Darling we love each other so much surely we can find a solution to the finacial problems,please do not give up so easily..give me as I say until March 1st. We can talk every day,please if this means as much to you then you will wait.

Astry, I am sorry, but you are crazy to try to persuade this man. OK, just imagine you can come up with a financial solution that is acceptable to him? What then? As soon as there are financial problems again, or the business fails, be sure he will leave you with NOTHING.

I somehow think that the man is right. A relationship where money is an issue every second is not a happy one. And I know that love conquers all, but I am also aware that having no place to live, no money, no nothing...and also being from different countries is a very big problem that love just can't solve.
And yes, I know he is not being fair and it's not her obligation to have/provide money, but I think he is being realistic. No matter who has to bring the money or not, they just have to exist in order to marry, to have a house and everything that follows. Love is not beautiful at all when all you can think about is how you'll pay the rent.
So the reason this relationship has to be over it's not necessarly because of the man's character, but also because it has no chance to begin with. I just hope she'll realize this sooner rather than later.

wheres marion MARION in Turkey! where are you?
come on, help this girl! help her to find about 10000L to keep their great love alive, and of course they wouldnt manage without your language skills or, pardon, contributions, charity!
love is sooooo wonderful its definetly more than 100000£$£$£$£

Agree with all 3 replies, lets say Id be a little less harsh than FF, but still, the essentials she is saying are right.

When a relationship starts, it is impossible to be financially secure for two people, as both were always working hard to be sufficient just for ONE. BUT, when entering a relationship, both parties have to work to a social and financial responsibility that eventually can come together and cover all needed for both parties.

Astry, from what I read so far, this man hasn't thought well before jumping into conclusions. He doesnt have to immediately buy a business, he can also work harder and more and wait till he has enough money to buy on his own, or until the TWO of you have BOTH worked hard to pay 50/50 and own the business together.
To me, based just upon the messages, he is either very irresponsible when it comes to matters of money (definitely not a virtue when living in turkey), or is very naive and thinks this love cant be saved without buying an expensive business rather than working hard, or he just loves your bankaccount more than he loves you.

Please be wise in your decisions, as what seems obvious to us doesnt seem to get through to you.

Thank you all of you for your input..what I am trying to put through to him is the fact that yes we should work harder, longer have a small house/apartment first, then later we can think of a business,,
he says he is NOT asking me for money just stating the facts about what is missing..
I want him to see that he has priorities wrong his own business is not the number one priority but us and a small house or whatever comes first. I will try and write something in English to be translated..again!! I do love him he does love me I am not giving up easily without a fight and explanations!
Watch this space for the rest of the saga!
Thank you all