WOW I had no idea that those people are called as maenda, but I noticed that there is a kind of people I really dont like- and it was exactly what Erdinc was talking about. I didn't need weeks or months to understand that I should stay away of them. That was kind of people I really hate.
I suppose they also use lots of hair gel

I'm also very interested in symbolic meaning of silver, does anyone knows something more about it?
I'm curious because I love silver...

maganda sorry
yeni kelime

Would a typical Turkish wife be expected to cook, clean and look after her husband? Are they allowed to work once married? In torist areas you hardly ever see women working.

I would like to have the best of both worlds by holding down a full time job and also looking after the house.....with help from the husband of course

women cam have a job of course but they have to spend more energy than usual...

I guess by your reply dusk, you don't think that the husband should help.

Is it that a woman can have a job of course, as long as she also looks after the house properly.

If i complain to my friend that I don't have time to clean properly, he says - 'then why do you work?'

husband can help but not all the time
at last me

I think that if both husband and wife work full time then they should be help each other.

my wife must look after my children
not any other woman

I totally agree duskahvesi! I wouldn't let another woman look after my children, apart from my mother.

I agree. I looked after my own children (4 of them) apart from when my mum or my mother in law babysat if I went out.
BUT - what about that then duskhavesi. In England, it is quite normal for a wife to go out drinking and dancing with her friends and leave her husband at home looking after the children!

What would you think of that all you turkish guys!

I seems I'm a veru lucky person, becuse my boyfriend says it's no problem for him, he can look after children and it's not olny wife's obligations. He also cooks very well, also washes the dishes and is able to clean a house and he didn't think woman is the only person who does it at house. I also don't think it's woman's obligation. My boyfriend agrees with me. Marriage is a partnership for me as well for him.
And my boyfriend is Turk.

Duskahvesi, I'm very sorry for your future wife...