I´ve recently started dating a Turkish exchange student at my school. He is so gorgeous that I can´t believe he´s actually attracted to me and we talk for hours and hours on end. He´s so gentle and sensual and pays attention to what I say. I guess I could also say that we do have a natural chemistry. But aside from that, he is always wanting to spend time with me and he doesn´t blow me off to watch football with friends or play video games. Plus he enjoys taking me out to dinner (which is rare to find in a guy in college).
In fact, he told me that he´s an atheist and actually wants to move to America someday. He doesn´t want to marry a virgin Turkish girl. Or any virgin for the matter. Considering that I´m in college, our relationship isn´t going to go to the next level but I´m going to miss him so much when he leaves and I wish him the best. He has been nothing but kind and genuine to me. And I´m not one to trust men easily either.
Hi,
Turkey is a very diverse country and you can find the nicest and worst people as well, it really depends. What I am gonna tell you is, in NO way general, or respresent the whole population, but my idea about Turkish men, and their relation with foreign women...
There are many repressed feelings in Turkey, at least for the majority of the population... I´ve seen many men, who were having unhappy marriages with their wives, and ended up with foreign women, and treating them like queens. The very same guy who could actly ugly, might turn into a prince with a foreign woman. Again, this illustration does not respresent most of the Turkish men and there are many instances like this. Why does it happen... because those men are usually not happy with their marriages/relationships....
For example, One of my friends ran away to Russia, with his Russian lover. He has a wive and children back in Turkey, and he keeps sending money to them. But no, he is not coming back, but happy with his Russian lover, why? Because he is very much attracted to her, not only physically but also personally. They are much more liberal in life and in bed. They can share stuff, they otherwise couldn´t in a traditional Turkish family setting, which might be too restrictive and limited.
I know, your situation is not directly related to this but listen... You think he´s gorgeous and ask yourself how he can be attracted to you, right? Well, beauty is very subjective. I´ve seen very handsome European guys getting attracted to regular Turkish girls, who are not deemed that attractive by Turkish guys, or vice versa.
First of all, many Turkish men are attracted to Western women, I haven´t seen one who isn´t yet, so you might be very attractive to him the natural way you are (more than to the local people around you), not only physically but also culturally and spiritually.
Secondly, the beauty and coquetry of a woman brings out the gentle soul in a Turkish guy. Almost all Turkish guys, regardless of their education levels or backgrounds will turn into gentlemen for such a woman, so it might be a princess kissing a frog turning into a prince kinda situation.
Third, your character and the relatively liberal culture, along with the thrill of a foreign environment, losing the shacles of the constraints of the old times might be instrumental in his feelings as well.
Forth, Greencard might be an issue... the easiest way for him to stay in the country is to get a greencard by marrying an American woman, but of course, given that he´s a very good looking guy, he wouldn´t have to push it too hard. So if he is still unhesitatingly interested in you, it means that he really likes you.
Edited (4/20/2011) by newquaker
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