I can go outside....

Because it´s a holiday place  doooooh (or whatever you spell that)

To respect their culture more than they do.

I expect Turks NOT to think that because I am gregarious and smile warmly and frequently that I am desparate for their company between the sheets......

not feeding me at every occassion with words"you must try this!!!!!!"in imperative mood

I would like Turkish people to NOT assume that I have a money tree standing in my garden, and understand that people outside of Turkey also have to work and usually work HARD to make a living. I´m generalising a lot now, I know I´m aware that educated people understand that everywhere in the world people have to work hard to make a living. But I have met people in the resort places (and also outside) who seem to think that money can flow like water in Holland, and that I have loads to spend, and my money is never ever finished.

When I spoke with a newly made friend from Turkey the other day, he was shocked to hear that my 60 year old mother is working 40 hours a week, and usually makes overtime next to that. And at the end of the day it´s still hard sometimes to make ends meet. I explained that she´ll have to work until she´s 65, and all of a sudden he understood the people who go on holiday.

"Ohhh, now I understand you Dutch people! You work so hard all year, and then you save money for a holiday. That´s why you don´t always spend so much because you work so hard for it!"

By the way... are we Dutch REALLY so cheap compared to other nations? Or is this just something people say to us, to guilt us into buying more

Oh, and I like Turkish people not to make nasty assumptions about my morality because I´m from "Europe". I don´t wear mini-skirts, and have my boobs hanging out. That´s not the "general fashion"in Europe. I don´t sleep with any guy who says I have pretty eyes. And I don´t drink alcohol, big whoop. In Holland people ask me why, I explain, and that´s that. In Turkey the resort guys seem to think I´m lying or something so I can order cheaper drinks. And then they try to convince me to order cocktails...while sitting across the mosque  I even had to have a 15 minute discussion last summer before I could get a freaking waterbottle at a nightclub! No I don´t WANT your cocktails!!!

And to all non-Dutch nations... not all Dutch people smoke hasj so stop asking me for it! I´m not your dealer!

(Very generalizing ofcourse. Not every single Turkish person has tried to force feed me alcohol. Some smile, are strangly impressed and say I´m such a good girl. Not every single person I meet asks me for hasj....some just ask me if I have clogs)

Oh, I so agree with you+++++ I have felt obligated to eat and eat and eat........and gotten sick...The hospitality is fabulous...but when I try to politely decline, please accept. Maybe there is a way to be taken serious when declining food? If so, please let us know.

I agree with you, even if I admire thair hospitality; my daughter stayed for 2 weeks in istanbul, at a turkish family - it was an intercultural change of pupils - and she came back with 3 kg plus..and with a 3rd bag of presents....

Are you saying she gained more than 3kg? in only 2 weeks? That is amazing.......I love Turkish people, but the only thing that bothers me is the pressure to eat and eat and eat.....I just can´t do it. Last time I was there I was sick for over a month from the eating. I´m sure they have no idea this can cause problems.