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Dating between Turks and non-Turks
1.       sevdali
2 posts
 02 Feb 2016 Tue 03:44 pm

I am not a Turk, and my fascination with Turkey is mostly a matter of heart more than anything else. I have met wonderful Turkish people online and even fell for turk ladies a couple of times. Because of those situations I am growing a big affection for the culture and its people. As I haven´t been as lucky as to actually see and go out with a Turk lady, I would like to hear some impressions or advice about intercultural dating from any lucky persons who had such an experience. Has any of you non-Turks been in a dating relationship with a Turk? Has it been online? In person? Are there any intercultural differences or difficulties? How do you think your Turk partners differ from the partners of your country?

 

As I am a guy, I am more interested to hear from non-Turk guys who were lucky enough to date Turk ladies, but all experiences are welcome



Edited (2/2/2016) by sevdali
Edited (2/2/2016) by sevdali

2.       peyote
101 posts
 02 Feb 2016 Tue 06:36 pm

To be honest I think it is kind of weird to target any particular nationality for consideration of a relationship. To me this is a warning sign. If you can not find a relationship and keep it successful in the country you live in what makes you think that trying to obtain a relationship outside both your language barriers and culture would be successful.I almost get the feeling you are looking for a trophy wife.

However if you do find a successful relationship , understand not only will you marry the woman you will marry her family too. They will be a big part of your life and will not only interfer with your marriage they will expect you to finacially help them or an uncle, auntie, second cousin with money when they need it.

If you like the language embrace it and learn it. If you like the culture/art/country - holiday there and support it by being a tourist. But if you are looking for a wife/love reconsider. Your posting makes me think of someone looking at one of those dating website like

XXXXX girls looking for husbands and a way out of their countries. No Turkish girl would consider this type of shit.

 

3.       diamondsevrywhr
10 posts
 02 Feb 2016 Tue 10:30 pm

Not so different but you will probably get to know her family very  very well. 



Edited (2/2/2016) by diamondsevrywhr

4.       denizli
961 posts
 02 Feb 2016 Tue 10:45 pm

 

Quoting peyote

...

They will be a big part of your life and will not only interfer with your marriage they will expect you to finacially help them or an uncle, auntie, second cousin with money when they need it.

...

 

Ouch

5.       scalpel - -
203 posts
 03 Feb 2016 Wed 04:19 am

 

Quoting peyote

 

However if you do find a successful relationship , understand not only will you marry the woman you will marry her family too. They will be a big part of your life and will not only interfer with your marriage they will expect you to finacially help them or an uncle, auntie, second cousin with money when they need it.

 

 

You think that Turks all live in poverty and the only reason why they would want to get married to a westerner will be for the money and never for love.. strange but not true..  What if he would meet a beautiful girl who´s well educated, speaks a fluent English, and maybe the daughter of a wealthy family that no one in the family would ask enişte for some money? I-ıh..? Zero chance..?

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6.       peyote
101 posts
 03 Feb 2016 Wed 04:42 pm

 

Quoting scalpel - -

 

 

You think that Turks all live in poverty and the only reason why they would want to get married to a westerner will be for the money and never for love.. strange but not true..  What if he would meet a beautiful girl who´s well educated, speaks a fluent English, and maybe the daughter of a wealthy family that no one in the family would ask enişte for some money? I-ıh..? Zero chance..?

 

Really Scalpel you miss the point,  I was trying to discourage (someone) from doing something,  by instilling doubt or fear of the consequences. Because of the way he was targeting for a turkish girl. I felt him to be rather rude and creepy. Almost as bad as the Turkish guy who hunts for a trophey non Turkish girl by scanning the internet. Or the ones who hang out in the tourist districts. The ones who say all Turkish girls are whiners and complainers and spoiled who only want a house , money and gifts before they look at you.  I felt his hunting skills were like those creeps on the internet who are shopping for a particular type of girl, which is creepy............. and always will be.

As for your remark about love.............. well it does happen in the strangest ways but this guy is saying I am looking only for a Turkish girl to love _ that seems pretty selective like shopping for a pair of shoes........... worst he has not spent the time to read up himself about the difficulties of intercultural relationships instead he is asking guys to give him hints.He has never been to Turkey so I imagine he filters through girl photos only............ that is shitty........just plain creepy and shitty.



Edited (2/3/2016) by peyote
Edited (2/3/2016) by peyote [because I am trying to make a point that few can understand.]

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7.       peyote
101 posts
 03 Feb 2016 Wed 11:08 pm

I just want to say that it was a smart thing to edit out all the crap you wrote initally about how turkish girls are sexy and sensual and you think they could be a lot of fun . etc.... and that you have played with a few on the internet..... shame on you and sad too that you feel that you need to find someone on internet  to romance with. You must be a pretty sad charactor of a human  if you can´t find a normal relationship in your own country  and in real time. Seek help

Quoting sevdali

I am not a Turk, and my fascination with Turkey is mostly a matter of heart more than anything else. I have met wonderful Turkish people online and even fell for turk ladies a couple of times. Because of those situations I am growing a big affection for the culture and its people. As I haven´t been as lucky as to actually see and go out with a Turk lady, I would like to hear some impressions or advice about intercultural dating from any lucky persons who had such an experience. Has any of you non-Turks been in a dating relationship with a Turk? Has it been online? In person? Are there any intercultural differences or difficulties? How do you think your Turk partners differ from the partners of your country?

 

As I am a guy, I am more interested to hear from non-Turk guys who were lucky enough to date Turk ladies, but all experiences are welcome

 

 

8.       Re-Met
2 posts
 20 Mar 2016 Sun 11:59 am

smartest response to such a low IQ question

Quote:

Add quoted text here

Quoting peyote

I just want to say that it was a smart thing to edit out all the crap you wrote initally about how turkish girls are sexy and sensual and you think they could be a lot of fun . etc.... and that you have played with a few on the internet..... shame on you and sad too that you feel that you need to find someone on internet  to romance with. You must be a pretty sad charactor of a human  if you can´t find a normal relationship in your own country  and in real time. Seek help

 

 

 

 

9.       Re-Met
2 posts
 20 Mar 2016 Sun 11:59 am

smartest response to such a low IQ question

Quote:

Add quoted text here

Quoting peyote

I just want to say that it was a smart thing to edit out all the crap you wrote initally about how turkish girls are sexy and sensual and you think they could be a lot of fun . etc.... and that you have played with a few on the internet..... shame on you and sad too that you feel that you need to find someone on internet  to romance with. You must be a pretty sad charactor of a human  if you can´t find a normal relationship in your own country  and in real time. Seek help

 

 

 

 

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