dont do it, please..it is the great mistake

you have to try to think in Turkish

Yes but how do you think in turkish?

first, try to memorize simple sentences; keep you atention on construction of phrase - the rule number one

the order of phrase is always subject - object - verb

ask you husband to speak together some useful phrases, daily phrases

learn minimum 30 words per day

spend minimum 30 minutes per day for learning Turkish

okay ill try to shoot for 30 words a day. hopefully ill improve better. what about grammar should I focus on that last? like all the suffixes? should I learn at least 30 new suffixes a day?

dont think at suffixes like a particular object

you have learn them together with pronouns, nouns, etc

you can start from here - there are a lot of lessons for the beginners

do you know Teach Yourself Turkish

try it

http://www.turkishclass.com/forumTitle_42902

Speaking is more important than gramer.If you want to speak,you will try to speak Turkish people.Don´t be shy.No one´s questioning you "Why didn´t speak very well?" So take it easy.For example,I am learning English.I didn´t speak English at the past.But now I have got foreigner teacher and I speak English very well.Eventually,you will improve your Turkish and speaking.You can meet some people and you should say: "I am learning Turkish,can you help me ?" or you can speak here with us.We always help you.And this is the most important thing,you should trust yourself  

If you want to improve your speaking,I will recommend you some videos,documentaries,movies,TV series or something 

if you really want you will do all you need is your motivation look within you and ask yourself - why do you want to understand turkish and you will discover the energy to understand it

i holiday in Turkey and N cyprus. I spent a few years just using cds and dvds.Luckily a turkish class started at my local college.The teacher was brilliant but the classes only lasted 2 terms as so many dropped out.Most people just wanted holiday turkish and once she brought grammar into the lessons nearly everyone struggled. But i have had  a number of private lessons  with her which have been marvellous for me.So I have been lucky to find a teacher. Have you thought of a teacher where you can have one to one?

You mentioned learning phrases.I did this and it worked.

I looked at all my notes and wrote out phrases that I thought I would use for a holiday this year. I wrote alot!! Then i memorised them. But I found by doing this that   I learnt and understood how the sentences were formed.

I understand turkish grammar.Tenses are easy as there are no irregular verbs.I speak spanish and there are lots of them.I have to really think about suffixes though.I have turkish friends who I teach english to and I have learnt what a difficult language english can be.

I love learning the language but i find I am learning it slowly.I have problems understanding what people are saying but they seem to understand me.So I am halfway there. I do have some turkish friends who i communicate with on email and skype, so that´s a big help.

The great thing though is that Turkish people love to hear that you are learning.I get so much help and I am not afraid to try. Yes sometimes they laugh but then they correct me. What a great way to learn.I love going into shops and cafes and speaking.

I just need turkish for holidays so I don´t need to be fluent.I would say I have nearly reached my aim.I have just come back from Kadikoy in Istanbul where some english was spoken.But alot of people did not.I did okay, not perfect, but got by.

So don´t give up. You are frustrated because you are in a turkish environment and maybe it´s tiring to try and keep up with the language everyday. But it sounds that you have some knowledge and believe me you will improve.

Good luck and let us all know how you get on.