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Since nobody has an answer to these questions, let me just try to make something out of my little thoughts. Gosh, I don't know what you mean by the first question but I have a feeling  it's somewhat related to the second one about talkig about feelings and how it's different between men and women. There's this weird idea going around that women are emotional and men are not, more then that - women talk too much, they are all freaked out about how to make a relationship work, keep asking questions like "do you love me", don't want to have sex, cry all the time.... etc. Men on the other hand are tough, never cry, don't talk about feelings but only about facts, they just want to do things, don't like to talk.... etc. Yes, men and women are inherently different and in a relationship they both contribute in different aspects, but the ultimate goal is that they both become the other, meaning that the woman teaches the man about emotions and the man teaches the woman about being tough, only then they can understand each other and become complete.
Women are in general more emotionally-literate then men, that's big plus for women and big weak point for men. Emotions are a part of everybody's life and understanding them and knowing how to deal with them is just as important for women as it is for men. Why are men genarally emotionally illiterate? Becasue we live in a mens' society, women were never given enough credit and freedom to speak up and make the world a more gentle place.
Yes, men also have passions, lots of emotions, they can wonderfully love and respect the differences between themselves and their parteners. But the society doesn't put emphasis on that, doesn't even talk about it, and those individuals are like that only because they came to certain conclusions on their own.
What is the reason for most relationship problems? That people don't communicate with each other. Everything can be understood if both people want to listen.
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