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Domestic Violence in Turkey
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08 Nov 2007 Thu 08:52 pm |
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I was at a women's healthcare conference a few years back in Turkey. We were mostly talking about OB/GYN care for women but touched on the subject of domestic violence. What I learned was shocking and so sad. Most Turkish women in one particular survey said that there husbands had beat them because they, the women, were not good enough. I think that the change in the attitude of women in Turkey is essential to changing the overall cycle of domestic violence.
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08 Nov 2007 Thu 09:05 pm |
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Quoting Elisabeth: I was at a women's healthcare conference a few years back in Turkey. We were mostly talking about OB/GYN care for women but touched on the subject of domestic violence. What I learned was shocking and so sad. Most Turkish women in one particular survey said that there husbands had beat them because they, the women, were not good enough. I think that the change in the attitude of women in Turkey is essential to changing the overall cycle of domestic violence. |
Unfortunately not only in Turkey! Creeps who think marrying means getting a slave are in every country! In the Netherlands are at least 24 shelters for victims of domestic violence.
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08 Nov 2007 Thu 09:22 pm |
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Unfortunately you are right Trudy and there is so much work to be done in every country. But I find it is difficult for some women to even recognize they are being abused. Some of the women I have known are abused in such subtle ways...being put down, called names, threatened. It is a huge problem globally. I think that this survey revealed that in some small ways women are recognizing abuse. I am just a little surprised the the study only included acts of violence and not abuse in general. I am sure the numbers would grow if those totals were included.
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08 Nov 2007 Thu 09:27 pm |
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yes abuse comes in many forms .. to me the worst type I believe comes from narcasism .. as a victim of such .. I can honestly say it takes years to even start to know who you are or were .. and then the process of learning all over again starts .. but I agree, if they had added all of the other "subtle" ways to abuse they would have much larger numbers.
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08 Nov 2007 Thu 09:39 pm |
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Quoting Elisabeth: Unfortunately you are right Trudy and there is so much work to be done in every country. But I find it is difficult for some women to even recognize they are being abused. Some of the women I have known are abused in such subtle ways...being put down, called names, threatened. It is a huge problem globally. I think that this survey revealed that in some small ways women are recognizing abuse. I am just a little surprised the the study only included acts of violence and not abuse in general. I am sure the numbers would grow if those totals were included. |
I know, 15 years ago I worked in such a shelter. Even women with scars, blue spots sometimes said 'it is not his fault' (grrrrrrr!!!).
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08 Nov 2007 Thu 10:44 pm |
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Quoting Trudy: I know, 15 years ago I worked in such a shelter. Even women with scars, blue spots sometimes said 'it is not his fault' (grrrrrrr!!!). |
its a defense mechanism that kicks in .. you start to believe that it really is/was your fault, because it is what they want you to believe. The hardest part is breaking away from it because by the time you hit as far bottom as you can go .. and trust me .. its reaaaaaaaaaally reaaaaaaaaaaaaaally a lot further than can be imagined .. it is like something inside your head snaps .. and you start questioning and reasoning .. and a lot of times its with a friends help that you start climbing out of the pit you are in and as you get higher and higher up the walls you learn that you have a strength inside of you that you didn't know was ever there. That is when you leave and start your life over. but the default answers that have been literally beaten into you ..do not go away over night .. that is why you hear those words. You know they are false but you cannot rationalize it any other way until you learn that it was not your fault, you did not ask for him to hit/rape/cheat/lie to you.
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08 Nov 2007 Thu 10:48 pm |
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Quoting Trudy: Quoting Elisabeth: Unfortunately you are right Trudy and there is so much work to be done in every country. But I find it is difficult for some women to even recognize they are being abused. Some of the women I have known are abused in such subtle ways...being put down, called names, threatened. It is a huge problem globally. I think that this survey revealed that in some small ways women are recognizing abuse. I am just a little surprised the the study only included acts of violence and not abuse in general. I am sure the numbers would grow if those totals were included. |
I know, 15 years ago I worked in such a shelter. Even women with scars, blue spots sometimes said 'it is not his fault' (grrrrrrr!!!). |
and catwoman doesnt want to understand why i often cant stand women 
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