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My Muslim love
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21 Dec 2005 Wed 02:22 pm |
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I am Scottish and am not religious. I met a Turkish girl and we have fallen in love. To be one I must become Muslim so it is acceptable to her parents. There is nothing I want more than to be with my love but I realise that I have a hard journey ahead of me. Does anyone have any thoughts or advice to help me on my path
thanks
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21 Dec 2005 Wed 03:13 pm |
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You do not have to become Muslim. If you do it just so you can be with her then you then you are not being real to your self, her or God. With real love there should be acceptance, you should be yourself and be loved for being yourself. My husband is Turkish Muslim and I am British Christian. Of course neither of our families liked it like that, but this is love. I would like him to be Christian but I would never ask him to change who he is, or lie to himself for me, same with him. And we have a great marriage with lots of respect for eachother.
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21 Dec 2005 Wed 04:00 pm |
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xkirstyx
That's a great reply. I agree totally. Thanks.
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21 Dec 2005 Wed 04:42 pm |
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The other identical thread is removed.
Quoting angelina-Melek: Well, you know, my situation is much the same. I'm a girl and I'm Christian, but I love a Turkish man who is Muslim. I'm quite satisfied with my religion and I don't want to covert, but it's his family's condition . If I marry him I for sure will have to become Muslim. I love him and well, I'm gonna do that, though this is not for me, this is for him and his family. I hope I won't regret later 
If it's a condition and of you really love her... But this is up to you, I believe. |
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21 Dec 2005 Wed 04:49 pm |
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If a Turk you are about to marry wants to convert you to İslam, you should seriously consider not to marry this person and you should consider your situation again. I don't want to talk too much on this not to start an argument but modern Turks are not normally like this and this is a sign indicating something is wrong with that person.
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21 Dec 2005 Wed 05:03 pm |
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Pertfect answer, dear Erdınç.
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21 Dec 2005 Wed 06:20 pm |
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Quoting doogser: I am Scottish and am not religious. I met a Turkish girl and we have fallen in love. To be one I must become Muslim so it is acceptable to her parents. There is nothing I want more than to be with my love but I realise that I have a hard journey ahead of me. Does anyone have any thoughts or advice to help me on my path
thanks
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I dont want to scare you but u must be ready for circumcision. if they want you to be muslim that means circumcision too 
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22 Dec 2005 Thu 06:00 am |
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Quoting doogser: I am Scottish and am not religious. I met a Turkish girl and we have fallen in love. To be one I must become Muslim so it is acceptable to her parents. There is nothing I want more than to be with my love but I realise that I have a hard journey ahead of me. Does anyone have any thoughts or advice to help me on my path
thanks
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I had a same experience like u before,I m a buddist before and now is muslim.I met my husband who is Turkish muslim,his family are religious muslim but when i met his family,they never force me to convert to be muslim,what they did is let me decide by myself and listen what my heart want to be.Dont convert to be muslim coz of ur love one but not with ur heart.In Islam,that is not forcing anyone to be muslim.
In Turkey,is not necessary u married with a muslim than u must convert to be muslim(is depends on u).Its not like Malaysia,is a muslim country too,but they force u to convert to be muslim if u married with muslim.
So make a true choice and wish u all the best
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22 Dec 2005 Thu 11:40 am |
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Yes it would be easier if there was no pressure to convert but alas there is. I will do what it takes to be one with my girl, the love is so strong.
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22 Dec 2005 Thu 12:36 pm |
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I agree with what kristy said about religion. if you treat it seriously you can't convert only to fulfil family's condition. but I'm not sure if example of kristy's marriage with muslim man is right in this situation. as far as I know Muslim can marry Christian or Jewish girl and she doesn't have to convert to Islam. but it's not the same for Muslim girls - they can marry only Muslim, at least it is like that in very traditonal families. I have Turkish fiance, we talked about religion many times and he never wanted me to change my religion.
it seems that your girlfriend's family is quite traditional so you really should think it over if you are ready to become member of this family. I think that first of all you should give yourself a lot of time to get to know her family well and first of all learn everything about Islam. wish you good luck.
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