If I was essential for you, you would try to give me more attention and would not mind what people around say or do about what you do. You neglected me, you were not in touch often, you were  writing when you wanted and was thinking I was supposed to be ready waiting for you when you wanted to talk to me and answer the phone at the time you wanted to call me. This isnt a relationship but a selfishness. You have already made me cry when I was in my country and you also said that we should go on like this only as lovers. I want have my own family and not just go on like this, this is not fair at all, you cant see things on my perspective but only on yours.I am 30 years old, I have no time to waste only with relationships that have no future since you would not be my husband according to what you said, so why should I go on with you? I hope this lesson you mentioned is about how to dont behave with the next person you find, because no one wants to be letf without a word for days and wait when you can or want to meet them to be able to see you nor to listen that you were thinking about being with someone who is very close in age with your mother and who is in the picture of your profile with you. Things are not the way you think only, relationships have 2 sides but people tend to think only to their own navels without thinking if the way they are acting is hurting the other person they clain they love. You have told me that I should do what is better for myself and that the most important things was my happiness. The way you were carrying that relationship was making me unhappy.And the fact that you have to do what your family say was another point that was pushing me away from you, but you dont seem to see that.

Please, anyone to help me with that?

sorry I can not help  you with this and I wish you all the best in your future. But I do have a question to put out there.  Why do woman/girls  keep kicking a dead dog. It is clearly so many times on this forum it is over for them with their relationship. But they seem to have  to keep writing to the person  to relay their point of view. They will say you are a dog and cheated on me treated me like crap and I still love you and wanted or want a future with you. Ladies,Girls learn to walk away from that abuse and crap and find someone who will treat you with respect. If a guy cheats on you during  a relationship he does not value you or respect you or was not really into the relationship in the first place. So do keep trying to tell him what you think should of happened or how he should feel bad that he hurt you . Because he doesn´t and what you write is just blah blah blah to him. Also if he claims the  second girlfriend is to appease his parents believe me he is not going to dump her. There is a reason he accepted her in the first place. Don´t make yourself so need and desparate . Walk away. Third remember that most normal relationships are given less than a 30% chance of success after 3 years. What do you think the chances are for  a holiday fling where you need someone from turkishclass ( which we all thank you for your sorrid letter because we learn new words and grammer ) will have. Look at this forum and do a search back in time. You will see many out there that did the same thing as you........ begged and nagged for affection........  just walk away if he was from your own country I am sure you would of just flipped him the bird and walked away. Stop hanging onto the wrong man and find the right man for yourself. Be happy and be happy about yourself for walking away from a life of misery. If you are just dating and you have all these woes............ think about a few years from now  after a baby and a houseful of dept....

acute, this is a good question and I even know the answer to it. But this is not the place. It is against a translator´s ethics to peek or comment anything that comes to his eyes at work.

...unless we want to open a new section with translation, maxims and trivial philosophy combined. People would come with their troubles and we would provide them with both translation and life instructions. This way we could easily double the amount of customers. I could volunteer to be the chief of that section. It would be the end of love rats and playboy waiters.

...and actually we could  -  within the limits of good taste  -  work on the translation texts also so that our customer would end up with the best possible result for the rest of her life.

If I was essential for you, you would try to give me more attention and would not mind what people around say or do about what you do.

Eğer senin için vazgeçilmez olsaydım bana daha fazla alaka göstermeye çalışır ve diğer insanların ne diyecekleri veya ne yapman konusunda onları kaale almazdın. [umursamazdın]

You neglected me, you were not in touch often, you were  writing when you wanted and was thinking I was supposed to be ready waiting for you when you wanted to talk to me and answer the phone at the time you wanted to call me.

Beni ihmal ettin. Benimle sıkça irtibatta değildin, canın istediğinde bana yazıyordun. Benimle konuşmak istediğinde  senin için her zaman hazır ve nazırmışım düşüncesi vardı sende.  Beni aramak istediğin zaman telefonu cevaplıyordun.

This isnt a relationship but a selfishness. You have already made me cry when I was in my country and you also said that we should go on like this only as lovers.

Bu bir ilişki değil ancak bencilliktir. Ülkemdeyken de beni zaten ağlatmıştın. Bana biz böyle devam etmeliyiz yani sadece sevgili olarak şeklinde söylemiştin.

I want have my own family and not just go on like this, this is not fair at all, you cant see things on my perspective but only on yours.I am 30 years old, I have no time to waste only with relationships that have no future since you would not be my husband according to what you said, so why should I go on with you?

Ben kendime bir aile kurmak istiyorum , böyle devam etmek değil. Zira bu hiç adil değil. Olayları benim açımdan değil ama sadece kendi açından görebiliyorsun. Ben 30 yaşındayım. Hiçbir geleceği olmayan ilişkilerle heba edecek vaktim yok. Zira söylemine göre benim kocam olmayacakmışsın, öyle ise  neden seninle devam edeyim ki ?