My manager once told me, "There are only few good men and most of 'em are taken." I think that's true but I am taking the risk to find one.
Anybody... what is/are your criteria of a good man?
Mine is first, he gotta love me more than anyboy (yeah.. that makes me a little possessive..huh) and two he should be more than willing to raise a celestial-worthy family with me (that's a bit religion-related.. never mind)
so.. what dya think?

i think that he has to love you for what u actually are.
must respect u, and not take u for granted.
he must also have some aspirations in life and prove that he wants to fulfil them, because this shows that he is not a "dosser" and also that his brain is working
and yeah,,, he gotta look the part too hihi

as being a bad man i dont have so much things to say...

he must be generous in every way....to spend time,money,to share feelings,

he must love you only for love..not for your beauty,not for your money,not for your job....

he must love you as who you are....dont wear masks while you are with him...and dont let him to wear masks too

good luck!!!!

miss ceyda - that was a very mature post for a fifteen year old!

Hi all!

Interesting subject indeed...and I think that what goes for a good man should also go for a good woman. I see no difference in responsibility what so ever when it comes to create a longlasting love relationship.

It takes two to tango!

A good partner should love you more than anyone else, except for your children, and be willing to share everything in life with you...which does not mean that you have to do everything in life together!

A good partner should be willing to develop and grow together with you.

A good partner should want what is best for you...even when it is not best for him.

A good partner should be open to new thoughts and ideas so that you can always find new interesting subjects to discuss.

A good partner should be willing to learn...as well as to teach.

A good partner desires you and never forget to show it.

Well...this is what I would want from a man...and what I am willing to give!



/Aslan

I agree with miss_ceyda and Aslan, in fact I agree with everyone...

For me, I think a man should love you as you are, meaning that you shouldn't have to put on a facade with him, he should love you for you. He should value the beauty of life and love, and not be preoccupied with material things such as clothes labels etc. A good man is one who stands up for his beliefs and dreams too. I believe strongly in a spiritual connection, and I think a good man is ruled by the will of his heart.

Hi Carla!

I absolutely agree with your vision!

...now the question is where my good man is hiding? ...if you see him please tell him I am still waiting!!!




/Aslan

What an exciting topic! (I wonder what men would write on the topic of 'Your Good Woman' - I fear to think...)

All the things that have been said so far are just so good, it seems that we all want to have angels, semi-gods! If the demand for such people was really as high as it seems, then all men would have to adjust or they would never find any girl willing to be with them. In reality I think many girls do go for good looks first, then money, then how good is he in telling us the most beautiful words we can imagine... etc.
The man you ask for is NOT that sexy, handsome stranger with dreamy eyes you met in the hotel and who whispered in your ear 'seni seviyorum' the night you met him!
BUT he might be the shorter, chubbier, less tanned, shy boy standing in the corner and watching you quietly as you pass by... are you going to notice and fall in love with him?

To become a person as described above, one must really have a lot of ambition in life, self discipline, lots of brains, strength, and modesty! These are things that one has to develop almost always against popular trends and convenience. He also has to question even his closest environment and be able to recognize things that are wrong, which is quite difficult to do because who we are largely depends on how and where we grew up.

To find a man of so many virtues, the girl also has to be like that. She also has to be able to resist temptations and nurture the highest qualities in herself even when sometimes it feels like there's no point to it. Sometimes we just want others to be perfect but cut ourselves a slack. In reality nobody is perfect and people have to be also able to forgive each other and tolerate some imperfections and just keep learning and getting better.

Somebody said once that "love is a constant process of self perfection"... sounds about right to me .