Goodness we didn't do it because I couldn't make turkish coffee if my life depended on it We just had an imam nikah and nothing more because I didn't know anything about traditions at the time, but I'm really regretting that now. Inşallah we'll do the whole thing when it's time for resmi nikah.
You have to do the kına gecesi it's so nice!

Interesting thread.

Could anyone explain a bit more about the Imam Nikah? How is it done? What is being said? etc.


Thanks

concerning the coffee sugar, i watch a tv series called ihlamular altinda and in an episode there was kiz istemek and she served everybody perfect coffee but she served her fiance or her husband to be turkish coffee and she put salt instead of sugar and they told her if he drinks it he will love u 4ever and ul never be apart something like that i guess. its a tradition

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dramatic

my couzins henna was just last night and the same exact thing happens here in egypt. but mostly when the parents come and stuff without the kids knowing each other its arranged or they dont know them and just wanna get married most of the time the two fall in love and ya da da .... and then the boy goes and tells his dad i fell in love with this girl and..... and he tells the girl that hes coming on a certain date and the parents call the parents and the same thing happens. And then theyre called fiancees and they go out with each other everyday to get to know each other better (even though most of the times they already kno each other) and then they get married!!
and the same thing with the coffee but nowadays its easier to serve sometimes tea sometimes sherbet. But its almost exactly the same thing they even say the same stuff. BUt i really liked reading about that salt thing i would do it to my fiance!!

oh yeaha nd remeber that cousin that i said her henna was yesterday today was her wedding ( i just came back!!) and guess where shes spending her honeymoon?? yes u got it!!! Turkiye!!!! oof shes so lucky!!

I just came back to USA from visiting my boyfriend in Antalya and Istanbul. He wants so much to marry me, but his father is so angry, and says he will not give permission for his son to marry me and the only reason is because i am American. We are 28 years old, so what the heck is this all about that being adults we would need his father´s permission?

My boyfriend and I are heartbroken, because his father has never met me, but does not want his son going to USA. that would take time anyway due to marriage visas needed. I would gladly live in Turkey as long as my boyfriend and i can be together.

My boyfriend never wants to upset his father, and says well, if he left and married me, his family would not speak to him ever again. Just to please be patient and he will talk with his father more.

This is tearing us up so much. Especially since I am learning turkish, and i am a good, repectable woman, who does not deserve this pain and heartbreak.
Hope no one has to deal with this heartbreak like me.