In my continuing research into this much-loved subject I have noticed a NEW pattern!

Whilst the "romance" seems to begin with a LOT of begging and promises from the dudu (including calling her his "wife") I have noticed that after a certain period of time, the dudu backs off and suddenly the tourist girl is doing all the chasing.

At this point, it seems, the girl then "learns the rules". In her desparation to keep the dudu, she starts promising not to go out with friends so often, not to drink, not to wear short skirts etc.

Its also at this point, that the girl involved starts begging for an sms or a phone call or to talk on msn (as if it were diamonds) and begs them to LET THEM call or sms them more often.

End of season arrives. Dudu has no money. He starts inventing stories about operation in hospital, prison, family problems or suicidal thoughts and starts to ask her for money.

The final stage, we all know (Visa, marriage, baby, divorce - not necessarily in that order)

You have to admire these dudus - they REALLY KNOW how to play the game to their advantage

I agree with you Aenigma. I sometimes scratch my head and wonder how some of these women can be so niave. I thought we all knew what the "pick up lines" are...what the tell tale signs are of how to spot a con man, but apparently not. It is left to us evil women to let these ladies in on the secret language of Dudu...and it never takes a crystal ball to figure out his next move. I have read many posts from other members telling us how judgemental we are and asking us to be more compassionate. There is nothing wrong with compassion BUT I feel as though here in the West women are lucky. We have every opportunity to protect ourselves from pregnancy, disease, and I think enough talk shows, movies and forums are out there to education women about what kind of men to look out for....I DON'T GET IT!!

My favorite most flamboyant example of this man is on the main strip of shops by the Hali hotel...Karakoy district I think near eminonu Istanbul. Anyway his line was "Hello! I am charismatic Ali Baba!" I think he might have been a prostitute but I'm not sure. He looked like an extra on the Sopranos with his pinstripe polyester suit!

now you know how Dudu's are .. They are charrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrming!!! with their seni seviyorum, canim, askim, sevgilim, bebegim, I know I am leaving many many many beautiful words off this post .. .. and my personal favourites .. sevgilimcanimsekerimtatlibebegim
bebegimaskimbirtanemhayatimsultanim and lets not forget I love you till I die, I eat your tongue!! now where did I leave my green eye'd dudu? .. can't let him get too far away!!!
canimmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm where are you my love? .. you don't sms me anymore ..

You're right Leelu...There are many manifestations of Dudu's. I have a strong, silent type dudu....but for me, the more silent they are..the more I LIKE!!

OMG!!! I decided to Google...DUDU and you would not believe what came up...a video of Tarkan

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q1YIiQbJZOY

I think this explains it all...Dudu likes Dudes!