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Turkish Boyfriends and Girlfriends.
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16 Dec 2009 Wed 12:11 am |
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Same here. I introduced my parents to lots of guys, it´s not out of the ordinary to have boys as friends or even date someone for a few months. Sorry Lis you are Traditional!
Young unmarried ladies beware !
Technically speaking - for all guys, other than those with Turkish origins - the introduction process should involve an introduction of the guys to the parents, and not as described above.
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16 Dec 2009 Wed 10:39 am |
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As you know well, friendship and marriage are different things.
This is a Turkish proverb : “ Davulun sesi uzaktan hoş gelir…”
I understand you very well.
Because I have friends from Samos and Crete islands; Athene and Selanik cities, and England (London).And I have been to Cyprus before.
I consider Türkiye, Greece, Romania, Bulgaria, Albania, Cyprus, other neighbours have similar / same social, traditional, historical culture and background.
Turkish and Western friends do not mix well generally : Different cultures...
I want to beieve.
I of course respect western science, culture and civilization.
But : I think and I see most of Turkish and Western social, religious, traditional and cultural rules, prejudices, standarts, norms and thoughts are not same.
There are some adaptation, adjustment, modification, reorganization and restruction problems.
Don’t count apples with pears.
ALL RELATIONSHIPS AND PARTICULARLY MARRIAGE REQUIRE LABOUR, CULTURE, KNOWLEDGE, UNDERSTANDING AND TOLERANCE regardless OF WHERE YOU COME FROM AND IT´S AN ONGOING LABOUR OF LOVE... YOU SEEM TO HAVE FORGOTTEN TO MENTION LOVE... 
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16 Dec 2009 Wed 11:01 am |
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I´m so traditional I introduced only one guy in my entire life to my family. If I´m not sure about the future with a guy, no way he´s seeing my family. Don´t want to have the "we broke up" talk with my grandma 
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16 Dec 2009 Wed 08:44 pm |
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I´m so traditional I introduced only one guy in my entire life to my family. If I´m not sure about the future with a guy, no way he´s seeing my family. Don´t want to have the "we broke up" talk with my grandma
Hmmm....that´s interesting..........and I just can´t help but ask....what was,who is, was/where is that guy now? Did you have to have that talk with your grandma?
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16 Dec 2009 Wed 11:56 pm |
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Hmmm....that´s interesting..........and I just can´t help but ask....what was,who is, was/where is that guy now? Did you have to have that talk with your grandma?
He went to the bank to get some money with my bankcard...he just told me his grandfather needs money for an operation, his sister needs money for shoes, and his brother needs money for school... Well, he went to the bank about two months ago... I wonder why he isn´t back yet... do you think something might have happened? 
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17 Dec 2009 Thu 09:51 am |
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He went to the bank to get some money with my bankcard...he just told me his grandfather needs money for an operation, his sister needs money for shoes, and his brother needs money for school... Well, he went to the bank about two months ago... I wonder why he isn´t back yet... do you think something might have happened?
Be patient, he still loves you. It´s just that his grandfather got very sick and he needs to look after him now as the grandfather has nobody else to help him. The grandfather has no phone, and the new mobile you bought your boyfriend is broken. He will send a letter explaining everything soon. He misses you so much. 
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17 Dec 2009 Thu 12:21 pm |
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Be patient, he still loves you. It´s just that his grandfather got very sick and he needs to look after him now as the grandfather has nobody else to help him. The grandfather has no phone, and the new mobile you bought your boyfriend is broken. He will send a letter explaining everything soon. He misses you so much.
...explaining everything and asking for your 2nd bank card details... 
Ive been reading over lots of posts in these forums regarding relationships with Turkish men and i have to say i am quite dissapointed. I am in my first relationship with a Turkish man, and i regard him to be the sweetest man i have ever met. Ive always said how he is so romantic with his words...and he told me he loved me after three days together. I thought this was because i simply swept him off his feet, but it appears that most Turkish men are quick to share their feelings of love for a woman. I have realised im probabaly not that special, its just in his/Turkish mens nature.
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17 Dec 2009 Thu 04:28 pm |
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I have realised im probabaly not that special, its just in his/Turkish mens nature.
You probably are very special.....but don´t ever let any man decide whether you are or not!
My personal moto: Always hold yourself with the highest regard, it will make you invulnerable to the lies of men.
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18 Dec 2009 Fri 12:45 am |
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You probably are very special.....but don´t ever let any man decide whether you are or not!
My personal moto: Always hold yourself with the highest regard, it will make you invulnerable to the lies of men.
I agree!
And with regard to the guy who said I love you.. what is most important are not his words, but his actions. Talk is cheap If he SHOWS you that he loves you, he might just be as in love as he says he is
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18 Dec 2009 Fri 12:50 am |
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You probably are very special.....but don´t ever let any man decide whether you are or not!
My personal moto: Always hold yourself with the highest regard, it will make you invulnerable to the lies of men.
But i never felt special before i met him. I guess i will learn, in time, confidence growing etc.
Oh and, im going to try and remember your moto 
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18 Dec 2009 Fri 01:38 am |
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But i never felt special before i met him. I guess i will learn, in time, confidence growing etc.
Oh and, im going to try and remember your moto
Confidence can help you start things up ! But you still wont have any real control over what will happen next !
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