hi there,

i was wondering what most men from turkey would think of foreign divorced women. I know someone very close who married young (2 and unfortunately the man didnt turn out to be who he had represented before marriage and they barely spent any time together because they lived seperately anyways (two different coutnries for particular reasons) and so divorced after 2 year. She has now fallen in love with a turkish man but hasnt told him what happened yet because she is afraid he will reject her. Do turkish men frown upon this? And what do u think would happen?

My friends mother was beaten by her alcoholic husband and then he left her to fend for herself with 2 little boys to look after. They r still not divorced 17 years later. she doesn't want to get divorced because of the stigma attached to it. When I asked my friend why she couldn't get divorced because all these years of her life have been wasted when she could have met someone else and lived a full and happy life. He told me that she could never get divorced, he and his brother would never let her have another man and anyway she didn't need a man because she had him and his brother and the house to look after.

I tentatively pointed out that as a woman, she might have needs of her own that couldn't be met by her sons and cleaning the house and he just couldn't stop laughing at the idea! Sigh...........

so does this mean if this women tells her bf of her past he will pretty much ditch her ...(she has no kids and never thought of divorce but he her ex made it so)

Selam Cheeky,

WOW! Lyndies story is so sad I wish that lady could just leave. If only for her happiness who knows's if she would Marry again but I'd rather be alone than live that way. I am sad for the 2 boys too as they did not see a happy home and probably were traumatized in some manner by seeing such horrible beliefs I feel stigma may turn to be generational for those boys I pray that does not happen. I also pray for their mother as life is too short to live so un-happily.


As for you Doll I don't know of Traditional ways or just plain evil as the man Lyndie spoke of ,(Sterio types) of your love/Turkish guy but I am sure (I Hope Not) this does not apply to everyone. You have no reason to doubt yourself or relationship as I (and he may too) admire you for standing up for yourself/your life and leaving for what ever the reason may be it turned out as it did. Your love/man should just be happy that you are with him now and count his blessings.My Turkish guy has not passed judgement on me for my past loves and lost's.....................I never married but had a child and stayed with his father way to long and he was a drunk too. I was young
I did leave after 5 years and.....blah......Don't Worry So.

Anyway's I wish you and your Love the best of luck and happiness Take care!!!!!


Peace & Happiness & Love:

Tsarevna Stacia

Kelley



Cheeky one more thing

Hmmm.. Im still not sure, i understand there are exceptions, but it would be so hard to tell your partner your past, especially if you believe marriage is forever and ur past shows it is not.

it looks so hard to tell someone your past even though u love them so much. i think the consequences can be either good or bad. And it would be a shame to lose the love of your life, the true love you found because of a past bad choice.

what to do and is a very honest person, but is finding confrontation hard (they are apart at the moment) but will inshaallah be together soon

HEY SWEETIE

JUST DO AS YOUR HEART TELLS YOU. I DON'T SEE WHY HE NEEDS

TO KNOW YOU ARE THE SAME LADY HE FELL IN LOVE WITH AND

YOUR PAST IS THE PAST. I AM A VERY HONEST PERSON TO BUT

SOMETIMES TO SAY NOTHING IS NOT AS A LIE. YOU HAVE NO

CHILDREN BY YOUR EX RIGHT. I HOPE YOU CAN FIND PEACE

IN YOUR DILEMMA AND FOCUS ALL YOUR ENERGY ON YOUR TRUE LOVE!

TAKE CARE BYESSSSSSS

Peace & Love
& Happiness to all,

Tsarevna Stacia
Kelley

Hey, is it my idea or u r exaggerating? The fact that he is a Turk doesn't mean that he is living in the 15th century. I m sure he can handle ur divorce.
I m also divorced and i have a kid. My friends in turkey have always admired the way i m handling my life, being a mother and a father at the same time. I never realized a sign of disapproval in their behavior. Of course, their beliefs change from region to region and i ve heard that at the anatolian part of turkey, men are more strict. But i ve never met anybody from the eastern part of turkey, so i can't be sure.
I strongly believe that u shouldn't lie to him. Being honest is always better and more appreciated. After all, what do u have to hide?
Take care

Hi there

sorry i am not exagerrating. just havent been in a position where I fully love a guy enough after my ex to tell them about my past Im sure others can vouche for that. I find it difficult and am interested in the minds of turkish men. cultures are quite different and since im not a turkish woman i couldnt answer it myself. its notlying about the situation, it just hasnt come up in conversation. Its scary I think

Hi interested in your replies, my male friend (to old to call a bf) he is Turkish and divorced. He married an English girl but she was not happy living in Turkey and he did not want to live in England so their marriage did not work.
There are modern men in Turkey, my friend does still have some old fashioned ideas and can be very bossy but he respects me when I stand up for myself.

Best of luck to every one with a Turkish love.