You can tell it´s going to be a bad Monday when you arrive to work and you are wearing to different shoes.):

  I did that once!  The thing was I didn´t even NOTICE until nearly lunchtime!!! (but then, luckily, neither did anyone else and I managed to spend most of the afternoon with my feet under my desk!!)

 I was wondering why I was walking so wierd.  One heal is higher than the other.  I guess I´ll be at my desk all day too. hahaha

This is what I am thinking right now, hahaha:

Why do men get lazy in relationships? Because we let them. Some tips on how to prevent that from happening:

• Keep him out of his comfort zone by making rules early on, even if he doesn´t like them
• Make sure he realizes just how desirable you are to others
• Never become lazy yourself
• Don´t be at his beck and call
• Ensure you retain your friends, interests, vacations and activities to a degree
• Never allow him to think you are reliant on him
• Keep some of your finances separate
• Don´t always return his phone calls
• Don´t allow him to know what you are thinking all the time
• Socialize without him occasionally
• All domestic duties are shared, no excuses
• Threaten to dump him occasionally
• Use all your womanly powers that you employ so well in the early stages of dating
• Ensure you retain male friends you had before
• Do not run after him
• Go on vacation with your friends
  
• Change your mind about things occasionally and keep him guessing

A relationship is equal through and throught. Let him get the upper hand and allow him to become too comfortable and he will abuse the situation. Just make sure you don´t allow it to happen in the first place.

* Keep him out of his comfort zone by making rules early on, even if he doesn´t like them
well.. your choice really, you will be out ´in the market again soon´ ***

* Make sure he realizes just how desirable you are to others
dont do it with turkish men, you never know where ´wrath of his jealousy´ may land

* Never become lazy yourself
agreed 100%
* Don´t be at his beck and call
agreed 100%, give us a break
* Ensure you retain your friends, interests, vacations and activities to a degree
upto a degree, yes
* Never allow him to think you are reliant on him
* Keep some of your finances separate
much better for us too
* Don´t always return his phone calls
see *** ed answer above
* Don´t allow him to know what you are thinking all the time
we are not intrested about furniture, colour of the kitchen, your weight, colour of your hair type of things that much anyway..but good decision..dont let us know what you think all the time
* Socialize without him occasionally
upto a degree, yes. Otherwise, see *** ed answer above
* All domestic duties are shared, no excuses
* Threaten to dump him occasionally
remember the story of boy crying wolf?
* Use all your womanly powers that you employ so well in the early stages of dating
agreed..but not only in the earl stages..You should use ´all your womanly powers´ all the times
* Ensure you retain male friends you had before
see *** ed answer above
* Do not run after him
you can NOT stop it when you feel like running after a man
* Go on vacation with your friends
see *** ed answer above
* Change your mind about things occasionally and keep him guessing
This item is pointless..women always change their minds anyway

 This is absurd!....It sounds like a business negotiation...or buying a carpet in the bazzar....not developing a loving relationship.

You will never know love playing games like this.........

.....try being real....it works better..........

You are free to disagree, you know? But in all these idealistic relationships that start oh so promising, the woman ends up doing everything in no time - she does all the work to maintain the relationship, she does majority if not all the house chores, she has to take care of children and also has to have a job. And the man will go and cheat on her becasue "he didn´t get all he wanted in the relationship". Doesn´t sound all that loving to me. And while these tips sound mechanical now, I hope that women will learn to have higher expectations from their men and for themselves and hopefully men will eventually be forced to pick up the slack.

 Don´t you thoroughly contemplate your options, appearance and cost when purchasing a rug?  I think the same thing can apply to men.  Some women make hasty off the cuff decisions without giving a whole lof of thought into purchasing a rug.    If you a buy a rug just for it´s appearance and you don´t care about the quality, the rug may not last.

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I think that Alameda is talking about a very idealistic situation. She assumes that a man who loves his girlfriend/wife, will not abuse the wife´s kindness and love. I think this is very much removed from reality.

Of course, I agree that love has to be natural and felt, but we live in a physical world and some things just don´t depend on spirituality. When a person (man or a woman) knows he/she can get away with something, he/she most probably will eventually use this opportunity in one way or another.

Also the problem is that we do not live in an equal world. We do not start from the same spot. Men and women are raised very differently and I think that women are raised thinking that they need to please men, while men are taught to be more egocentric. Therefore, there has to be an active process to reverse this damage and get women on an equal footing with men. Only then, idealistic, true love that not only takes but also gives, can be possible.