I had an interesting experience in Turkey last week which I would like to share.
I spent the week with the boy I am sponsoring to come to England. I went alone and stayed with him and his family.

Whenever we went out together, to the town and especially when we went on the bus to Ankara. He would always take me to the toilet, pay for everything, buy the food, organise the taxis, even buying my water for me. I was quite capable of doing all of these things, but he never once let me go in a shop alone or be alone anywhere. I wanted to go out one day for a walk and he couldn't come because he was helping his mother cook. He tried to stop me going because he said it was 'dangerous' - I wanted to go up the mountain a bit - There was a road by the way. I asked what the danger was and he said dogs, wolves and bad people! I got my own way and went. I saw him watching me over the balcony of his apartment and before long he had come out to look for me.

When we went walking in Izmir, he kept calling me back to walk beside him if I strayed too far away and said it was because everyone was looking at me.

On the plus side. I never had to carry a single thing, if I wanted to be looked after he did it beautifully. All I had to do really was ask and I got what I wanted. I wasn't used to this (being English and independent) but actually I liked it but i guess it would get annoying if it went on for too long. It was different in the house though because then he expected me to look after him (even though his mother was also looking after him ) On the whole - it was good.

Anyone else had this kind of experience? What do the turkish boys think of this - duskahvesi, freshman, attila, would you 'look after' me this way if I were in Istanbul? Would you carry my bags? Fetch me food and water? Take me to the toilet? protect me from dogs, wolves and bad people? Pay all my expenses?

I think in Turkey that a woman is a woman and a man is a man. The men are very capable of making you feel like a real woman, they look after you, protect you. I guess that also makes them feel man: they are the strong and powerful in the relationship.

With my western background, i always wanted to stay independent, look after myself. I thot it was bad to depend on someone. I changed my mind. I like that feeling of being taken care of.. it's safe but not choking. If the balance in the relationship is right, i think it is very precious to have a man that wants to protect you always and everywhere because it makes that you also want to take care of him. We have a long distance relationship, but when he was in my house, i just loved to make him tea, sit on his bed, feel female and sweettalk. Maybe it makes them feel more male, but the fact that he has such a power on me, makes me also feel powerful about this love

yeah its like that when you visit, but look at their mums and sisters... is it like that for them??????? or are they doing all the looking after?

hehe well lynda,I would carry (up to the limits of my strenght ) the bags for you,I would protect you from th bad people and the wolves (but not from the dogs,nope I CANT do that )
But I wouldnt take you to WC for sure

Merhaba Lyndie the boy you spoke of is he a intimate friend?? :-S Sorry I am just a bit confused to why thi would be a bad thing in my opinion. Maybe cause I would love attention as such that you spoke of if I had feelings for the guy. But one thing I am puzzled on is the escorting
to the toilet? I have not heard of this but I maybe read that part wrong.
Maybe it is as del kizin said a Turkish boy thing ??(sterio types not my way of thinking)I think tho that there are other guys in the world as he. I think he is maybe a litle jealous to and wanted your company for his own???? As he was not as attentive with mom around and with you safely in the house away from any other men/boys/wolfs?
Anyway take care and thanks for your post it was a interesting story. I hope I meet a boy someday with some of his qualities of looking out for me sounds comforting.

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KELLEY

Attila, you disappoint me somewhat. So basically if I went by myself to the WC and was set upon by a pack of dogs or lust crazed men . I would be on my own. CIK! What would you be doing? Standing there holding the bags?

In my experience Lyndie - Turkish men are ultra protective of European women friends - I think it is just the custom -I dont think there is an ulterior motive. They seem to think that females are in mortal danger of attack from every other man. Isn't it a nice feeling to be thought of as a delicate, precious female for once instead of the capable independent woman we know we really are. Especially flattering when the man is half our age!! It is probably more about their pride in being the ultimate protector. Lovely though isn't it - especially for us olduns!!