Do Turkish women ever marry an outsider?

Hi Tut,

I have known of some outsiders marrying a Turkish girl.

Who will make the ultimate sacrifice in the relationship? Since, they are from two different world.

Knowledge and true:

Did you know a man from Eastern Turkey and places in the mountains can have up to 5 wives.
One legal and four hoca wives. The hoca is not equivalent to our priest but marries couples after the legal wife. These wives known as equivalent to our mistresses is recognised by the neighbours, friends and family.

Usually the normal amount is 3 wives as a house is usually bought each time they marry. This is why there are such big families.

I know this to be very true as my agent is from Eastern Turkey and he has two wives and he is only twenty nine years of age. He told me he can have five wives. He was brought up with his father having three wives, his mother was the legal wife, he has eight brothers and sister in total. Two half siblings to each of his two (step mothers). He told me his brother has three wives. He said its alright, we all get on well.

I have checked this out with "Alanya Answers", and she told me her hushand's father had three wives, and they were all treat the same.

I've also heard about it, but it was at least 30-40 years ago. My boyfiend's grandfather had six wives. Father of my boyfriend is a son of the sixth wife. It happens sometimes, but generally in more "arabic" places like Sanliurfa and the most eastern parts of Turkey. You would be suprised how many Arabian people from Syria or Iran live in Urfa. Sometimes in a whole family only one person is able to speak Turkish! This is very orthodox culture, girls in such families don't finish even primary school because their father doesn't agree for this.

Hi Setico,

These were no arabic people but Kurdish, or so he told me he and his family are.

I wonder if it is with the ones who can afford a few wives. As I don't think a lot of them would be able to afford as many.

It definitely exists today and not something of the past.

The children do work at an early age sometimes from the age of 11 years of age to help support their family.

I was asking a young boy in Icmeler working for his uncle in the Bazaar why he wasn't in school. He used to run and hide when he saw me after that, as I would lecture him about school. He kept telling me "finish". He was also a long way from home.
I have also seen a lot of children selling items at night in the resort. This could be dangerous for such children.
How their parents don't worry about them?

well, probably you are right. I've been told about it but I couldn't believed. Also in Malatya there are a lot of very young children who sell different things on the streets. My friend told me that most of them come from eastern Turkey and their fathers generally don't won't to work, women in such families can't work, so children are sent to work for a family. I've seen many children selling sweets etc.
However I know also "normal" Kurdish people who say that they don't accept this situation but they can do nothing about it, because "fathers" of families don't want to change anything in their lives.

Yes Seticio, I have also been told the same thing about these young chidren working. when I was in ayvalik in February 2 tiny boys one no older than about 5 or 6 years old were on the bus at 11.30pm alone. One of them had a very bad cough and I was very concerned about their safety, they told my friend that they had been selling serviettes to bars and restaurants. They said that their mother was dead and their father was at home sleeping. They got off the bus when I did and finished their journey on foot, two little boys walking slowly along holding hands in the middle of the night - they should have been tucked up in bed with their teddy bears - very sad.

On my forum there are lots of european women married and dating turkish men good and bad. These are older women in their 40s 50s who have settled in Turkey with their men some have successful marriages, cohabitations and some have been hoodwinked and left penniless.

If a Turkish man remains in Turkey chances are he will marry a turkish woman because his family dictates that he should. Also children are a Turkish family's wealth, they will bring in the money when they are old enough to either work or marry. There are very rarely old people's homes in turkey and the family look after and take care of each other or so I've been told.

There is a huge ex-pat population growing in turkey along the coastlines some are staying permanent some are just using the place for holiday homes.

There are a lot of english working over there now in estate agents and other areas. I know this because I have many friends who live and work in Turkey.

Sorry if this is in the wrong place.

Is Osmaniye a city of the Eastern turkey?? :-S

OF COURSE , BUT THE WOMEN IN TURKEY RARELY MARRY AN OUTSIDER. REGARDING THE MEN THAT YOU HAVE MENTIONED ABOVE, IT DEPENDS, IN ACCORDENCE WITH THE EDUCATIONAL LEVEL AND THE REGION FROM WHICH THEY COME FROM,