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Male-Female Friendships in Turkey
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04 Dec 2006 Mon 09:00 pm |
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Quoting KeithL: I think in all close male-female friendships, one of the two has romantic interest in the other. |
Sorry to say Keith, but what an old-fashioned opinion. I have male-friends I am absolutely not romantically interested in and they not in me - and no, they are not gay!
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04 Dec 2006 Mon 09:05 pm |
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Quoting Trudy: Quoting KeithL: I think in all close male-female friendships, one of the two has romantic interest in the other. |
Sorry to say Keith, but what an old-fashioned opinion. I have male-friends I am absolutely not romantically involved and they not in me - and no, they are not gay! |
Here here Trudy! some of my best friends are males and I think it is great if not sometimes better to have a friend who is so close to you, of the opposite sex....and some of my male friends also agree, becuase in some circumstances a male/female can talk about something to the same sex and find it easier to talk to the opposite sex.
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04 Dec 2006 Mon 09:11 pm |
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Agreed Trudy, it may be an old-fashioned opinion.
But I think the friendship you are speaking of is soooooooo rare.
And I dont mean that one of the two wants the other as a boyfriend or girlfriend. I am taking the lowest viewpoint on this and asking, given the chance, would the guy sleep with his female friend given the opportunity (at least once). And I am sure there are friendships out there where it is the woman who would sleep with the guy.
I would accept that there are business relationships out there where this is not the case.
Very sorry if I have offended you or worded this wrong...
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04 Dec 2006 Mon 09:18 pm |
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Quoting Trudy: Quoting KeithL: I think in all close male-female friendships, one of the two has romantic interest in the other. |
Sorry to say Keith, but what an old-fashioned opinion. I have male-friends I am absolutely not romantically interested in and they not in me - and no, they are not gay! |
I wouldn't put it as strongly as KeithL does, I wouldn't say it goes for all, but there is definitely more than some truth in what he says..
Maybe those kinds of friendships develop into 'normal' friendship after one of the two realises that there will never be any romance. And in order not to lose the friendship, one of the two drops the illusion of romance..
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04 Dec 2006 Mon 09:20 pm |
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Quoting KeithL: Agreed Trudy, it may be an old-fashioned opinion.
But I think the friendship you are speaking of is soooooooo rare.
And I dont mean that one of the two wants the other as a boyfriend or girlfriend. I am taking the lowest viewpoint on this and asking, given the chance, would the guy sleep with his female friend given the opportunity (at least once). And I am sure there are friendships out there where it is the woman who would sleep with the guy.
I would accept that there are business relationships out there where this is not the case.
Very sorry if I have offended you or worded this wrong...
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Why do you think I am offended? That's not so easy to do...  . And of course there are 'platonic' friendships where more would happen if there was a chance. But also just friends, not business ones but like Kai said: sometimes it is easier to talk for me with a man about certain things than with a woman.
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04 Dec 2006 Mon 09:20 pm |
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I did back down going from "all" to "rarely" by the way....
And I dont think internet friendships count. I am also keeping this to friendships where the people actually hang out together.
(I say this so no one here thinks I'm staulking them! )
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04 Dec 2006 Mon 09:27 pm |
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Quoting KeithL: (I say this so no one here thinks I'm staulking them! ) |
Got trapped in your own rhetoric I see! 
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04 Dec 2006 Mon 09:29 pm |
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Quoting biklzz: I have question for those who understand Turkish culture. Do male-female friendships exist in Turkey that aren't necessarily tied to work or some professional function? Friendships where you would ask the person (say the boy asks the girl) to go get something to eat after a class. Or, possibly, asking a girl out for a date/dinner.
I thought this thread was supposed to be about male-female friendships between people LIVING IN TURKEY. I don't think comments about how things work in the UK, Holland or anywhere else are really relevant here. |
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04 Dec 2006 Mon 09:30 pm |
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when you wonder somethings about Turkish people or Turkish culture,theres never only 1 answer of this questions.Turkish culture not homogen,and you can see 2 different life style basical (traditional and popular Turkish cultures) u can see all simplicites ,honesty ,paradoxes in Turkish culture with its all own while popular culture trying to look like other cultures.So always many answers of a same question for Turkish people..realities of traditional and popular cultures' so different from each other,look likes difference of white and black
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04 Dec 2006 Mon 09:33 pm |
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Quoting Capoeira: Quoting KeithL: (I say this so no one here thinks I'm staulking them! ) |
Got trapped in your own rhetoric I see! |
I'm not backing down Cap.....Like I said, I don't want to scare you...I mean anyone. 
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04 Dec 2006 Mon 09:34 pm |
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Quoting lady in red:
I thought this thread was supposed to be about male-female friendships between people LIVING IN TURKEY. I don't think comments about how things work in the UK, Holland or anywhere else are really relevant here. |
 Don't tell me "they" went and got off topic again!
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