This is my first post.... can I just say Turkey is my favourite country, so beautiful, and this site is great for me to try to learn Turkish....

I'm scared about something. 2 years ago, when I was a young teenager, I met a Turkish guy who worked at our apartments. He was funny, sweet, and spent most of his time with me for 2 weeks, and although he always joked around, he gave me the impression he liked me. My parents also said he seemed to like me a lot. So, we promised we would stay in contact although he couldn't write very well.We swapped addresses etc. I know the following month he was to go into the army. Thing is, the day I got home I wrote to him, and NEVER heard a word from him again. No letter, no email, no text, no call. I feel so stupid for writing to him, but I feel so strongly for him. He was the first guy I liked, and I always think of him.

We are returning to the same apartments this year and I know he will be there. I'm so embarassed, and I know I will fall for him even more. But if he likes me back, I've decided I shall let HIM ask ME for my address this time. But I am so so scared, I like him so much and I don't want to be hurt.

How should I be towards him? I doubt he'll remember me but I want to be with him, although that is impossible. How should I be towards him? I'm so confused!

this is a so beautiful story!! but it's sad for you! I hope the guy have a good excuse for not writting you!maybe you're just too negative and everything will be ok! I hope so!!!

Hi there Carla, yes indeed quite a sad story.My views would be, yes you fell over heels with him, but it wasn't obviuously reciprocated.Sometimes men flirt, and offer their charms....a holiday romance.On your return, treat him as a long lost friend, hold your own Carla and don't fall for his charm.Remember the old saying ' their are plenty of fish in the sea.............but i allways add...but their are also plent of sharks too!! He may well have justifiable reasons for not contacting you, but please please be careful not too fall for an illusion!

Thank you for your comments, I appreciate it a lot.
I get the feeling that if he ever recieved the letter, he laughed at me because I was silly enough to fall for him. He probably acts like it with everyone I'm sure, I just wish that I could forget him. It's impossible to make someone feel what they don't feel, so I can't make him care for me. For 2 years I've been hoping to hear from him in some way, thinking of him all the time. But there has been nothing.

My dear Carla, please don't think he laughed at you.Iknow very much what it's like to fall for someone, and not recieve the response one hoped for;or indeed not to get a response at all.It is not easy forgetting either,as in your case two years is a long time.I would be honoured and humbled Carla to have been in his shoes,and perhaps the way to think is that 'it is his loss'.I personally wouldn't go out there on a mission Carla,to find him.There is a very good chance my friend, you may get hurt more.It is so easy for me to sit at my pc,writing this to you Carla, i have indeed been there as with so many others.Hope is a thing we all hang on to,only to be hurt again and again.He hasn't even had the courtousy to reply to you Carla, you have hoped for so long; the longer you feel like this, life is passing you by as are the opportunities of meeting the right person.I divorced from my wife a number of years ago Carla, i will admit to you that i still love her very deeply and this in itself has hindered other relationships i have entered.I still hold a flame for this lady,even though i know in my heart we shall never meet again.I was even told from one very dear friend, Carla that indeed i still loved her but my life had been put on hold.I cannot tell you Carla what to do,but think carefully my friend.The mental strains, and your own person are at risk here.Take care.........

Hi Carla,

I think you will never know what this next holiday may bring you. There might be something or someone different who may captivate you.

It is very hard to MOVE ON, don't waste your time on this person, if it happens it happens. Condition your mind to look for new horizons. Very hard I know when you can only think of this one person, but believe me its the best advice.

I know you will have a really good holiday because there is so much going on in the resorts and everyone is happy. Look at all the opportunites out there waiting for you!

Go for it CARLA
make us proud of you: us women are quite resilient!

Hehe thanks, I shall try. Also, I hear so many people who meet Turkish friends and who stay in contact with them, but the thing I also wonder is, how do you know if you have the right, or are friends enough, to ask to stay in contact? I mean, should you wait to see if they ask you, or should you ask them? And I'm still so confused about this guy, I know all of your advice is fantastic, thank you.

no problem, sweetie