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Marriage between two faiths
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09 Jul 2007 Mon 05:43 pm |
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Quoting aenigma x:
You are on a good website then. People are here because they love Turkey. There are many many threads here where people praise the beautiful things about Turkey. Enjoy.
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Actually that's why I am trying to understand Catwoman's existence in this website. There's a contradiction between the nature of this website (As you stated above) and Catwoman's behaviour.
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09 Jul 2007 Mon 05:43 pm |
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Quoting libralady: Title of thread:
Marriage between two faiths
so what has happened? 
Oh I forgot, the norm - digression  |
Is it not ok to digress? I will repeat:
"I do understand that you may feel in some way offended that conversations go "off topic" and the normal reply to this is "that's nothing unusual at TC!" or "some people always spoil threads".
My opinion is that this is not unique to TC. It can happen in any conversation where the subject matter is of interest. People "bounce" off eachother's comments, maybe say something that another doesn't agree with, and the conversation flows into different directions.
You shouldn't take it personally just because you started the thread. I think you had some interesting and helpful replies to your question and alhough the discussion went off on another tangent towards the end I dont think it affected your thread by then. "
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09 Jul 2007 Mon 05:46 pm |
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Meltem the reason it turned into such a huge debate was because your comments to Asli not only hurt and insulted her (and her family), but appeared snobbish and elitist.
This is not some kind of "thread" bashing clique attacking "turks" - it just seemed very unjust and unfair.
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09 Jul 2007 Mon 05:47 pm |
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Quoting aenigma x: Quoting libralady: Title of thread:
Marriage between two faiths
so what has happened?
Oh I forgot, the norm - digression |
Is it not ok to digress? I will repeat:
"I do understand that you may feel in some way offended that conversations go "off topic" and the normal reply to this is "that's nothing unusual at TC!" or "some people always spoil threads".
My opinion is that this is not unique to TC. It can happen in any conversation where the subject matter is of interest. People "bounce" off eachother's comments, maybe say something that another doesn't agree with, and the conversation flows into different directions.
You shouldn't take it personally just because you started the thread. I think you had some interesting and helpful replies to your question and alhough the discussion went off on another tangent towards the end I dont think it affected your thread by then. "
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Hey? Uhmm I didn't start the thread, Loverprague did, and I am not offended, just pointing out the obvious as has been done many other times. I think "bounce" is a good word, or ever "batter" each other comments might also be appropriate  I aint that bovered............ 
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09 Jul 2007 Mon 05:49 pm |
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Quoting libralady: Hey? Uhmm I didn't start the thread, Loverprague did, and I am not offended, just pointing out the obvious as has been done many other times. I think "bounce" is a good word, or ever "batter" each other comments might also be appropriate I aint that bovered............ |
I know. I was quoting my post to Loveprague. And...Libralady, its very easy to acuse ME of battering and "pulling people to shreds" but have you ACTUALLY read this thread? I am not the one doing the "battering" !
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09 Jul 2007 Mon 05:51 pm |
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Quoting aenigma x: Quoting libralady: Hey? Uhmm I didn't start the thread, Loverprague did, and I am not offended, just pointing out the obvious as has been done many other times. I think "bounce" is a good word, or ever "batter" each other comments might also be appropriate I aint that bovered............ |
I know. I was quoting my post to Loveprague. And...Libralady, its very easy to acuse ME of battering and "pulling people to shreds" but have you ACTUALLY read this thread? I am not the one doing the "battering" ! |
Sorry that was not clear, I wil stop stalking now! and get on with some work, just ticking over before I leave this god forsaken job and start my new one in 4 weeks time 
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09 Jul 2007 Mon 05:54 pm |
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Quoting aenigma x: Meltem the reason it turned into such a huge debate was because your comments to Asli not only hurt and insulted her (and her family), but appeared snobbish and elitist.
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I did not insult her or her family nor did I any snobbishness. But on the contrary, I felt insulted in the name of the modern people of Turkey.
I said all that need to be said about my intentions, so I think it's clear now.
And if Aslı felt insulted (even if I didn't insult her) sorry as she is my older.
But we should be careful about the way we make our statements in the name of Turkey.
My reactions could be extreme for some, it might be true because I am sensible about Turkey in the international platform more than certain maybe.
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09 Jul 2007 Mon 06:00 pm |
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Quoting mltm: I did not insult her or her family nor did I any snobbishness. But on the contrary, I felt insulted in the name of the modern people of Turkey.. |
Well, I think her post shows she WAS insulted and I think you should have apologised.
I DO understand you better now and agree there has been some misunderstanding here and think we should try and DROP THIS SUBJECT
Apologies to you for misunderstanding your comments. There are some things though, that perhaps we will never agree on 
Quoting aslı: Sorry Mltm I will not argue my precious family's truth with someone who is insulting them being unintellectual and gipsy! You are around 24 and single I think. At that age things are blur and insulting is easy. You said you are native in İstanbul. From that, I assume that you will marry on a church or sinagog. Take my advice, do not take something old something blue, something new. Or do not brake a glass under your feet. Because all you defend before will goes right through the garbage. Traditions does not have to have meanings. We are doing them they are harmless and belongs to us. By the way about that ribbon, right after the tying, before my hubby comes to take me to ceremony, ı took that off and still keeping it in my drawer. Cose my dad once touch it while he was burst in tears and wishing me luck and happiness in my new life. I wish you have something like that to keep memories alive, and makes you smile everytime you touch it. |
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09 Jul 2007 Mon 06:22 pm |
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Quoting Gizli Yuz: Actually that's why I am trying to understand Catwoman's existence in this website. |
It doesn't take much to understand YOUR existence on this website? I assume your role as "teacher" means you have to check out the profiles of all the girls logged in? 
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09 Jul 2007 Mon 06:26 pm |
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Quoting aenigma x:
Apologies to you for misunderstanding your comments. There are some things though, that perhaps we will never agree on |
Thank you for the maturity you showed. I took your apologies and as courtesy I apologize if I looked snobbish and insulting.
I hope we will always have things that we do not agree on, because the day I can not find anthing to disagree on with you, my existance in the forum won't have the meaning it has today
For aslı,
I think she took my words very personally and she thought very sentimentally instead of getting the logic under my anger and discontent.
Quoting aslı: I wish you have something like that to keep memories alive, and makes you smile everytime you touch it. |
She took it so emotionally that she even defended her "virginity ribbon" and she wished me such a memory. It could be a memory from his father but it was not the point. This all shows that she got me wrong.
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09 Jul 2007 Mon 06:31 pm |
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Quoting mltm: I hope we will always have things that we do not agree on, because the day I can not find anthing to disagree on with you, my existance in the forum won't have the meaning it has today
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Hehehehe! Ditto
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