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Can some1 please give their opinion.....
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21 Oct 2007 Sun 05:40 pm |
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Hiya peeps
I am going to visit my boyf at his home in iskendurun (so will be meeting his folks)
i am soooo very nervous about this. I am worried about the cultural differences and if they will accept me.
He keeps telling me that his parents and city are very 'cosmopolitan' and not to worry...
can anyone tell me anything about life/culture in iskendurun??
any info would be much appreciated!!
Thanking you
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21 Oct 2007 Sun 05:50 pm |
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Well we have had many similar threads and the general advice from Turks is
(1) Don't be YOURSELF.
(2) Wear very loose clothes which cover everything otherwise you will be judged as "cheap white western trash" 
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21 Oct 2007 Sun 06:01 pm |
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-Try to be polite especially with Elders.
-Do not reject the food they offer you, no matter how much it is !
-Do not wear too revealing clothes.
-Bring some presents if possible.
I think you could be "yourself" somehow... 
I am sure some turkish friends will give you more "tips"
Dilara.
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21 Oct 2007 Sun 06:05 pm |
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AEnigma III thanks you really put my mind at ease!!haha
Well on the bright side..i suppose its a good reason to shop (not that we women need one!!!)
Thanks Dilara X
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21 Oct 2007 Sun 06:21 pm |
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Quoting AEnigma III: Well we have had many similar threads and the general advice from Turks is
(1) Don't be YOURSELF.
(2) Wear very loose clothes which cover everything otherwise you will be judged as 'cheap white western trash'
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OMG sooooo true!!! 
Especially the 'Don't be YOURSELF! How sad too 
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21 Oct 2007 Sun 06:25 pm |
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Quoting Dilara: -Try to be polite especially with Elders.
-Do not reject the food they offer you, no matter how much it is !
-Do not wear too revealing clothes.
-Bring some presents if possible.
I think you could be "yourself" somehow...
I am sure some turkish friends will give you more "tips"
Dilara. |
Nice advices. Be yourself, be polite and give a helping hand to the family. Like in the kitchen fx.
To bring presents is always a good idea.
Good luck!
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21 Oct 2007 Sun 06:32 pm |
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Quoting Dilara: -Try to be polite especially with Elders.
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Quoting Dilara:
-Do not reject the food they offer you, no matter how much it is ! |
it doesnt matter if it affects your stomach maybe after such overfeeding the western girls have stomach problems that cause the pregnancy?
Quoting Dilara:
-Do not wear too revealing clothes.
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hope no one comes to visit in a bikini suit?
Quoting Dilara:
-Bring some presents if possible.
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favorite ones are gold, and better if dimonds
Quoting Dilara:
I think you could be 'yourself' somehow...
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 somehow? somehow what? is she expected to be or not to be herself? maybe pretending a good turkish virgin is a better option?
Quoting Dilara:
I am sure some turkish friends will give you more 'tips'
Dilara. |
this is a good tip!
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21 Oct 2007 Sun 06:42 pm |
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Thanks for the tips peeps!
Okay i think ive got it now..im polite by nature anyway..and i will definitely be myself because
a.) I dont know how to pretend to be a good turkish virgin!
b.) why be a different person? i mean he obviously likes me as i am, and i would be acting 'false'otherwise and i hate false ppl!
...but i must admit i will be having a chat with him...about the points raised...he has said nothing to me about how im supposed to act! Men! Tut tut!
x
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21 Oct 2007 Sun 07:48 pm |
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I think you're very luck about your visiting place because Iskenderun is the one of the special cities which have sinagogs,churches and mosques at the same time in an peaceful atmosphere.
My all friends from Iskenderun are very understanding about cultural differences.
Briefly,go and taste
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21 Oct 2007 Sun 07:51 pm |
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Quoting xxxvictoriaxxx: Thanks for the tips peeps!
Okay i think ive got it now..im polite by nature anyway..and i will definitely be myself because
a.) I dont know how to pretend to be a good turkish virgin!
b.) why be a different person? i mean he obviously likes me as i am, and i would be acting 'false'otherwise and i hate false ppl!
...but i must admit i will be having a chat with him...about the points raised...he has said nothing to me about how im supposed to act! Men! Tut tut!
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Just be yourself,do not go bananas about clothes and exaggerated formal behaviour.Situation will be stressfull but also observe carefully what is going around if you are able to combine common sense with excitment!you know according to proverb"when in Rome behave as Romans do")))))))
I am sure you will have great time so enjoy it not bothering about hiding yourself,pretending is the worst thing that may be chosen.
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