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13 Feb 2008 Wed 08:38 pm |
Where do you guys come from?
I talk from my experiences in the very south eastern corner of Turkey shouldn't that be the most "extreme" in terms of "backwardness" Or where is that then?
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13 Feb 2008 Wed 08:45 pm |
Quoting azade: If you get along well and respect eachothers privacy why should it be a problem to live together? Not for forever, but as a temporary solution.
I dislike how people in modern society don't have anything to do with eachother. Family is important. |
I agree with you Azade. I've seen so many in New York City who wanted their privacy, living alone and getting more and more eccentric.
It's easy to think one is patient and compassionate when you only have to think of yourself. The outcome I've seen though is a mess.
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13 Feb 2008 Wed 08:46 pm |
Quoting azade: Where do you guys come from?
I talk from my experiences in the very south eastern corner of Turkey shouldn't that be the most "extreme" in terms of "backwardness" Or where is that then? |
azade, come on, please, dont play a stupid girl, ok?
and dont think you deal with idiots
i understand you try now to defend your unique experiences even though you are opposing easterners themselves
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13 Feb 2008 Wed 08:55 pm |
Can you just stick to the topic and perhaps give your view on it.
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13 Feb 2008 Wed 08:58 pm |
Quoting Elisabeth: I hate to burst your bubble....NEVER NEVER NEVER live with your parents...I would take a second job to get an apartment for her before I had her move in with me. Something close by so she can share meals and spend time with you and not be lonely...but not under the same roof. Just my thoughts. |
+10000000
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13 Feb 2008 Wed 09:02 pm |
Quoting azade: Can you just stick to the topic and perhaps give your view on it. |
im still on the topic
i just cant stand your romantic advises
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13 Feb 2008 Wed 09:03 pm |
Quoting azade: If you get along well and respect eachothers privacy why should it be a problem to live together? Not for forever, but as a temporary solution.
I dislike how people in modern society don't have anything to do with eachother. Family is important. |
azade, I get along very well with my and my husbands family. Of course family is important. I think it is very important to take care of your parents/family members when they need help, but I don't think that has to mean they will come and live in your house. I think it is important to help people stand on their own two feet. It's not wrong to think this way azade....its just different than what you would do.
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13 Feb 2008 Wed 09:06 pm |
Quoting azade: If you get along well and respect eachothers privacy why should it be a problem to live together? Not for forever, but as a temporary solution.
I dislike how people in modern society don't have anything to do with eachother. Family is important. |
This is rather naive canim and VERY stereotypical of the West!!! There's nothing wrong with liking to be a tight family, but really, your views are soooooooooo black and white...
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13 Feb 2008 Wed 09:06 pm |
Quoting alameda:
I agree with you Azade. I've seen so many in New York City who wanted their privacy, living alone and getting more and more eccentric.
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OMG, how evil is NY!!!
how evil is USA, and the whole west!
Quoting alameda:
It's easy to think one is patient and compassionate when you only have to think of yourself. The outcome I've seen though is a mess. |
a mess is when there are rules where elders rule over youngs and turn their lives into hell.
and the young have to stay and bear all that stupid things thanks to the f... traditions.
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13 Feb 2008 Wed 09:17 pm |
Quoting femme_fatal: Quoting alameda:
I agree with you Azade. I've seen so many in New York City who wanted their privacy, living alone and getting more and more eccentric.
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OMG, how evil is NY!!!
how evil is USA, and the whole west!
Quoting alameda:
It's easy to think one is patient and compassionate when you only have to think of yourself. The outcome I've seen though is a mess. |
a mess is when there are rules where elders rule over youngs and turn their lives into hell.
and the young have to stay and bear all that stupid things thanks to the f... traditions.
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Are you talking about age again... Watch out for you know who....We have a modo here in the U.S. if you can't take care of yourself, your shit out of luck.
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13 Feb 2008 Wed 09:19 pm |
Quoting femme_fatal: Quoting alameda:
I agree with you Azade. I've seen so many in New York City who wanted their privacy, living alone and getting more and more eccentric.
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OMG, how evil is NY!!!
how evil is USA, and the whole west!
Quoting alameda:
It's easy to think one is patient and compassionate when you only have to think of yourself. The outcome I've seen though is a mess. |
a mess is when there are rules where elders rule over youngs and turn their lives into hell.
and the young have to stay and bear all that stupid things thanks to the f... traditions.
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No, not evil femme...just misguided. If you saw what I saw, you would reconsider things. I saw many who lived alone in their apartments and had to have meals delivered to them. I went to visit them to give them some companionship. They had children, but they had moved many miles away and never saw them. They were so lonely. To me it was very sad.
You do have a point in the way some elders rule over the young ones. They can be very dictatorial. It's something one has to be very gentle with.
Then there were the actors, singers and other artists who came to NY to be a star, but never did. They were now old and alone. The apartments were a mess. Instead of looking like homes, they looked like some cave they dragged things into. Garments strewn all over, dirty dishes in the sink. One man who lived in my building was a pack rat and his apartment was so crowded with things he could only get into the door a little way.
This is not an uncommon thing. It seems to be a syndrome associated with living alone.
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