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Turkish neighbours
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22 Jul 2008 Tue 11:22 am |
I want to share an experience that happened at our house last night...
It was 1am and the neighbour was making loads of noise (he was outside drinking with 4 friends) so we asked them to be quiet. In the British way you expect the neighbour to be apologetic- oh no!! He went crazy, shouting and swearing saying how they´d only been outside for 5 mins and how dare we say that to him. He was trying to jump over into our garden and start a fight. Me and my boyfriend went indoors and could hear him moaning to his friends outside. It got personal when he started moaning that we´re living together, not married etc!!!! What a cheek! He carried on outside ranting and raving and finally at 3am we called the police. They went down to the police office but nothing much happened. They returned home and the neighbour was still banging around in the garden until 5am shouting ´´if you´re a man you´ll come out´´ and ´´i´ll be here til the morning waiting for you´´....
So far today I haven´t heard from the neighbour but I don´t think we´ve seen the end of this. All the neighbours were awoken by all of the commotion and we´ll be the talk of the town today!!!
The thing is, my boyfriend knew that because they were drinking when he told them to be quiet it would start a war. Me, on the other hand, thinking British, told him if he didn´t say something I would so that´s when he told them to be quiet. I guess I kind of started the whole thing.
I don´t even know what lesson we can learn from this.... at the end of the day if a neighbour keeps you awake at 1am you have the right to say something without being attacked physically and mentally. Maybe we should have seen that he was drinking and waited until today to say something. But that would have meant us putting up with the noise all night. We can´t win!!
I´m not saying all Turkish people are the same but it does seem that its offensive to ask your neighbours to be quiet and if they´ve been drinking, expect the unexpected...
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22 Jul 2008 Tue 11:46 am |
Geçmiş Olsun - that is not nice but not surprising either.
Just this morning we were on the minibus coming to work and the driver started smoking a cigarette - IT IS ILLEGAL NOW WITH THE NEW SMOKING BAN - so me and hubby asked him "Why do you smoke - it is no smoking".
And he was off, shouting at us, being horrible !
The worst thing is no-one and I mean NO-ONE else on the bus stood up in our defense ! How will things change ?
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22 Jul 2008 Tue 11:54 am |
sağol
It was the same with us last night. One neighbour came over and just watched for 2 minutes then left without saying anything. The noise the neighbour was making must have been keeping the other neighbours awake but no-one said anything.
Amazing isn´t it. Even after the police came he carried on.
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22 Jul 2008 Tue 12:14 pm |
I think I would have put up with it for one night. If it is something happens on a regular basis then surely it would be better to approach the man during the day time and explain your side. Just my thoughts.
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22 Jul 2008 Tue 12:24 pm |
Quoting libralady: I think I would have put up with it for one night. If it is something happens on a regular basis then surely it would be better to approach the man during the day time and explain your side. Just my thoughts. |
We got so angry about them waking us up, shouting and breaking things. I think we would have exploded if we´d just stayed indoors and not said anything. In hindsight, I agree that we shouldn´t have done anything on this occasion but it´s easier said than done.
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22 Jul 2008 Tue 01:06 pm |
there´s one thing I can say. NEVER SPEAK TO A TURKISH MAN IF YOU KNOW HE HAS BEEN DRINKING, it is the worse thing you can possibly do I know this for a fact because my dad is a turk and quite a few turkish mn like him cannot handle their drink, so I would have waited until the morning and then say something
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22 Jul 2008 Tue 01:16 pm |
Quoting hobnob: Quoting libralady: I think I would have put up with it for one night. If it is something happens on a regular basis then surely it would be better to approach the man during the day time and explain your side. Just my thoughts. |
We got so angry about them waking us up, shouting and breaking things. I think we would have exploded if we´d just stayed indoors and not said anything. In hindsight, I agree that we shouldn´t have done anything on this occasion but it´s easier said than done. |
Just another thought, do you have a hosepipe?
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22 Jul 2008 Tue 01:25 pm |
Yes, we do have a hose pipe... maybe we can put it to good use!! Our long metal pole came in handy last night when the neighbour was trying to jump over in our garden!! I knew my welder boyfriend´s metal would come in handy one day! Interestingly, the neighbour´s keeping a low profile today.
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22 Jul 2008 Tue 05:41 pm |
Quoting Ebbyru: there´s one thing I can say. NEVER SPEAK TO A TURKISH MAN IF YOU KNOW HE HAS BEEN DRINKING, it is the worse thing you can possibly do I know this for a fact because my dad is a turk and quite a few turkish man like him cannot handle their drink, |
Ha ha
I have been trying to prove ´how wrong those words are´ in my entire adult life .
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22 Jul 2008 Tue 05:50 pm |
pity some of people drinks with another parts of their bodies not with their mouths,and yea really very sad event,but i think bottles or drinks doesn´t treat everybody same.God save all of us from who drinking with their ass instead of their mouths
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