okay guys im in a bit of a situation what can i do? my husbands sister was married to a guy for 15 years they have 2older children together in turkey, the guy came to the uk 9 years ago. He claimed asylum and 4 years ago decided to marry an english woman here so that meant he had to divorce my sister in law. She didnt really have much choice and agreed . Now he is married to a english woman . He has lied to his english wife tellling her his ex wife no longer lives in that village but infact she lives in his house all year round. Not only that he has had a baby with his turkish wife and his english wife doesnt have any idea.I think the english wife deserves to know that her husband has a child and is still sending his turkish wife money.the english woman knows about his 2 older children but not the baby . What should I do if i tell this lady whats going on I risk losing everything. HELP

I can understand you wanting to help this english woman by telling her the truth about her turkish husband, but I wouldn't get myself involved especially being yourself married to a turkish man. Turkish men do not like for others to know about their personal marriage business, so I'am sure your husband would not approve of you getting involved in this couple's situation by you telling her what you know about him, ex-turkish wife and the baby.

Best to let this woman find out the truth on her own because eventually she will find out about it sooner or later because always the truth comes out at the end.

I'am sorry to sound so cold, but I also have a friend also in a similar situation except that he did not divorce his turkish wife, but rather want to have both women. Sad isn't it about what some of these men do and how they hurt women, but as most here would say 'there are men like these all over the world'

It sounds very harsh, but this is actually none of your business and I wonder why you feel you should get involved? You obviously feel your loyalty lies with your sister-in-law so are you thinking that by telling this English woman about the baby you will cause problems in her relationship?

In any situation like this, you should stay out of it. Disclosing anyone else's secrets (however morally justified you think you may be) only causes upset and argument. In addition, people DO tend to shoot the messenger

Am I the only one who thinks that what this man has done is absolutely disgusting, not to mention that bigamy is illegal? If he has a baby with the turkish woman, that means they're still together. I understand that you don't want to ruin your own situation, and I don't encourage you to tell her.

But generally, regardless if you're turkish married, russian married or whatever it is downright wrong, this situation is horrible and I can't even begin to explain my sympathy for this english woman. This isn't about respecting turkish customs or political correctness, this is about human and womens rights.

Still, I would probably not say anything, at least not personally. Perhaps drop her an anonymous letter or invite her for a holiday in Turkey so there's a slight chance this woman can get rid of her so-called husband. Nobody deserves this kind of betrayal.