Hello,

I am from Brazil and I knew a Turkish Girl in Canada. I am in love, and I can´t stop to think about this girl. Is this love possible? and what can I do to conquer a turkish girl?

Regards

Leandro

Leandro,
If you are one of those typical Brazilian men descibed by Nana [1], then I do not think that you have a chance, just forget about it. On the other hand, if you are among that special small percentage again explained by Nana [1], you might have a chance. In that case, I would refer you to Danny, since he is more experienced about these issues.

References:
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[1] Nana Brazil. Posting in forum "Turkish guys and marriage". 18 Feb 2005 Fri 02:40 am, turkishclass.com

Hey Leonardo
i will tell you some thing
u just love her and lover her more and call her and tell her that i am sure she will love you more than u think

I think u r asking the wrong questions my friend. I have lived in Turkey for 5 years and last weekend got engaged to a turkish girl twenty years younger than me. Personally I dont believe such a thing could have been achieved just through internet contact. The greatest thing is to be able to 'show yourself'. My fiancee was able to see me interact in a social manner, to see for herself how other people reacted to me, to 'observe' my social dimension. I dont want to sound like I am boasting, but somehow whatever I was doing impressed her, rather than the things I just said.
I was actually surprised when she commented that other people seem to respect me, astonished when one or two actions of mine, she said, made her feel proud of me. But most of all, she loves me because I NEVER PUT ANY PRESSURE ON HER TO DO SO. My friend, I dont know about your girl in Canada,
but if I know anything about women, never mind Turkish women, it is this: you get nowhere until she feels ready to come to you. You cannot achieve this with pressure, or flowers, or endless chat and e-mails. You must somehow show her your social dimension, that you are somebody she can believe would even impress her family, and especially her father. I leave it to you to work out how to do this over the Internet.

Very, very interesting conversation, guys. If you don't mind me joining.
Medracer,
it's wonderful that finally you could become a successful man and to conquer at least one girl (Not to say you are robbing a cradle) not that I am trying to say that it is easy to impress young girl's hearts, I am sure you are a smart and successful man, and probably not from some 3rd World coutry either. Anyway, Congratulations on Your Engagement, Sir!

Hopefully, for most of the guys here, it will not take forever to achieve something and to be able to find a soulmate or at least a girlfriend. For everyone there is a match. SO,GUYS, IF YOU THINK YOU ARE READY FOR SUCH RESPONSIBLE STEP AS CONQUERING A GIRL'S HEART, here are some hints on "how to", it does not metter if she is Turkish or any other nationality:
1.Remember that girls are sensitive creatures, they sense any lies more easily than you do, so be careful with what u tell them, try to be as honest and sencier as possible.
2.Girls, for most part, enjoy dating smart boys, preferably with higher education (so there is a little something for you to work on)
3.Girls like when guys tell them complements. It is very very TRUE. So,guys, try to learn a lot of beautiful Turkish (or in whatever language is her native) words that describe how beautiful, gracious and smart she is, because that's why you fell in love with her.
4. Girl likes when a guy talks... and usually about something that she likes, so learn what she likes and talk about it. IMPORTANT!!!Don't forget to stop and listen when she starts talking!!!
5.And YES!!! Call her, Give her flowers, Send her sms, Send her cards with sentimental notes, Send her emails, You are lucky if you can write a poem, she will REALLY REALLY APPRECIATE IT, SHE WILL BE IMPRESSED
!!!CONSTANTLY SHOW HER THAT YOU REALLY REALLY CARE!!!!
!!!WARNING!!!
If you don't see very much interest after trying hard for a while (I'd say at least a month)slow down, let her feel what it is like to be without your attention, she might start missing it (the power of conditioning). Just don't slow down completely, or someone else might steel her from you. If she still does not show very much interest - stop trying, she might be in love with someone else, or maybe you are not her type. BUT, GOOD NEWS! she might change her mind after while, girls do that alot. So,ocasionally, not too often, give her a call, send her a note or a buket of flowers with a card, just to let her know you are still there and still interested.
PATIENCE AND DEDICATION IS THE KEY TO ANY GIRLS HEART.
You are ready now!
BEST WISHES adn GOOD LUCK!

Er...I don't know about cradle-snatching...she's over 25 and doing her Masters now u know lol. Thanks for your congrats as well; just to put you in the picture, it definately made things easier that I also work alongside her at the school every day...we are now the darlings of all the staff and students, which is both fun and ...damned irritating! Looking back on the whole thing though, the most difficult part wasnt winning her over, but her grouchy old man and having to compete with her (I still shiver at certain memories) terrifyingly psycho ex-boyfriend! He still sends hate mail every so often. Maybe that's the most sobering thought you should bear in mind when trying to court a Turkish girl: be very prepared for trouble with her still ardent, unremitting exes!

How about forum subject "I know what to do to impress her parents"?! That might be useful and entertaining too

Well, I got a real cute story there, but I gotta ask her if I can tell it first...

Hey! I could relate so many things you too guys said.. Medracer I went into this impressioning episode in wish I also noticed I moved a lot forward when she said "I was so proud of you" after a dinner with her teacher where I got to speak about my studies and stuff. Too bad I like being humble, but that's true, it really moves you ahead to show up.

As for spoiling them as Trueorfalls say haha, it becomes adictive after a while to think about her, send her sms, flowers, write silly things to her, etc and it comes in a natural way since it gives you more motivation to see how much she likes it.. but I think this last point applies for most of those beautiful, admirable and smart human beings called women from any nationality around the world.

Oh and I also met askim in Canada.

hello i think you must be very patiant first ...then you must sacrifice many thing....then you must devote your life to her....and you mustnt give up ...always ask go out..she probably will say 'no' at first then at the second or 3rd time everything will be ok...
good luck