I´m going to Turkey end of this month to meet my boyfriend. And i will meet his parents for the first time. So i just want to know what is the right way to 'introduce' yourself;give 'kiss' to both cheeks or just shake hands. :-S

I remember my first visit to my boyfriend's house.
on the question "how should i behave" his answer was, "just be yourself" and added that "... you have to kiss my parents hand"

I have practised a lot with him this "kissing hand and then put it to forehead" ...as for me, first of all, it didn't make any sense i was laughing at this gesture all the time and i really couldn't get used to it at all

i said to myself "we are from differnt cultures, i shall do what i can to show that i tolerate these differences, at least noone will kill me if i won't be able do smth"

this "kiss" for Turkish is a gesture of high respect (mostly for elder people) and appreciation, also they use it to express appologies for smth.

anyways, for me it was quite easy to "enter" my bf's house i was just myself, not playing in any "good gal" and not trying to impress someone. just normal everything went fine
when the time to leave came i could apply this gesture when saying "bye" to his mother she didn't expect it from me at all i must admit i felt a bit uncomfortable and perhaps silly coz it was for the first time in my life but it was coming from my heart and she was really happy and smiling to me

to sum up i would say: you don't have to do anything special. be yourself, respect those who surrond you. and.. perhaps be open and friendly...mmm...like me x) hehe coz turksih people- they are! good luck

btw, catgirl, are you Finnish? i was just wondering....coz ur profile says ur location is Finland

I onlys kissed grandma`s hand..

Hi Tatiyana, i´m really from Finland

That kissing hands feels weird but...
But i will ask from my bf before my trip, just to make sure.

It really depends on what your BF family is like. In some famlies a kiss on both cheeks or hand shake would be OK. In others, kissing the hands of your future in-laws is proper. I'd ask your BF what the proper protocol would be for his family.