Merhaba,

I am wondering about the acceptability of marrying a turkish man when you already have a child with another partner.

I was not married before, however I have now met a turkish man aged 20.

Will he have to go to do military service? If we marry and he comes back to the UK will he get in trouble?

How would his family react to me?

He is quite relaxed and fairly trendy, and plus seemingly not than religious.

What would be the procedure if we did want to get married - ie would I have to be accepted by his family first?

incidentally, he is from Mardin.

Thanks!!


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Is a very hard question , and I think that only ur boyfriend has answer on this ...
We can tell u , about procedure , about other things ...
If he loves u he will do it all to be with u ... This is my opinion ...
Do u need to be accepted by his family I really do not have idea , but I think the answer is Yes...
Anyway I am not Turkish girl so I will leave this to the other members ...
I just wanted to say , this is too serious question and the only one who knows answer is your darling ....

Hımmmmm....
How long have you knew him ?

Truthfully?

It may sound crazy but only 2 months.

Why do you ask?


Xx

It is not enough to know him !

Ok, your opinion is taken on board but you don't know us either........

I guess my original questions remain unanswered.

Too many people judge others by their own expectations. i believe that you can only deal with a situation when you are in it.

i believe in love and depth of feeling - no justification is required other than this.

Thanks anyway,

N

but you already answer on your question in topic "turkish guys and marriage"

Ok so what you wrote is this :

I don't think marriage is any different anywhere in the world if you are in love.


YES I THINK THE SAME , IS JUST A QUESTION ARE YOU READY AND HOW STRONG IS YOUR LOVE ...


IN MY COUNTRY WE USE TO SAY : LOVE DOESN'T KNOW FOR BORDERS.
I wish u a luck and i hope your love will be strong enough to "destroy" border lines between u and ur bf ...

Hello Nerys,
First I want to wish you luck and happiness.
I think the hardest part in your situation is having a son.How your darling accepts him.In this kind of marriages it is very important.Now you are not alone.He has to have love for both of you.Did you feel that?If answer is "Yes" it is great.I think you're right that you only can deal with situation when you are in.I wish you all the best.

!!!!!NOT TO BE TAKEN THE WRONG WAY!!!!

These are only my views not guidlines, If he loves you and your son then no problem go for it and I wish you luck.

BUT the only problem i can see for the future is his parents, whether they are going to be happy in having a readymade grandchild after their son only seeing you for a few months. If they object, it all goes on where you mans loyalties lie, if its with you, his family will be torn, if it with his parents, you will be heartbroken.

Thats all I can see, his parents might be over the moon with their new grandchild, if so, FANTASTIC, you landed yourself a keeper.

Liz
xxxx

Merhaba NERYS,

I AM VERY HAPPY FOR YOU, BEING IN LOVE IS THE MOST WONDERFUL FEELING IN THE UNIVERSE, TO ME ANYWAY.
I AM TO IN LOVE WITH A TURKISH MAN HE IS 25, I HAVE KNOWN HIM 1 1/2 MONTHS AND IT FEELS RIGHT AND ALSO A BIT SCARRY. I THINK I FEEL THAT WAY IN FEAR OF LOSING SUCH A WONDERFUL LOVE I FIND IN ISMAIL. JUST HOPE FOR THE BEST IN SHARING YOUR LIVES TOGETHER.
I HAVE TO SAY I FEEL DIFFERENT THEN LIZ,HI LIZ,I KNOW HER FROM CHAT. ANYWAY YOUR TRUE LOVE CAN BE A KEEPER EVEN IF THINGS DO NOT GO SMOOTH WITH HIS PARENTS. YOU ARE NOT MARRYING THEM. MY ISMAIL ALSO PROPOSED MARRIAGE AND I AM GOING TO MARRY HIM TO. GOOD LUCK AND MUCH HAPPINESS ALWAYS, DON'T WORRY YOURSELF TO MUCH IT CAN GET EXHAUSTING.BE POSITIVE, AND LOVE YOURSELF AS YOU DO HIM.

PEACE AND LOVE
PRINCESS STACIA

PS WHAT A BLESSING YOUR SON IS TO SO MANY LIVES