this is just a message to all of those who replied to my request for advice last week.

I didn't mean to start a heated debate, but i'm sure there is much to be learned from each other in the future.

i have not come to a decision about what to do with my situation, i am still in turmoil. I have told him that we must finish and he says that no matter what i say he will not give up on me. he sends me messages daily.

I cannot question this man's integrity. we practically lived together for 6 months before i moved home, and i know how close and influenced he is by his family in the tiny village in which he lives. as much as he loves me, he cannot break the expectations of those he loves who are around him. he has always been this way. i trust him to be honest with me, and i trust that he is doing everything that he dares to do but in the end his love for me is not greater than the fear of repercussions in defending me and stopping this arranged marriage that his family want so much. in some ways it makes us more alike than i dare to imagine. and a man who has deep, unconditional respect for his family is also the kind of man i admire and respect. i wish him all future happiness. any other time, and in any other place i'm sure we would have been happy together for many years to come.

once again thanks for all your support and advice. i have posted something for translation, a funny thing that happened to me on the way home from work tonight!