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05 Nov 2007 Mon 05:51 pm |
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Is it haram for men to wear white gold also?
As far as I remember the reason gold is haram for men is for them not to look like women but maybe there's something more to it. I'm asking because I want our wedding rings to look alike and I never heard of silver wedding rings for women + the idea doesn't appeal to me.
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05 Nov 2007 Mon 05:51 pm |
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It seems better to me to not have to spend so much money on a ring. I know guys who have gone into heavy debt just to afford a diamond ring. It is not uncommon to spend $10,000 or more on a ring here in the US. I had a friend who received a $20K ring! But she is also one of those people who has to have the best of everything so that she can show her friends how much more she has than everyone else. Nobody was jealous of her ring...more incredulous and thought it was almost sad she felt the need to "out-do" everyone around her. Could you imagine losing it or breaking off the engagement? I can honestly say that most westerner women are very competitive and showy when it comes to rings and marriage...not ALL, but most. Is there any of this in Turkish circles? It seems almost universal, but maybe not to the same extent...
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05 Nov 2007 Mon 05:57 pm |
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Quoting azade: Is it haram for men to wear white gold also?
As far as I remember the reason gold is haram for men is for them not to look like women but maybe there's something more to it. I'm asking because I want our wedding rings to look alike and I never heard of silver wedding rings for women + the idea doesn't appeal to me. |
I have a suggestion for you. You know in Turkey there is so many good jeweller... They can make everything you want. So you can buy a silver band for your fiance and for you a gold band and ask the jeweller to make it the as same as your husband!
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05 Nov 2007 Mon 05:58 pm |
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Quoting mey0722: It seems better to me to not have to spend so much money on a ring. I know guys who have gone into heavy debt just to afford a diamond ring. It is not uncommon to spend $10,000 or more on a ring here in the US. I had a friend who received a $20K ring! But she is also one of those people who has to have the best of everything so that she can show her friends how much more she has than everyone else. Nobody was jealous of her ring...more incredulous and thought it was almost sad she felt the need to "out-do" everyone around her. Could you imagine losing it or breaking off the engagement? I can honestly say that most westerner women are very competitive and showy when it comes to rings and marriage...not ALL, but most. Is there any of this in Turkish circles? It seems almost universal, but maybe not to the same extent...
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For a good quality diamond your looking at $7,000 -$10,000 USD. And that's for a 2kt diamond. I agree it should be more symbolic rather than how much you spend.
But I also believe if the man has the money, there is nothing wrong with spending it. Some women I know over the years have upgraded their diamonds, now that their husbands are finacially better off.
What I think is even worse, is the women who pick out their own engagement rings and alot of them do.
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05 Nov 2007 Mon 06:04 pm |
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Sure, if you have money to burn, no problem. Spend all you want. Just that most men don't, but feel pressured to buy a very expensive ring and I feel badly for them about that.
As far as women picking out a ring, I think it is okay for a woman to let the man know what kind of ring she likes and dislikes. It's a LOT of money and something she will wear forever! Women are picky and have strong opinions on these things. But usually this is done by the woman telling someone, such as her fiance's sister, what she does and doesn't like, and then the sister would help him pick it out. I know it's not very traditional, but I think with the amount of money men are spending, better get it right. Is it selfish for the woman to not like what they are given, regardless? Probably. But again, most women have strong preferences about rings. Me? I could care less!! But I do respect how some women are!
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05 Nov 2007 Mon 06:05 pm |
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Quoting mey0722: It seems better to me to not have to spend so much money on a ring. I know guys who have gone into heavy debt just to afford a diamond ring. It is not uncommon to spend $10,000 or more on a ring here in the US. I had a friend who received a $20K ring! But she is also one of those people who has to have the best of everything so that she can show her friends how much more she has than everyone else. Nobody was jealous of her ring...more incredulous and thought it was almost sad she felt the need to "out-do" everyone around her. Could you imagine losing it or breaking off the engagement? I can honestly say that most westerner women are very competitive and showy when it comes to rings and marriage...not ALL, but most. Is there any of this in Turkish circles? It seems almost universal, but maybe not to the same extent...
I agree with you that a diamond ring or a silver ring will not make your marriage perfect! : )
But you know in America we have that kind of princess wedding dream which corrupts our lives... lol
In Turkey the diamonds are much more expensive than America.
For example a diamond ring of 1500$ may cost 2800$ in Turkey...
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05 Nov 2007 Mon 06:06 pm |
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I did not know that! But I have heard that buying the actual band (without the diamond) is much better quality and price in Turkey. Is this true?
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05 Nov 2007 Mon 06:10 pm |
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Quoting mey0722: I did not know that! But I have heard that buying the actual band (without the diamond) is much better quality and price in Turkey. Is this true? |
Oh yes... Everything except diamond is better price in Turkey. Also you have much more work on the rings...
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05 Nov 2007 Mon 06:12 pm |
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What kind of jewelry would be good to buy there if on a vacation? I'm talking about trinkets, things that aren't very expensive, such as necklaces, etc....anything unique and better priced I should look for while there?
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05 Nov 2007 Mon 06:18 pm |
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Quoting mey0722: What kind of jewelry would be good to buy there if on a vacation? I'm talking about trinkets, things that aren't very expensive, such as necklaces, etc....anything unique and better priced I should look for while there? |
It depends ... Your budget... : )
Earrings and rings are usually less expensive since they weight less...
Personally I found incredible that they make rings, bracelets and earrings with gold wire.(with a needle) It is hand made and WONDERFUL... I suggest you to have a look...
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05 Nov 2007 Mon 06:37 pm |
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Quoting Karine: Quoting azade: Is it haram for men to wear white gold also?
As far as I remember the reason gold is haram for men is for them not to look like women but maybe there's something more to it. I'm asking because I want our wedding rings to look alike and I never heard of silver wedding rings for women + the idea doesn't appeal to me. |
I have a suggestion for you. You know in Turkey there is so many good jeweller... They can make everything you want. So you can buy a silver band for your fiance and for you a gold band and ask the jeweller to make it the as same as your husband! |
That's a great suggestion actually  We will probably end up doing something like this.
In the future I will never buy jewellery in my my native country, it is way overpriced. My husband gave me a beautiful gold ring that would have cost at least thrice the price if I had bought it outside of Turkey. We almost went beserk in the gold shop but lucky for him I don't like spending too much money 
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