Greetings
Please advise me, I have meet nice Turkish-Kurdish man on holiday 6 months earlier, we still contact, he honest about past but he have history with girls. He work in apartments but he not well-known like a lot of men, he sleep a lot before but not like lots other have. He not always say me romantic words or poems, this good I think. He 22 now, and said he want marry me in 2009 when I older as I am 17. Is 25 age most man marry? And is custom he say he wait? I confused lots. Because lot Western girl he experienced more, but he say me I like Turkish girl because I no touch him and I shy. Is good sign? But too he not write me letter or prove he love me, no phone, I ask him look place for me stay but he no look, he not much interest in me personally. I not know what sign to look if he love me.

Thank you Turkish class people

Good of you to give a critique of her English, Isam, since yours is so exemplary.

Ahem.

People who live in glass houses, sugar...

H.

What *is* it with your spelling?

It's like being back in Croydon...

H.

Beee-yoootiful.

H.

My English not good, I not native English speaker. Your advice good thank you, any more advice? We not sleep together yet. So you say that men try Western girls before marry their love? Maybe he just not proof to me or not write letters because he is secret man. What signs he love me?

If you haven't slept with him yet...he probably does like you.

If you have, well, we have an expression about this in English:

"why buy the cow, if you can get the milk for free?"

Thus this 2009-marriage business is likely to be some line to keep you interested whilst he has his fun. Sorry, but I am a cynic.

Furthermore - long distance relationships are a pain in the @rse. Be sure that this man is really worth the hassle, emotional turmoil and expense that a long distance relationship will cost you. If you have any doubts then maybe you should look for a man closer to home...

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Thank you very much MissHelen, you helpful to me. Has his fun with me or sleep lots girls before we together? I not know if he has real intention for marry me, but he say so. He say 2009 when I finish study and I older. All his friends are marry.

Just a little gentle advice from me - find another man perhaps?

Take care

Whatever relationship you are in, people will have different views and see different perspectives. I believe you should follow your heart. In time if he does not 'prove' his love then you can make the decision whether to leave him or not. Perhaps get to know him better, so that you can understand his personality , ie. is he lazy when it comes to romantic gestures? Does he hide feelings? etc.
It's also a good idea to go and spend more time with him in his home environment, meet his family and friends (if you haven't already met them), so that you can know what life you would lead out there.
Seeing as you say you have not slept with him, I think he does like you and obviously will respect you for that, as he compared you to a Turkish woman, he obviously doesn't relate you to the league of a lot of Western women who would sleep with him straight away.
I think the thing to remember is, love needs trust to survive, can you trust him enough to continue this relationship? In most relationships people have had a past , some even have been divorced and meet another, but if his past is that bad then discuss it rationally with him.
Sorry I can't help you,I wish I could. But I wish you very good luck, I hope whatever you choose will be the right path. Anyway, I've told you all this before. I hope you'll get someone to speak it better to you, when you go back home just follow your own heart. See you later Azzy.